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Re: Divorce
One thing I have learnt from my two divorces - is that fighting just doesn't work. I appreciate you are the wronged party and you feel you have to get some 'pay back' and it seems like a couple of the replies here are pushing you to do that, which I can understand.
In my second divorce it was me who decided I didn't want to be in that relationship anymore. I wasn't unfaithful at all, I just grew to intensely dislike the woman who was my wife. I told her I wanted out. She then was the scorned woman, and I've been paying for it ever since. Financially doesn't really bother me, not that I'm super rich - I'm not, but a the end of the day, its just money, and as long as its going towards looking after my two kids, I'm ok with that. When we first split, I was working two jobs - my full time day job and then a second evening job in a call centre, just to pay the legal bills and other debts I had accumulated.I did that for two years. Its been an emotional and mental battle for over eight years now, and I'm very weary of it all. THe sad thing is, I really do feel the kids have suffered as a consequence in being denied a meaningful relationship with me, their father. She has been very difficult in allowing me steady and meaningful contact with the kids , to get her revenge, and whilst as an adult I can take what she throws at me, the kids are perhaps the worst off. The UK Legal system when it comes to caring for children is totally flawed. I'm not one for giving advice usually, but in this instance I really would recommend that you both find an amicable way out, otherwise it'll eat at you both for years to come unless its resolved quickly and as pain free as possible. Negotiate as much as possible. Here comes the rant... I found the legal profession as useful as a chocolate fireplace. COuldn't organise a prayer in a mosque.Sandwich short of picnic. Three sheets to wind. Didn't know their elbow from their bottom. I would never use one again. They are the ONLY ones who will gain from this situation, and as soon as you walk in through their door - KERR-CHING ! all they see is pound signs and the ring of the cash register. Be clear - they are not interested in you, your case or your future. ALL they want is your money. And if any solicitors are reading this - I do no offer any apologies, as this is exactly my experience of what I consider to be nasty, two faced people who will stab you in the back no sooner than taking your money. I will NEVER trust another solicitor EVER. / Rant. I know its difficult and its even tougher being abroad. AS I said in my previous reply to you, I really do hope you manage to find a good way out of this, for you both. Once gain - best of luck. |
Re: Divorce
I agree...if there are kids involved then everything needs to be done to make it go as smooth as possible...
But that is not the case here...no kids...just a guy who decides he's had enough and wants to get rid of the wife a.s.a.p.... |
Re: Divorce
Originally Posted by nottmbantam
(Post 6876297)
One thing I have learnt from my two divorces - is that fighting just doesn't work. I appreciate you are the wronged party and you feel you have to get some 'pay back' and it seems like a couple of the replies here are pushing you to do that, which I can understand.
In my second divorce it was me who decided I didn't want to be in that relationship anymore. I wasn't unfaithful at all, I just grew to intensely dislike the woman who was my wife. I told her I wanted out. She then was the scorned woman, and I've been paying for it ever since. Financially doesn't really bother me, not that I'm super rich - I'm not, but a the end of the day, its just money, and as long as its going towards looking after my two kids, I'm ok with that. When we first split, I was working two jobs - my full time day job and then a second evening job in a call centre, just to pay the legal bills and other debts I had accumulated.I did that for two years. Its been an emotional and mental battle for over eight years now, and I'm very weary of it all. THe sad thing is, I really do feel the kids have suffered as a consequence in being denied a meaningful relationship with me, their father. She has been very difficult in allowing me steady and meaningful contact with the kids , to get her revenge, and whilst as an adult I can take what she throws at me, the kids are perhaps the worst off. The UK Legal system when it comes to caring for children is totally flawed. I'm not one for giving advice usually, but in this instance I really would recommend that you both find an amicable way out, otherwise it'll eat at you both for years to come unless its resolved quickly and as pain free as possible. Negotiate as much as possible. Here comes the rant... I found the legal profession as useful as a chocolate fireplace. COuldn't organise a prayer in a mosque.Sandwich short of picnic. Three sheets to wind. Didn't know their elbow from their bottom. I would never use one again. They are the ONLY ones who will gain from this situation, and as soon as you walk in through their door - KERR-CHING ! all they see is pound signs and the ring of the cash register. Be clear - they are not interested in you, your case or your future. ALL they want is your money. And if any solicitors are reading this - I do no offer any apologies, as this is exactly my experience of what I consider to be nasty, two faced people who will stab you in the back no sooner than taking your money. I will NEVER trust another solicitor EVER. / Rant. I know its difficult and its even tougher being abroad. AS I said in my previous reply to you, I really do hope you manage to find a good way out of this, for you both. Once gain - best of luck. Ah hun you have be shit on... i can see why you have wrote this... Im sure from reading these posts Twinkle doesnt want revenge or anything like that, she just wants what she is owed and she is entitled too. He is bringing this on himself and she has ended up in an no win situation because he knows he can do it... therefore... always more than one way to skin a cat..... he deserves everything that is coming to him for being a greedy, selfish tw@t....! But lots of hugs to you though! |
Re: Divorce
Originally Posted by lionheart
(Post 6873504)
Sorry to hear about your marital predicament. If there are no kids involved, it shouldn't be a problem. I have been there twice...once as the aggressor and once as the aggressee if you get my drift. It cost me over US$50,000 each time but no regrets. Good luck and I hope you find true love soon.
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Re: Divorce
Originally Posted by Confucius
(Post 6876774)
If you gaave the $50K to each of your exes you wouldn't have needed a lawyer...
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Re: Divorce
Originally Posted by BangleMan
(Post 6876813)
They deserved double that for being married to LH in the first place !
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Re: Divorce
Originally Posted by MataHari
(Post 6876829)
I wonder how much Shadya gets paid...
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Re: Divorce
Originally Posted by BangleMan
(Post 6876850)
Dont you mean "got" paid ?
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Re: Divorce
Originally Posted by MataHari
(Post 6876829)
I wonder how much Shadya gets paid...
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Re: Divorce
Originally Posted by BangleMan
(Post 6876813)
They deserved double that for being married to LH in the first place !
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Re: Divorce
Originally Posted by Blue Cat
(Post 6876876)
is she married to Lionheart :confused: :)
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Re: Divorce
Originally Posted by Confucius
(Post 6876885)
Yes...Everyday...
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Originally Posted by Blue Cat
(Post 6876910)
no she isn't :sneaky:
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Re: Divorce
Originally Posted by MataHari
(Post 6876953)
errrr....
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Re: Divorce
Originally Posted by Blue Cat
(Post 6876973)
is she :confused:
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