Coping with the emotional pain of living apart from family and making Dubai work
Jul 21st 2009, 6:57 am
#31
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Re: Coping with the emotional pain of living apart from family and making Dubai work
"little'uns"? 
ooo, actually, just looked at the verb "to sprog"... and well, I may have to reassess my vocabulary!
to sprog (third-person singular simple present sprogs, present participle sprogging, simple past and past participle sprogged)
(Australian slang) to ejaculate, to come
ooo, actually, just looked at the verb "to sprog"... and well, I may have to reassess my vocabulary!
to sprog (third-person singular simple present sprogs, present participle sprogging, simple past and past participle sprogged)
(Australian slang) to ejaculate, to come
Whilst on the subject can we also avoid 'peeps' and especially 'little peeps'? It sounds like silly baby talk.
I find it quite interesting how some people take to living overseas like the proverbial duck, whilst others cannot cope outside of a familiar environment. The latter are the ones who end up hating the wherever they are) and complaining that it isn't 'just like home'.
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Jul 21st 2009, 12:15 pm
#32
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Re: Coping with the emotional pain of living apart from family and making Dubai work
Sadly not only overseas. What about the wives of highly paid footballers back in UK who couldn't bear to go to London with hubby and leave mummy back up north!!! Anyone remember Paul Stewart??!!! And many others.
Jul 21st 2009, 5:15 pm
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Re: Coping with the emotional pain of living apart from family and making Dubai work
It's also a horse's bit, consisting of two bars joined at the centre.
Helpful.
Jul 25th 2009, 1:23 pm
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Re: Coping with the emotional pain of living apart from family and making Dubai work
given the difficulty of the situaion back in the UK, it seems unlikely that if you are struggling here in the ME I can't see how going back would solve any problems, many on here don't seem to realise the severity of the UK jobs situation, so in reality i would suspect even if you were able to limp on here until April, which i can't see you have any choice on from a tax perspective, you have said that that would at least take you to the point where your small debts would be repaid. That's a positive. You have a job here and probably very little prospect of getting one back in the UK, another positive
Now moving on to your family situation, given that you haven't stated your salary but that you have said that you would not be able to rent somewhere to live even for yourself, you should completely put out of your mind the possibility of your wife & child coming here, so that removes that option entirely. Another positive and 1 less option to be tormenting yourself with.
Your mothers health is completely prohibitive to her coming here, so remove that option entirely from your mind also. Another positive, so far i've identified 4 potential positives in your situation.
So in essence if you contiinue to keep your job in Dubai, it will be on the basis that you will be here on your own, if you can't cope with that then you should indeed stay until April, stop going home so often because it is actually making your life harder and causing more problems for you that it's solving, it also costs money which could be better spent on your debt reduction. If your mothers health is so bad, then your family back home should be entitled to additional benefits, such as carers allowance or whateverr the recent equivalent of this is, your sister should be investigating this and filling in every form she can get her hands on to ease the UK burden.
Now moving on to your family situation, given that you haven't stated your salary but that you have said that you would not be able to rent somewhere to live even for yourself, you should completely put out of your mind the possibility of your wife & child coming here, so that removes that option entirely. Another positive and 1 less option to be tormenting yourself with.
Your mothers health is completely prohibitive to her coming here, so remove that option entirely from your mind also. Another positive, so far i've identified 4 potential positives in your situation.
So in essence if you contiinue to keep your job in Dubai, it will be on the basis that you will be here on your own, if you can't cope with that then you should indeed stay until April, stop going home so often because it is actually making your life harder and causing more problems for you that it's solving, it also costs money which could be better spent on your debt reduction. If your mothers health is so bad, then your family back home should be entitled to additional benefits, such as carers allowance or whateverr the recent equivalent of this is, your sister should be investigating this and filling in every form she can get her hands on to ease the UK burden.
Jul 25th 2009, 4:18 pm
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Re: Coping with the emotional pain of living apart from family and making Dubai work
the reverse too... didnt Posh Spice have trouble settling in Manchester?
Jul 25th 2009, 7:10 pm
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Re: Coping with the emotional pain of living apart from family and making Dubai work
Jul 26th 2009, 2:05 am
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Re: Coping with the emotional pain of living apart from family and making Dubai work
Can I be really rude?
**** off if you say No.
To the OP, you have been whinging for a while now and yes J'agree with Mata methinks said it.....you can't support 3 generations on your own.....
You seem not to be in the professional bracket which will return sufficient monies for a 'nice' lifestyle.Why the hell is yer M.I.L walking away from State benefits in UK and putting onus on you to earn more?? The whole world knows its free money in the UK.
Sorry I'm bored now but in conclusion,can I just say...don't have family,dependents or surrogates.....be yourself.
**** off if you say No.
To the OP, you have been whinging for a while now and yes J'agree with Mata methinks said it.....you can't support 3 generations on your own.....
You seem not to be in the professional bracket which will return sufficient monies for a 'nice' lifestyle.Why the hell is yer M.I.L walking away from State benefits in UK and putting onus on you to earn more?? The whole world knows its free money in the UK.
Sorry I'm bored now but in conclusion,can I just say...don't have family,dependents or surrogates.....be yourself.
