What was your perspective about Dubai??
Oct 29th 2004, 6:51 pm
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Re: What was your perspective about Dubai??
Originally Posted by LakesLassie
You mean you're job hunting & desparate to move here & you've never even BEEN here before? Don't you think that's a bit nuts? What if you get your dream job but find you hate the place? Helluva long way to come unless you know it's what you want I would have thought. 
I have pretty good idea abt things in dubai..if u ever live in Karachi then u would no what I am talking abut. I know I will get my dream job and I know I will live there happily ever after 
. I am despratre going to dubai but not because of the obvious reasons.But I appriciate ur concern.
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Oct 30th 2004, 12:12 am
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Re: What was your perspective about Dubai??
Originally Posted by Calgarian
I appriciate the concern but NOT get called nuts.... I have pretty good idea abt things in dubai..if u ever live in Karachi then u would no what I am talking abut. I know I will get my dream job and I know I will live there happily ever after . I am despratre going to dubai but not because of the obvious reasons.
But I appriciate ur concern.
KHan
I have pretty good idea abt things in dubai..if u ever live in Karachi then u would no what I am talking abut. I know I will get my dream job and I know I will live there happily ever after . I am despratre going to dubai but not because of the obvious reasons.But I appriciate ur concern.
KHan
lakeslassie why did you go to dubai and had u been before?
Oct 30th 2004, 2:23 am
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Re: What was your perspective about Dubai??
Originally Posted by shiva
im with you khan good luck m8, noyhing wrong with dreams m8.
lakeslassie why did you go to dubai and had u been before?
lakeslassie why did you go to dubai and had u been before?
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Oct 30th 2004, 4:44 am
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Re: What was your perspective about Dubai??
Originally Posted by shiva
im with you khan good luck m8, noyhing wrong with dreams m8.
lakeslassie why did you go to dubai and had u been before?
lakeslassie why did you go to dubai and had u been before?
So what's your story Shiva?
Oct 30th 2004, 6:31 am
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Re: What was your perspective about Dubai??
Originally Posted by LakesLassie
Hubby wanted to escape the life of a salary slave & set up on his own. He'd been here a few times on business trips & thought "why not do it in Dubai?". So he took me here for a couple of holidays to see if I thought I could live here & start the ball rolling on office space etc. I don't think moving 4000 miles with 2 small kids to set up a business from scratch is exactly cautious, but at least we'd seen the place first! So what's your story Shiva?
So what's your story Shiva?I came here at least 3 times to help make my mind up about being here, no decision was made lightly,moving two kids, the difficult hurdles that faced me and that I overcame and getting use to a life that is so different to the Uk.
Its one thing visiting somewhere but entirely another to live there.. Life is changing and Im adapting but oh so slowly.
Oct 30th 2004, 7:15 am
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Re: What was your perspective about Dubai??
Originally Posted by Heart of gold
I came here at least 3 times to help make my mind up about being here, no decision was made lightly,moving two kids, the difficult hurdles that faced me and that I overcame and getting use to a life that is so different to the Uk.
Its one thing visiting somewhere but entirely another to live there.. Life is changing and Im adapting but oh so slowly.
Its one thing visiting somewhere but entirely another to live there.. Life is changing and Im adapting but oh so slowly.
I dragged my other half here. Well sort of. He is still looking after his businesses in the UK but now has to make the effort to talk to us on the phone and visit. He workes 24/7 in the UK and when I had to call him while living with him, he never had time to talk or see us. The only time I knew that I had a husband, when waking up in the morning and seeing him next to me and when washing and ironing his clothes. That's as much as we got to see of him.
I was so happy in the UK before I had my kids. Life seemed much more fun than in Switzerland. As the kids were growing older and we needed daddy to take more part in our lives, it became more apparent how alone we were. None of my friends could get around it to start a family and any new found once had their own circle of friends. Everyone was lovely to talk to but the weekends seemed very long and boring, especially when it was raining.
Schools in our area were appauling. 60 kids in reception and 1 teacher and that was supposed to be in a so called 'non-council estate area'. Private schools seemed even worse equipped and staffed than public schools. I was faced with a different picture of the UK once it didn't just involve me but the upbrining of my kids. Both me and my son almost lost our lives just due to simple negligence. I am not kidding. It didn't matter how seriously ill you were, you could bet you would get the same answer over and over again. You are just fine, go back home (and don't come back again). We are still picking up the pieces from years of suffering and will be left with handicaps for the rest of our lives. Something that could have so easily been avoided.
I was faced with either divorcing someone who I dearly love, just to offer my kids more fun while growing up or find some other solution. After some extensive research on options which country would suit my character best, I had to give Dubai a shot. We already owned an apartment here and I was happy to swap it for my house in the UK. During my career years, I had the opportunity to travel a lot and it was therefore quite easy to eliminate places which might seem nice but when it comes to day to day life, they are as much crap as anywhere else. The Middle East always had a certain attraction for me. Already as a little girl, did I fantasize about all the stories of 1001 nights. Sun, sand and sea have a major attraction for me. I can never get enought of looking at Palm Trees, hence the name I chose. They give me a sense of tranquility. If I am feeling anxious, I just need to see a Palm Tree and feel so much better again.
Best shot ever. I knew what I was letting myself in for. The things that mattered for me most, such as healthcare, schooling, social life and rascial acceptance and of course getting to see and talk to my husband more, all has worked out just perfect, if not even better. Some people cannot understand, how we can stay apart for sometimes 3 months at the time but we have seen each other in the past year more than the previous 5 years in the UK together.
I knew there were plenty of wifes here who would end up spending days and weekends alone and it wouldn't be so hard to find new friends. It helped to be married to a Middle Eastern, so the culture here isn't such a surprise. I need sunshine and warmth to be able to function and there isn't a shortage of that here. I had to look at my future in a long term and was satisfied that by the time my children will reach the age for higher studies, there would hopefully be a lot more on offer here too and if not, I can evaluate my next steps but for now, I am staying put for as long as I will be allowed to and make the most of my newly found happiness in a country full of mysteries.
I never take any decisions likely. Some people need to plan everything into the smallest detail to be happy elsewhere, others can just take the plunge and be equally excited. I think it is much harder when one partner desperately wants to take on a new challenge and the other one will just follow out of curiosity or loyalty. Both me and my husband knew, it was the best thing for us and as soon as he will be able to let go of things in the UK and have some new source of income in Dubai, we shall be reunited and enjoy even more time together, which so many people take for granted.
Some people have so much to loose if they leave their home country behind. I was a case of misplacement already. My parents were refugees in Switzerland and we were never fully accepted. I didn't get to see my parents birth country until I was 18 years old, so couldn't call it home. I wasn't able to call Switzerland my home, as I never felt 100% welcome. I had a new home for years in the UK, until it started sinking in, that I couldn't teach my children about their background. Who was I, who were they? Yes, human beings, like everyone but when you get reminded about not being English, you don't feel human any longer. We don't face this sort of problem in Dubai and can just practice to be who we like to be.
The UAE is our new home and so god will, we will be able to live here happily ever after....
Oct 30th 2004, 12:12 pm
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Re: What was your perspective about Dubai??
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Oct 30th 2004, 1:32 pm
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Re: What was your perspective about Dubai??
Originally Posted by Palm Tree
I dragged my other half here. Well sort of. He is still looking after his businesses in the UK but now has to make the effort to talk to us on the phone and visit. He workes 24/7 in the UK and when I had to call him while living with him, he never had time to talk or see us. The only time I knew that I had a husband, when waking up in the morning and seeing him next to me and when washing and ironing his clothes. That's as much as we got to see of him.
I was so happy in the UK before I had my kids. Life seemed much more fun than in Switzerland. As the kids were growing older and we needed daddy to take more part in our lives, it became more apparent how alone we were. None of my friends could get around it to start a family and any new found once had their own circle of friends. Everyone was lovely to talk to but the weekends seemed very long and boring, especially when it was raining.
Schools in our area were appauling. 60 kids in reception and 1 teacher and that was supposed to be in a so called 'non-council estate area'. Private schools seemed even worse equipped and staffed than public schools. I was faced with a different picture of the UK once it didn't just involve me but the upbrining of my kids. Both me and my son almost lost our lives just due to simple negligence. I am not kidding. It didn't matter how seriously ill you were, you could bet you would get the same answer over and over again. You are just fine, go back home (and don't come back again). We are still picking up the pieces from years of suffering and will be left with handicaps for the rest of our lives. Something that could have so easily been avoided.
I was faced with either divorcing someone who I dearly love, just to offer my kids more fun while growing up or find some other solution. After some extensive research on options which country would suit my character best, I had to give Dubai a shot. We already owned an apartment here and I was happy to swap it for my house in the UK. During my career years, I had the opportunity to travel a lot and it was therefore quite easy to eliminate places which might seem nice but when it comes to day to day life, they are as much crap as anywhere else. The Middle East always had a certain attraction for me. Already as a little girl, did I fantasize about all the stories of 1001 nights. Sun, sand and sea have a major attraction for me. I can never get enought of looking at Palm Trees, hence the name I chose. They give me a sense of tranquility. If I am feeling anxious, I just need to see a Palm Tree and feel so much better again.
Best shot ever. I knew what I was letting myself in for. The things that mattered for me most, such as healthcare, schooling, social life and rascial acceptance and of course getting to see and talk to my husband more, all has worked out just perfect, if not even better. Some people cannot understand, how we can stay apart for sometimes 3 months at the time but we have seen each other in the past year more than the previous 5 years in the UK together.
I knew there were plenty of wifes here who would end up spending days and weekends alone and it wouldn't be so hard to find new friends. It helped to be married to a Middle Eastern, so the culture here isn't such a surprise. I need sunshine and warmth to be able to function and there isn't a shortage of that here. I had to look at my future in a long term and was satisfied that by the time my children will reach the age for higher studies, there would hopefully be a lot more on offer here too and if not, I can evaluate my next steps but for now, I am staying put for as long as I will be allowed to and make the most of my newly found happiness in a country full of mysteries.
I never take any decisions likely. Some people need to plan everything into the smallest detail to be happy elsewhere, others can just take the plunge and be equally excited. I think it is much harder when one partner desperately wants to take on a new challenge and the other one will just follow out of curiosity or loyalty. Both me and my husband knew, it was the best thing for us and as soon as he will be able to let go of things in the UK and have some new source of income in Dubai, we shall be reunited and enjoy even more time together, which so many people take for granted.
Some people have so much to loose if they leave their home country behind. I was a case of misplacement already. My parents were refugees in Switzerland and we were never fully accepted. I didn't get to see my parents birth country until I was 18 years old, so couldn't call it home. I wasn't able to call Switzerland my home, as I never felt 100% welcome. I had a new home for years in the UK, until it started sinking in, that I couldn't teach my children about their background. Who was I, who were they? Yes, human beings, like everyone but when you get reminded about not being English, you don't feel human any longer. We don't face this sort of problem in Dubai and can just practice to be who we like to be.
The UAE is our new home and so god will, we will be able to live here happily ever after....
I was so happy in the UK before I had my kids. Life seemed much more fun than in Switzerland. As the kids were growing older and we needed daddy to take more part in our lives, it became more apparent how alone we were. None of my friends could get around it to start a family and any new found once had their own circle of friends. Everyone was lovely to talk to but the weekends seemed very long and boring, especially when it was raining.
Schools in our area were appauling. 60 kids in reception and 1 teacher and that was supposed to be in a so called 'non-council estate area'. Private schools seemed even worse equipped and staffed than public schools. I was faced with a different picture of the UK once it didn't just involve me but the upbrining of my kids. Both me and my son almost lost our lives just due to simple negligence. I am not kidding. It didn't matter how seriously ill you were, you could bet you would get the same answer over and over again. You are just fine, go back home (and don't come back again). We are still picking up the pieces from years of suffering and will be left with handicaps for the rest of our lives. Something that could have so easily been avoided.
I was faced with either divorcing someone who I dearly love, just to offer my kids more fun while growing up or find some other solution. After some extensive research on options which country would suit my character best, I had to give Dubai a shot. We already owned an apartment here and I was happy to swap it for my house in the UK. During my career years, I had the opportunity to travel a lot and it was therefore quite easy to eliminate places which might seem nice but when it comes to day to day life, they are as much crap as anywhere else. The Middle East always had a certain attraction for me. Already as a little girl, did I fantasize about all the stories of 1001 nights. Sun, sand and sea have a major attraction for me. I can never get enought of looking at Palm Trees, hence the name I chose. They give me a sense of tranquility. If I am feeling anxious, I just need to see a Palm Tree and feel so much better again.
Best shot ever. I knew what I was letting myself in for. The things that mattered for me most, such as healthcare, schooling, social life and rascial acceptance and of course getting to see and talk to my husband more, all has worked out just perfect, if not even better. Some people cannot understand, how we can stay apart for sometimes 3 months at the time but we have seen each other in the past year more than the previous 5 years in the UK together.
I knew there were plenty of wifes here who would end up spending days and weekends alone and it wouldn't be so hard to find new friends. It helped to be married to a Middle Eastern, so the culture here isn't such a surprise. I need sunshine and warmth to be able to function and there isn't a shortage of that here. I had to look at my future in a long term and was satisfied that by the time my children will reach the age for higher studies, there would hopefully be a lot more on offer here too and if not, I can evaluate my next steps but for now, I am staying put for as long as I will be allowed to and make the most of my newly found happiness in a country full of mysteries.
I never take any decisions likely. Some people need to plan everything into the smallest detail to be happy elsewhere, others can just take the plunge and be equally excited. I think it is much harder when one partner desperately wants to take on a new challenge and the other one will just follow out of curiosity or loyalty. Both me and my husband knew, it was the best thing for us and as soon as he will be able to let go of things in the UK and have some new source of income in Dubai, we shall be reunited and enjoy even more time together, which so many people take for granted.
Some people have so much to loose if they leave their home country behind. I was a case of misplacement already. My parents were refugees in Switzerland and we were never fully accepted. I didn't get to see my parents birth country until I was 18 years old, so couldn't call it home. I wasn't able to call Switzerland my home, as I never felt 100% welcome. I had a new home for years in the UK, until it started sinking in, that I couldn't teach my children about their background. Who was I, who were they? Yes, human beings, like everyone but when you get reminded about not being English, you don't feel human any longer. We don't face this sort of problem in Dubai and can just practice to be who we like to be.
The UAE is our new home and so god will, we will be able to live here happily ever after....
I am facing a same sort of delima and to top things off my dad is ill so I want to live a country close to him.
Khan
Oct 30th 2004, 5:34 pm
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Re: What was your perspective about Dubai??
Originally Posted by LakesLassie
Hubby wanted to escape the life of a salary slave & set up on his own. He'd been here a few times on business trips & thought "why not do it in Dubai?". So he took me here for a couple of holidays to see if I thought I could live here & start the ball rolling on office space etc. I don't think moving 4000 miles with 2 small kids to set up a business from scratch is exactly cautious, but at least we'd seen the place first! So what's your story Shiva?
So what's your story Shiva?i grew up in abu dhabi, returned to scotland for final years of school and then university. now going back "home" cause i miss the sun. oh and 40% tax drives me bonkers and dont forget national insurance and vat, dont know why i bother reallly, and i want to show my wife my second home.
Oct 30th 2004, 5:35 pm
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Re: What was your perspective about Dubai??
Originally Posted by Calgarian
Thanks m8 for backing me up.....will u be there on 18th?
Khan
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Oct 30th 2004, 6:22 pm
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Re: What was your perspective about Dubai??
Originally Posted by shiva
i grew up in abu dhabi, returned to scotland for final years of school and then university. now going back "home" cause i miss the sun. oh and 40% tax drives me bonkers and dont forget national insurance and vat, dont know why i bother reallly, and i want to show my wife my second home.
Oct 30th 2004, 9:56 pm
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Re: What was your perspective about Dubai??
Originally Posted by LakesLassie
Hubby just back from a trip to Aberdeen - says he quickly remembered a few reasons why we now live here. Think you summed up most of them!
lol, see my chav post too. forgot to mention the bloody plague of junkies as well.
Oct 31st 2004, 3:52 am
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Re: What was your perspective about Dubai??
Originally Posted by shiva
lol, see my chav post too. forgot to mention the bloody plague of junkies as well.
Oct 31st 2004, 3:54 am
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Re: What was your perspective about Dubai??
Originally Posted by shiva
yup ill be there.
me miss a beer. you must be mad
me miss a beer. you must be mad
Khan
Oct 31st 2004, 6:14 am
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Re: What was your perspective about Dubai??
Originally Posted by LakesLassie
Not to mention political correctness gone mad. Home in the summer when the latest was banning teachers from shouting at pupils as it hurts their feelings. Bring back the belt I say!
