Intro & questions about moving back
Apr 27th 2009, 9:29 am
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Intro & questions about moving back
Hi,I'm Andrew (but you can also call me Faolan).
I'm new here so I'll do a brief intro,I'm 22 years old and I've lived in New Zealand since I was 7.I was born in Chester and I grew up in Blacon which I suppose to all intents and purposes Chester as well.Although I have spent most of my life In NZ I've never felt truly at home the first impression of kiwis has never left me and it is not a positive one to put it mildly-further impressions sadly only re-enforced it. When my dad,sister and I came here,I had no idea that we wouldn't be going back home and despite all the fun and opportunities I've had here the desire to go home is still there.I was once told that being away meant that I was viewing England "through rose tinted glasses" Is this true? is it foolish of me to want to be surrounded by my culture to see,feel,hear and even smell my homeland?
I'm new here so I'll do a brief intro,I'm 22 years old and I've lived in New Zealand since I was 7.I was born in Chester and I grew up in Blacon which I suppose to all intents and purposes Chester as well.Although I have spent most of my life In NZ I've never felt truly at home the first impression of kiwis has never left me and it is not a positive one to put it mildly-further impressions sadly only re-enforced it. When my dad,sister and I came here,I had no idea that we wouldn't be going back home and despite all the fun and opportunities I've had here the desire to go home is still there.I was once told that being away meant that I was viewing England "through rose tinted glasses" Is this true? is it foolish of me to want to be surrounded by my culture to see,feel,hear and even smell my homeland?
Apr 27th 2009, 9:46 am
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Re: Intro & questions about moving back
Hi,I'm Andrew (but you can also call me Faolan).
I'm new here so I'll do a brief intro,I'm 22 years old and I've lived in New Zealand since I was 7.I was born in Chester and I grew up in Blacon which I suppose to all intents and purposes Chester as well.Although I have spent most of my life In NZ I've never felt truly at home the first impression of kiwis has never left me and it is not a positive one to put it mildly-further impressions sadly only re-enforced it. When my dad,sister and I came here,I had no idea that we wouldn't be going back home and despite all the fun and opportunities I've had here the desire to go home is still there.I was once told that being away meant that I was viewing England "through rose tinted glasses" Is this true? is it foolish of me to want to be surrounded by my culture to see,feel,hear and even smell my homeland?
I'm new here so I'll do a brief intro,I'm 22 years old and I've lived in New Zealand since I was 7.I was born in Chester and I grew up in Blacon which I suppose to all intents and purposes Chester as well.Although I have spent most of my life In NZ I've never felt truly at home the first impression of kiwis has never left me and it is not a positive one to put it mildly-further impressions sadly only re-enforced it. When my dad,sister and I came here,I had no idea that we wouldn't be going back home and despite all the fun and opportunities I've had here the desire to go home is still there.I was once told that being away meant that I was viewing England "through rose tinted glasses" Is this true? is it foolish of me to want to be surrounded by my culture to see,feel,hear and even smell my homeland?
At 22 im sure you'll have a right laugh back in England. With dual nationality, im guessing you have two, once you've got bored of the bright lights you can always go back to NZL. I consider myself very lucky having two nationalities especially one of those being European Union.
I spent two weeks in NZL once... once.
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Apr 27th 2009, 9:54 am
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Re: Intro & questions about moving back
I think it is human nature to see the grass being greener on the other side, but so what? You have the mobility that comes with being 22 so just give UK a try if that is where you feel pulled too.
Apr 27th 2009, 10:08 am
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Re: Intro & questions about moving back
Hi Andrew,
You will love the UK I am sure, and do all that someone of you age will do, but whilst I understand how you feel the UK to be your homeland, it's not your culture and won't be until you are there and have taken on board all that is different.
Good luck.
You will love the UK I am sure, and do all that someone of you age will do, but whilst I understand how you feel the UK to be your homeland, it's not your culture and won't be until you are there and have taken on board all that is different.
Good luck.
Apr 27th 2009, 8:14 pm
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Re: Intro & questions about moving back
Hi,I'm Andrew (but you can also call me Faolan).
I'm new here so I'll do a brief intro,I'm 22 years old and I've lived in New Zealand since I was 7.I was born in Chester and I grew up in Blacon which I suppose to all intents and purposes Chester as well.Although I have spent most of my life In NZ I've never felt truly at home the first impression of kiwis has never left me and it is not a positive one to put it mildly-further impressions sadly only re-enforced it. When my dad,sister and I came here,I had no idea that we wouldn't be going back home and despite all the fun and opportunities I've had here the desire to go home is still there.I was once told that being away meant that I was viewing England "through rose tinted glasses" Is this true? is it foolish of me to want to be surrounded by my culture to see,feel,hear and even smell my homeland?
I'm new here so I'll do a brief intro,I'm 22 years old and I've lived in New Zealand since I was 7.I was born in Chester and I grew up in Blacon which I suppose to all intents and purposes Chester as well.Although I have spent most of my life In NZ I've never felt truly at home the first impression of kiwis has never left me and it is not a positive one to put it mildly-further impressions sadly only re-enforced it. When my dad,sister and I came here,I had no idea that we wouldn't be going back home and despite all the fun and opportunities I've had here the desire to go home is still there.I was once told that being away meant that I was viewing England "through rose tinted glasses" Is this true? is it foolish of me to want to be surrounded by my culture to see,feel,hear and even smell my homeland?
(Justin case you want to go back)
Apr 27th 2009, 8:41 pm
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Re: Intro & questions about moving back
I'm assuming you've not been back, Andrew?
I doubt you have any memories of substance. My kids can't remember much about places they lived at seven and younger then left. That's neither here nor there. I only mean that whatever's pulling at you isn't rose-tinted memories.
Is your family unhappy to have you far away? Are they pressuring you to stay?
You feel pretty sure that NZ isn't for you, and no one can accuse you of not giving it a try! So yes, I think you should go back to the UK for a while and see. Lots of young people live abroad for a few years, so it's really no big deal. Just think of it as a year or two to begin with. You might end up moving on to a third location, and that's fine, too.
I'm assuming you have the means to support yourself, find a job, etc etc.
Bon voyage,
Bev
I doubt you have any memories of substance. My kids can't remember much about places they lived at seven and younger then left. That's neither here nor there. I only mean that whatever's pulling at you isn't rose-tinted memories.
Is your family unhappy to have you far away? Are they pressuring you to stay?
You feel pretty sure that NZ isn't for you, and no one can accuse you of not giving it a try! So yes, I think you should go back to the UK for a while and see. Lots of young people live abroad for a few years, so it's really no big deal. Just think of it as a year or two to begin with. You might end up moving on to a third location, and that's fine, too.
I'm assuming you have the means to support yourself, find a job, etc etc.
Bon voyage,
Bev
Apr 27th 2009, 9:00 pm
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Re: Intro & questions about moving back
I'm assuming you've not been back, Andrew?
I doubt you have any memories of substance. My kids can't remember much about places they lived at seven and younger then left. That's neither here nor there. I only mean that whatever's pulling at you isn't rose-tinted memories.
Is your family unhappy to have you far away? Are they pressuring you to stay?
You feel pretty sure that NZ isn't for you, and no one can accuse you of not giving it a try! So yes, I think you should go back to the UK for a while and see. Lots of young people live abroad for a few years, so it's really no big deal. Just think of it as a year or two to begin with. You might end up moving on to a third location, and that's fine, too.
I'm assuming you have the means to support yourself, find a job, etc etc.
Bon voyage,
Bev
I doubt you have any memories of substance. My kids can't remember much about places they lived at seven and younger then left. That's neither here nor there. I only mean that whatever's pulling at you isn't rose-tinted memories.
Is your family unhappy to have you far away? Are they pressuring you to stay?
You feel pretty sure that NZ isn't for you, and no one can accuse you of not giving it a try! So yes, I think you should go back to the UK for a while and see. Lots of young people live abroad for a few years, so it's really no big deal. Just think of it as a year or two to begin with. You might end up moving on to a third location, and that's fine, too.
I'm assuming you have the means to support yourself, find a job, etc etc.
Bon voyage,
Bev
so in closing thanks for the advice and I'll continue to figure things out in the meantime.
Apr 27th 2009, 9:53 pm
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Re: Intro & questions about moving back
Any country when seen from afar can have the rose tinted, grass is greener effect.
Whenever, I think of the UK and London especially, I think of home, the people, etc. However, whenever I go for a visit, I experience the traffic, weather, the crowds, slightly run down feel, etc that I had 'forgotten'.
For me though, the UK and London will always be home. My family and friends are all there and I have realised they mean more to me than the negatives.
Whenever, I think of the UK and London especially, I think of home, the people, etc. However, whenever I go for a visit, I experience the traffic, weather, the crowds, slightly run down feel, etc that I had 'forgotten'.
For me though, the UK and London will always be home. My family and friends are all there and I have realised they mean more to me than the negatives.
Apr 28th 2009, 1:03 am
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Celtic Prince - you have to go - if you're disappointed you still have a home in NZ. Treat it as a holiday and if you love it as much as you think you will, then stay!
Apr 28th 2009, 2:03 am
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Re: Intro & questions about moving back
Hi,I'm Andrew (but you can also call me Faolan).
I'm new here so I'll do a brief intro,I'm 22 years old and I've lived in New Zealand since I was 7.I was born in Chester and I grew up in Blacon which I suppose to all intents and purposes Chester as well.Although I have spent most of my life In NZ I've never felt truly at home the first impression of kiwis has never left me and it is not a positive one to put it mildly-further impressions sadly only re-enforced it. When my dad,sister and I came here,I had no idea that we wouldn't be going back home and despite all the fun and opportunities I've had here the desire to go home is still there.I was once told that being away meant that I was viewing England "through rose tinted glasses" Is this true? is it foolish of me to want to be surrounded by my culture to see,feel,hear and even smell my homeland?
I'm new here so I'll do a brief intro,I'm 22 years old and I've lived in New Zealand since I was 7.I was born in Chester and I grew up in Blacon which I suppose to all intents and purposes Chester as well.Although I have spent most of my life In NZ I've never felt truly at home the first impression of kiwis has never left me and it is not a positive one to put it mildly-further impressions sadly only re-enforced it. When my dad,sister and I came here,I had no idea that we wouldn't be going back home and despite all the fun and opportunities I've had here the desire to go home is still there.I was once told that being away meant that I was viewing England "through rose tinted glasses" Is this true? is it foolish of me to want to be surrounded by my culture to see,feel,hear and even smell my homeland?
If you haven't got your NZ citizenship, then apply for it and don't even think about any kind of move until you are sworn in as a citizen.
Apr 28th 2009, 8:18 am
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Re: Intro & questions about moving back
Top advice.
