Originally Posted by christmasoompa

As above, is it the amount on the calculator I gave the link to? If so, it's not extortionate and is absolutely fair. But if it's much more than that, then she's just trying it on and you can tell her you'll pay the amount the calculator comes up with.

I'd understand not including a bonus as that's not guaranteed, but presumably your housing allowance is? So to exclude that seems a bit dodgy at best and possible fraud at worst. You're already earning more than the calculator will have allowed for because of your tax free salary, so can't you count that as a lucky extra and pay whatever the calculator says? That seems like a fair solution to both sides, and (more importantly) to the child/children.

Originally Posted by Adam77

i was actually prepared to pay double what the calculator said.

Originally Posted by Adam77

my housing allowance is not paid to me, it’s paid directly to the landlord.

i was actually prepared to pay double what the calculator said. She just wants not to work much and live off my money.

i am prepared to pay extra directly for childcare to enable her to work more.

ultimately, it’s not about the money. The principle, she doesn’t want to be my wife still have all the privileges of being one.


it’s hard to explain without divulging all the full facts.

bottom line is, can anything be enforced by the uk from the uae ? From what I’ve read online they can’t. Was just seeking if anyone had this experience.

my child will have more than enough, I will ensure of that.