Concerns, Worries, Regrets but home is home!
Nov 25th 2007, 9:02 pm
#16
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Re: Concerns, Worries, Regrets but home is home!
right now none of this matters to me, i'd actually get on a plane right now, to get off buy a daily record, walk through glasgow wandering in and out of shops listening to their fantastic accents, making idle chit chat with the cashiers who'd actually understand what am saying and get the joke, then go to the pub with someone or on my own i aint fussy, have a drink and watch the rain from the window
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and my god could go to george square and look at the lights, and like last year take the kids to that crappy ice rink in the middle of it and had never laughed so much in all my life watching glesgaw punters trying to skate for the first time, lol, and i was shouting like mad at the kids, 'keep away from the adults, if they fall they'll kill you', ha,ha
but i am definately crazy, coz tomorrow your questions will matter and i will weigh it up and think we're better off here , then the next day i will scheme in my head ways to get back to scotland , then the next day i will think am better off here.............................................. .......................................arrrrrrrrrr rrrrrgggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
and happy birthday auld yin
,and my god could go to george square and look at the lights, and like last year take the kids to that crappy ice rink in the middle of it and had never laughed so much in all my life watching glesgaw punters trying to skate for the first time, lol, and i was shouting like mad at the kids, 'keep away from the adults, if they fall they'll kill you', ha,ha
but i am definately crazy, coz tomorrow your questions will matter and i will weigh it up and think we're better off here , then the next day i will scheme in my head ways to get back to scotland , then the next day i will think am better off here.............................................. .......................................arrrrrrrrrr rrrrrgggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
and happy birthday auld yin
I don't remember being this confused when we were downing the Gin's back in Scotland!
Cheers
Ginny
Nov 26th 2007, 3:36 am
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Re: Concerns, Worries, Regrets but home is home!
just wondering how everyone else actually feels even after making the decision to go back home?
Is it the case as we are doing?
where will we live when we actually get there?
will we ever be able to get back on the housing market?
will things be as they were with friends when we get back?
will we start to feel the same way we did about the reasons we left in the first place?
will it still be raining 300 days a year?
How long will it actually take for us to know that coming to Aus was the mistake or going back to Scotland was the mistake?????
Please tell me that we are not the only ones to make the decision to go back and still have these questions in their mind!!!!!!!
Is it the case as we are doing?
where will we live when we actually get there?
will we ever be able to get back on the housing market?
will things be as they were with friends when we get back?
will we start to feel the same way we did about the reasons we left in the first place?
will it still be raining 300 days a year?
How long will it actually take for us to know that coming to Aus was the mistake or going back to Scotland was the mistake?????
Please tell me that we are not the only ones to make the decision to go back and still have these questions in their mind!!!!!!!
If and when you decide to return home, again treat it as a life experience and not one of failure. We are all most comfortable in familiar surroundings and would'nt it be great if we could ship all our family and friends off with us as this would greatly ease the transition.
Nov 26th 2007, 4:22 am
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Re: Concerns, Worries, Regrets but home is home!
Reading your post made me remember some vacations I had in Scotland. It is a very beautiful country. I am English, but I have visited Scotland many times. What a place! The people are so nice and the scenary is just incredible. Plus all the great pubs! It is a very different place from England, I think.
Nov 26th 2007, 4:27 am
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Re: Concerns, Worries, Regrets but home is home!
I would say you should not regret anything in life just treat it as a life experience. Just imagine you came to the end of your life and never made that move, always wondering what if........that would be far worse than actually making the move in first place and realising that you actually are missing home. Research has shown it takes expats about 4 years on average to accept a new country as their own and fully settle in. How much time have you given it and are you just caving in to home sickness and familiarity ?
If and when you decide to return home, again treat it as a life experience and not one of failure. We are all most comfortable in familiar surroundings and would'nt it be great if we could ship all our family and friends off with us as this would greatly ease the transition.
If and when you decide to return home, again treat it as a life experience and not one of failure. We are all most comfortable in familiar surroundings and would'nt it be great if we could ship all our family and friends off with us as this would greatly ease the transition.
I absolutely agree with that - also Dunrovin's philosopy - the same as a friend's Mum once said - "It's not how you jump that matters, it's how you land."
We have a house in England and plan on returning there in 2 1/2 years, and to stay until daughter has finished her schooling. After that, who knows. Financially we are OK and will be able to afford a small place in the States too. Thank God, because OH is American and NOT happy about moving to England, though he is willing to go along with it. I know it won't be roses anyway, but OH is my one major concern...
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Nov 26th 2007, 5:39 am
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Re: Concerns, Worries, Regrets but home is home!
Yes! When I first moved to the States, one of the things that made me homesick was thinking about the mountains in Scotland - I desperately wanted to be there - and I'm English - been to Scotland maybe half a dozen times in my life but it got my heart right away. Must have been Scottish in a past life
- absolutely gorgeous views in some of them. Another great site is the following: http://www.scottishpanoramic.com/ - the photographer lives on my street and if you go to Archive 2 you'll find the village I live in (photo 0017).
Having said all that, I now get homesickness pangs any time I watch movies that feature archetypal small-town USA, especially southern towns. I re-watched "Nobody's Fool" a few weeks ago (not set in a southern town, great movie if you get the chance to watch it) and got those homesickness. You see a lot made on here of the "rose-tinted spectacles" phenomenon and I think that is one aspect of it - getting sucked into the "idea" of a place because you can't have Tesco's/fish and chips/country walks/a pint in the pub/shopping at Next, etc. The hard part is figuring what will be the reality when you go home and wheher it will match up to your expectations or fond memories or experiences during vacations home, etc. The only way you can know for sure is to try it!
Nov 26th 2007, 4:00 pm
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Re: Concerns, Worries, Regrets but home is home!
I don't know what it is, but the sunshine seems to be no match for Scotland.
Nov 26th 2007, 4:24 pm
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Re: Concerns, Worries, Regrets but home is home!
When I was in NC, I got my weekly fix of Scotland by logging on to the BBC News Web site and browsing the "Your Pictures" section: http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/in_pictures/7113138.stm
- absolutely gorgeous views in some of them. Another great site is the following: http://www.scottishpanoramic.com/ - the photographer lives on my street and if you go to Archive 2 you'll find the village I live in (photo 0017).
Having said all that, I now get homesickness pangs any time I watch movies that feature archetypal small-town USA, especially southern towns. I re-watched "Nobody's Fool" a few weeks ago (not set in a southern town, great movie if you get the chance to watch it) and got those homesickness. You see a lot made on here of the "rose-tinted spectacles" phenomenon and I think that is one aspect of it - getting sucked into the "idea" of a place because you can't have Tesco's/fish and chips/country walks/a pint in the pub/shopping at Next, etc. The hard part is figuring what will be the reality when you go home and wheher it will match up to your expectations or fond memories or experiences during vacations home, etc. The only way you can know for sure is to try it!
- absolutely gorgeous views in some of them. Another great site is the following: http://www.scottishpanoramic.com/ - the photographer lives on my street and if you go to Archive 2 you'll find the village I live in (photo 0017).
Having said all that, I now get homesickness pangs any time I watch movies that feature archetypal small-town USA, especially southern towns. I re-watched "Nobody's Fool" a few weeks ago (not set in a southern town, great movie if you get the chance to watch it) and got those homesickness. You see a lot made on here of the "rose-tinted spectacles" phenomenon and I think that is one aspect of it - getting sucked into the "idea" of a place because you can't have Tesco's/fish and chips/country walks/a pint in the pub/shopping at Next, etc. The hard part is figuring what will be the reality when you go home and wheher it will match up to your expectations or fond memories or experiences during vacations home, etc. The only way you can know for sure is to try it!
Nov 28th 2007, 11:51 am
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Re: Concerns, Worries, Regrets but home is home!
I am going to join this thread coz someone mentioned square slice and plain breed. There also seems to be a fair contingent of scottish folks here! Why is that???????????????????
We're no plannin on returning just yet but I see us going back around 2010. My job is just beginning to get good with quite a fewe opportunities coming to me that I didnae have back home. So, my plan is - get more specialist work experience out here - then go hame.
Until then, dunroving - your post made a lotta sense about accepting the decision you've made for a while at least, and that's what we're doing. We'll enjoy all the sun and cafes and eating out and change of everything for a short time ( 3 years-ish ) then we'll go back and enjoy what we can there. Too easy!!
This life doesn't insist that we stay anywhere forever and I think it's important to satisfy your curiosity and enjoy all that you can while your here.
Oh, it's good to be inamaongst you lot right now.
*pearly*
We're no plannin on returning just yet but I see us going back around 2010. My job is just beginning to get good with quite a fewe opportunities coming to me that I didnae have back home. So, my plan is - get more specialist work experience out here - then go hame.
Until then, dunroving - your post made a lotta sense about accepting the decision you've made for a while at least, and that's what we're doing. We'll enjoy all the sun and cafes and eating out and change of everything for a short time ( 3 years-ish ) then we'll go back and enjoy what we can there. Too easy!!
This life doesn't insist that we stay anywhere forever and I think it's important to satisfy your curiosity and enjoy all that you can while your here.
Oh, it's good to be inamaongst you lot right now.
*pearly*
