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Old May 2nd 2014, 9:14 am
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Hi all moved to yanbu a week ago and really struggling with the move missing family and friends so much does it get any easier many thanks Dave
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Hi dave, sorry to hear youre having a tough time, but youre only a week in and no doubt having a bit of a coulture shock as well as missing family. Remember its a much smaller world than it used to be,things like skype are handy so you can get to see people back home.
Really try to get your self out there though, go to the gym or to a bar after work especially if youre out there on your own.
Remember all the expats were in the same boat as you at one point, so just go over and ask if you can join them. Join a club or something, ask what people from work are doing after work, try not too sit at home talking to people from back home too much, it will just make you relive missing them over and over.
Give it time and no doubt youll love it!
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to a bar after work
You don't really know a lot about Saudi Arabia, do you?
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Really helpful olejanx..... my point is try to get out and meet people, there are people out there in/have been in the same situation.
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Hi all moved to yanbu a week ago and really struggling with the move missing family and friends so much does it get any easier many thanks Dave
Of course it does Dave. You got to make your life all new now. Go out with colleagues, see what's going on, meet new people, do different things...you are only a week old, stick with those who have been for a while, and they will help you. Everybody will understand how you feel. good luck, and chin up!
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Thanks for the comments today as been my day off and hasn't been to bad had a walk about
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Hi Dave11, being in Saudi a lot of activities happen on the Expat compounds, BBQ's, Parties etc... Speak to colleagues or look on some local expat sights (like this) I am sure you will find something going on ..... Good Luck
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Hi all moved to yanbu a week ago and really struggling with the move missing family and friends so much does it get any easier many thanks Dave
It gets easier at the end of every month, when the tax-free salary gets credited to your account. Kerr-ching!

What helps me keep sane is to book my next holiday and flights, knowing I have some time in the real world to look forward to.

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Really helpful olejanx..... my point is try to get out and meet people, there are people out there in/have been in the same situation.
And your advice is going to help, given your lack of experience. I went to the Middle East in 1982, so I do think I have some knowledge about things. How about you?
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You don't really know a lot about Saudi Arabia, do you?
was in a bar last night
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And what advice have you given? Oh thats right, none.... also, 32yrs ago, i know the country hasnt changed as much as some places, but still think you might be a little out of date. Unless you can at least try to contribute, probably best to keep quiet.
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was in a bar last night
Behind bars?
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Behind bars?
definitely on the drinking side and not the serving side, with a half-decent live band too.
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And what advice have you given? Oh thats right, none.... also, 32yrs ago, i know the country hasnt changed as much as some places, but still think you might be a little out of date. Unless you can at least try to contribute, probably best to keep quiet.
So someone living in Ireland knows all about the ME?

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Originally Posted by nicci82
Hi dave, sorry to hear youre having a tough time, but youre only a week in and no doubt having a bit of a coulture shock as well as missing family. Remember its a much smaller world than it used to be,things like skype are handy so you can get to see people back home.
Really try to get your self out there though, go to the gym or to a bar after work especially if youre out there on your own.
Remember all the expats were in the same boat as you at one point, so just go over and ask if you can join them. Join a club or something, ask what people from work are doing after work, try not too sit at home talking to people from back home too much, it will just make you relive missing them over and over.
Give it time and no doubt youll love it!
Which bar exactly do you recommend in Yanbu? Or are we correct to assume that your special knowledge of the Middle East and Saudi Arabia in particular does not stretch to the fact that Saudi is dry.

To the OP - yes it will get easier, speak to any other expats you bump into, you need to get known to start being invited to the social functions, once it starts you'll be fine.

Hang in there and good luck.
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