kez81

After 20 mths here my homesickness is as strong as ever, its great when family/friends come over but for about a week after they leave im so down in the dump, expecting a baby in August my mum and dad are going to come over for 3 weeks then god knows what i will be like when they go back

Follow your heart and do what's best for you, your lucky to have such a supportive husband.

kez

Beryl the Peril

That was a joke, right?

TraceyW

You never quite know

northernbird

now what the hell was so contentious about my post. The smiley gave it away I thought. Most people know I am a Lancastrian.

daisylilymum

If you're really unhappy, go home. Don't suffer.
If you can then maybe stay 'til Christmas & really pack in all the touristy things & make the most of a bad situation. Make it into a LONG holiday? It may make it more bearable?

TraceyW

I didn't. I just thought you were an 'argumentative' !!

northernbird

yes I can be. Of late I have tried to restrain myself. It was affecting me away from the site which is not a good thing.

MrsB

I'd hang in there and just pretend it's one looooooooooooooong holiday!

That's what I'm doing anyhow - been "on holiday" now for over 2 years! It's just an adventure!

Try to keep positive and don't think of it as "forever" - there's nothing stopping you going home one day (this is what I keep telling myself anyway!!!)

seasprite

I felt like this not so long ago.... I was confused, guilty, sad...very sad. Someone replied to my post saying " if you are miserable come back". It was that simple in the end! My heart ached for England and the thought of years more in Oz would destroy me. We also wanted to get on with baby number 3 and this has already been delayed 6 months. At my age I need to get cracking. The thought of bringing a child into the world in Oz horrified me. Stuff everyone else and do what is right for you. It is easier once the decision is made.
I hope it is a clearcut for you as it was for me in the end.

Goldend Dreamer

We returned after 3 months - I was so full of euphoria on the plane back that I could have burst!

Our marriage almost crumbled but we are over it now and happier than we have ever been!

England is a wonderful place & "the grass is not always greener on the other side!".

My eldest daughter hated it in Oz and is loving her teenage life back in Yorkshire!

We are considering going back for a couple of years to that we have the option to retire there later in life but have decided that Oz is not for us permanently.

We are waiting until my eldest daughter finishes her exams in Sept 08 - then we may (& only may try it again). We have until April 2010 to try again. My daughter has already told us that she will not be comin back with and will be staying in Yorkshire to live with her Grandma!

I love it in Yorkshire and there is no better place in the world - but adventure is calling us again!

Beryl the Peril

At the risk of sounding rude, which is not my intention at all, this does sound like a contradiction. Why would you retire to Oz, when you clearly say Oz is not for you permanently? I'm not judging you, but my own take on it is that the older you get, the MORE you need your friends and family around you. Even at 50-something, I feel this very much so. Largely our main reason for going back to UK. You sound so happy in Yorkshire, and your kids. I'd seriously think about staying there, rather than isolating yourselves on the other side of the world again. You, as I would imagine most of us, will really be glad to be near our nearest and dearest in later life.

Goldend Dreamer

Yes you are right in what you say but it is a "keeping our options" open thing!

We are lucky enough to have the choice. Time will tell but I'm in no rush to get back to Oz - just yet!?*

We travelled loads whilst we were there and eventually drove across the Nullabor from Brisbane to Perth before deciding to come back.

Time wil tell x

Beryl the Peril

I take your point. We are returning to England in July (been in Perth for just two years now!) and even though there are things we will obvisouly miss (not least, the blue sky and stunning ocean) there's little else that would keep me here. But who knows, our son may decide to live out here again one day (he's 16 now) and being our only one, we may just have to move back with him. It's all in the great 'unknown' really isn't it!

We too did a lot of travelling around Oz including the Nullabor but that was 20years ago. I think it's important to see as much as you can, because otherwise it's easy to judge the whole country on the place where you live and feel unhappy in.

chance to be

Hiya Beryl, hows it going?

I think what she (Goldend dreamer) meant was that she was agreeing with you that she wants to be near her nearest and dearest later in life - but they could be her children, not parents. If the kids live in Oz, it would be easier to join them as a pensioner if they had C-Ship. I think

Anyways, what are you doing now?
Very hot today in uk for April kids swimming all pm and me sitting by public swimming pool outside. (entrance £1.30 a child)Its really a nice country (so was Oz) and I cant see why people knock it. Petrol station next door selling Freetrade coffee for 10p as so many of us out here one side. other people sitting outside pub the other side. Now, why did i bother with the coffee. need alcohol its great when you dont have to watch them as lifeguards there
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pomy2001

We have been here for almost six years and my hubbie would go back tomorrow, my son has just returned here from the UK and Europe and is going back there asap - he says there is no soul or backbone here (Also says you come to the Sunny coast to die!!). I am willing to leave Oz but not for the UK, maybe somewhere different (I love Thailand) Trouble is with Oz -it's too expensive and too far from everywhere! I suppose it depends what you want at the end of the day. I just know I don't want to be here in beautiful.......but boring Noosa!