How to justify the money you've lost...
#76
South Yarra Sheila
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Re: How to justify the money you've lost...
I might start marking off the days one by one on the toilet wall...
#77
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Re: How to justify the money you've lost...
Yeh i feel that too my youngest is teething and isnt sleeping too well im so shattered if i was at home my mum would take her for a night to give me a break no such luxury here, i miss my old life so much!!
#78
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Re: How to justify the money you've lost...
You're both right I know, it just pees me off when family feel they can say what they want without realising how it affects you. She was also going on about how prices are going up in the UK for everything and how one product she buys has gone up 40p in a week. Yet when she visited here she complained how expensive Oz was and that she couldn't survive on her UK pension here. She's just trying to make me see that the UK is crap by implying that everything will become as expensive in the UK as it is here. So one of the plus points we have for returning won't be a plus point anymore!
I just have to remember that my mother is only happy when she has something to moan about. It's just at the moment I guess it is my return that is the focus of that.
I just have to remember that my mother is only happy when she has something to moan about. It's just at the moment I guess it is my return that is the focus of that.
My mum tried it with me - she told me that a new block of apartments in our town were wholly inhabited by immigrants who were hassling the locals into swapping their shopping vouchers for cash. I was a bit worried until I returned and realised that it was complete and utter fabrication. We haven't seen any immigrants and certainly no hassles by anyone of any nationality.
She did the same with work - told us that all the Polish had taken the brickies jobs. Well guess what? Hubby was back working a week after we landed and earning far more than he ever did in Oz.
I just don't know why people can't let others make up their own minds about their own lives
#79
Re: How to justify the money you've lost...
I just wanted to let you know about the 'failure' thing. We were worried what people said about us, but I got an email this morning saying: "We are all waiting with baited breath to hear that you have managed to sell the house and are on your way home" Aww I came over all mushy after reading that. I remember why they were my mates now and why I miss them so much . I feel sorry for anyone who dares to say to any of our friends or rellies that we've failed.
BUT we have both said that we needed the time-out from civilisation to get our heads together and work out what we wanted from life and where we wanted to go from here. It just wasn't possible back then, we were far too busy but hadn't realised it.
It wont be as bad as you think.
Jo
BUT we have both said that we needed the time-out from civilisation to get our heads together and work out what we wanted from life and where we wanted to go from here. It just wasn't possible back then, we were far too busy but hadn't realised it.
It wont be as bad as you think.
Jo
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Re: How to justify the money you've lost...
I just wanted to let you know about the 'failure' thing. We were worried what people said about us, but I got an email this morning saying: "We are all waiting with baited breath to hear that you have managed to sell the house and are on your way home" Aww I came over all mushy after reading that. I remember why they were my mates now and why I miss them so much . I feel sorry for anyone who dares to say to any of our friends or rellies that we've failed.
BUT we have both said that we needed the time-out from civilisation to get our heads together and work out what we wanted from life and where we wanted to go from here. It just wasn't possible back then, we were far too busy but hadn't realised it.
It wont be as bad as you think.
Jo
BUT we have both said that we needed the time-out from civilisation to get our heads together and work out what we wanted from life and where we wanted to go from here. It just wasn't possible back then, we were far too busy but hadn't realised it.
It wont be as bad as you think.
Jo
#81
South Yarra Sheila
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Re: How to justify the money you've lost...
I just wanted to let you know about the 'failure' thing. We were worried what people said about us, but I got an email this morning saying: "We are all waiting with baited breath to hear that you have managed to sell the house and are on your way home" Aww I came over all mushy after reading that. I remember why they were my mates now and why I miss them so much . I feel sorry for anyone who dares to say to any of our friends or rellies that we've failed.
BUT we have both said that we needed the time-out from civilisation to get our heads together and work out what we wanted from life and where we wanted to go from here. It just wasn't possible back then, we were far too busy but hadn't realised it.
It wont be as bad as you think.
Jo
BUT we have both said that we needed the time-out from civilisation to get our heads together and work out what we wanted from life and where we wanted to go from here. It just wasn't possible back then, we were far too busy but hadn't realised it.
It wont be as bad as you think.
Jo
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Re: How to justify the money you've lost...
My OH points out quite rightly that we'll have lost a fair bit of dosh if we move back to UK & have no jobs to go back to, property we could afford wouldn't be as nice or in as good an area as before etc
Also whilst I would happily scarper back tail between legs willing to make a fresh start having realized grass isn't greener etc he would feel like he'd failed and that everyone was laughing at us
I guess this is the case with most returnees. How have you all come to terms with these feelings?
Also whilst I would happily scarper back tail between legs willing to make a fresh start having realized grass isn't greener etc he would feel like he'd failed and that everyone was laughing at us
I guess this is the case with most returnees. How have you all come to terms with these feelings?
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Re: How to justify the money you've lost...
My mum tried it with me - she told me that a new block of apartments in our town were wholly inhabited by immigrants who were hassling the locals into swapping their shopping vouchers for cash. I was a bit worried until I returned and realised that it was complete and utter fabrication. We haven't seen any immigrants and certainly no hassles by anyone of any nationality.
She did the same with work - told us that all the Polish had taken the brickies jobs. Well guess what? Hubby was back working a week after we landed and earning far more than he ever did in Oz.
I just don't know why people can't let others make up their own minds about their own lives
She did the same with work - told us that all the Polish had taken the brickies jobs. Well guess what? Hubby was back working a week after we landed and earning far more than he ever did in Oz.
I just don't know why people can't let others make up their own minds about their own lives
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Re: How to justify the money you've lost...
Oh and I have missed out on my brothers "Babies" nephew and neices "Babies"...I cannot wait to be back and help with Babysitting!!!!...mine were 5 & 8 When we arrived here in Perth.......I would of hated being here without my sisters, in-laws and Parents around to guide and help me.....chin up before you know it they are grown (gulp)!!! that's what family told me at the time but I did not believe them...now our boys are 14 & 17 (gulp) but still my babies.......ooorrrr and time has flown by......wish though we would of gone home sooner.....our boys have missed out on certain things and visa versa...never mind home this year fingers crossed....
#85
Re: How to justify the money you've lost...
I just wanted to let you know about the 'failure' thing. We were worried what people said about us, but I got an email this morning saying: "We are all waiting with baited breath to hear that you have managed to sell the house and are on your way home" Aww I came over all mushy after reading that. I remember why they were my mates now and why I miss them so much . I feel sorry for anyone who dares to say to any of our friends or rellies that we've failed.
BUT we have both said that we needed the time-out from civilisation to get our heads together and work out what we wanted from life and where we wanted to go from here. It just wasn't possible back then, we were far too busy but hadn't realised it.
It wont be as bad as you think.
Jo
BUT we have both said that we needed the time-out from civilisation to get our heads together and work out what we wanted from life and where we wanted to go from here. It just wasn't possible back then, we were far too busy but hadn't realised it.
It wont be as bad as you think.
Jo
How has it gone this weekend any viewers? We are just over a week away from being on the market now and I have just been on the realestate website and there are about 25 on the market in my area but none of them the same as mine really.
I have everything crossed you sold this weekend.
best of luck nicola
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Re: How to justify the money you've lost...
Jools,
I'm gonna say what I always say ( and bore those who've read it a hundred times ) but - you may have lost money coming here, but money is ALWAYS replacable.
Life experience, real happiness and good health are not.
If you need to take the financial hit to get back most of the above wherever they may be - then do it. You'll re-coupe over time in so many other ways. It's only money. Don't waste time being unhappy.
*pearly* x
I'm gonna say what I always say ( and bore those who've read it a hundred times ) but - you may have lost money coming here, but money is ALWAYS replacable.
Life experience, real happiness and good health are not.
If you need to take the financial hit to get back most of the above wherever they may be - then do it. You'll re-coupe over time in so many other ways. It's only money. Don't waste time being unhappy.
*pearly* x
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Re: How to justify the money you've lost...
Hi Nicola
Not a sniff last weekend. We had someone view yesterday and said the house was perfect, just what they were looking for and they'd be in touch today, and guess what? Nothing, not a peep, nada
We have open house later this weekend, at 11.30 so maybe people will be out of bed by then?
Jo
Not a sniff last weekend. We had someone view yesterday and said the house was perfect, just what they were looking for and they'd be in touch today, and guess what? Nothing, not a peep, nada
We have open house later this weekend, at 11.30 so maybe people will be out of bed by then?
Jo
Hi Jo
How has it gone this weekend any viewers? We are just over a week away from being on the market now and I have just been on the realestate website and there are about 25 on the market in my area but none of them the same as mine really.
I have everything crossed you sold this weekend.
best of luck nicola
How has it gone this weekend any viewers? We are just over a week away from being on the market now and I have just been on the realestate website and there are about 25 on the market in my area but none of them the same as mine really.
I have everything crossed you sold this weekend.
best of luck nicola
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Re: How to justify the money you've lost...
Jools,
I'm gonna say what I always say ( and bore those who've read it a hundred times ) but - you may have lost money coming here, but money is ALWAYS replacable.
Life experience, real happiness and good health are not.
If you need to take the financial hit to get back most of the above wherever they may be - then do it. You'll re-coupe over time in so many other ways. It's only money. Don't waste time being unhappy.
*pearly* x
I'm gonna say what I always say ( and bore those who've read it a hundred times ) but - you may have lost money coming here, but money is ALWAYS replacable.
Life experience, real happiness and good health are not.
If you need to take the financial hit to get back most of the above wherever they may be - then do it. You'll re-coupe over time in so many other ways. It's only money. Don't waste time being unhappy.
*pearly* x
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Re: How to justify the money you've lost...
Hi Nicola
Not a sniff last weekend. We had someone view yesterday and said the house was perfect, just what they were looking for and they'd be in touch today, and guess what? Nothing, not a peep, nada
We have open house later this weekend, at 11.30 so maybe people will be out of bed by then?
Jo
Not a sniff last weekend. We had someone view yesterday and said the house was perfect, just what they were looking for and they'd be in touch today, and guess what? Nothing, not a peep, nada
We have open house later this weekend, at 11.30 so maybe people will be out of bed by then?
Jo
All the best
#90
South Yarra Sheila
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Re: How to justify the money you've lost...