i want to return, US hubby doesn't. Crisis point.
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Re: i want to return, US hubby doesn't. Crisis point.
Where, and how, is pannacotta?! I so wish she would come back and tell us....I have just read all these posts without paying proper attention to the date, or perhaps it's that I forgot we are in 2019 now and the date looked current to me...!! Whichever, it was a terrible shock to realise that those posts were from a year ago now. I found her difficult situation so moving and compelling.
Of course, that's because it rang personal bells with me. It made we realise how lucky I am that my own US spouse did agree to come back with meāeven if I did have to wait until the children were grown up, and he retired (at least he did retire, whereas pannacotta fears hers never will); and even if he does find it difficult....
Yes, "third country," "blooming where planted," -- there's wisdom in this, and I bloomed like crazy, and got massively involved in all sorts of things, but it never assuaged the profound need to be "at home,' although, like pannacotta, I feel I am good at adjusting, making the best of things, enjoying different countries, etc. Some things are just too deep a part of who you are.
I do wish she would update us. Though her situation was so difficult, I realise there will be pain of one sort or another, whatever has happened.
Of course, that's because it rang personal bells with me. It made we realise how lucky I am that my own US spouse did agree to come back with meāeven if I did have to wait until the children were grown up, and he retired (at least he did retire, whereas pannacotta fears hers never will); and even if he does find it difficult....
Yes, "third country," "blooming where planted," -- there's wisdom in this, and I bloomed like crazy, and got massively involved in all sorts of things, but it never assuaged the profound need to be "at home,' although, like pannacotta, I feel I am good at adjusting, making the best of things, enjoying different countries, etc. Some things are just too deep a part of who you are.
I do wish she would update us. Though her situation was so difficult, I realise there will be pain of one sort or another, whatever has happened.