what do I do in this case? please be serious....
Dec 20th 2003, 2:45 pm
#1
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what do I do in this case? please be serious....
My husband and I are on the rocks at the moment. We're seperated and
wouldn't you know we got our interview date. I wrote them a letter
and said we would not be able to make the interview date because my
husband was working and he couldn't get time off. Im sure that will
give me a little time but I don't know how much.
My question is this, given that we havn't had an interview and that we
might be looking at a divorce in the near future unfortunatly, is
there anything or any paper work that I can fill out that would allow
me to stay? Im sure you're all saying "why would you want to stay?"
Well fact is that I've made a home here in the 5 years that I've been
here. I've lost old friends from back home and gained new ones here
and have created a life no matter how bad it seems right now at the
moment. Im wondering if there is anything I can do to stay even
though I have not had an interview.
I know that it would be wrong for me to beg my husband to give me the
interview, because some people are working really hard to get theirs.
I had good intentions in my marriage but unfortuantly things happen
that are out of control I guess. I don't want to do anything illegal
and won't, its not fair to those that are trying so hard. But i
really would like to stay, any advice you can give me would be so much
help to me thank you.
Also I just got my second work authorization card that will be for
another year would I be able to still use it till it runs out? I
can't believe this is happening to me.
wouldn't you know we got our interview date. I wrote them a letter
and said we would not be able to make the interview date because my
husband was working and he couldn't get time off. Im sure that will
give me a little time but I don't know how much.
My question is this, given that we havn't had an interview and that we
might be looking at a divorce in the near future unfortunatly, is
there anything or any paper work that I can fill out that would allow
me to stay? Im sure you're all saying "why would you want to stay?"
Well fact is that I've made a home here in the 5 years that I've been
here. I've lost old friends from back home and gained new ones here
and have created a life no matter how bad it seems right now at the
moment. Im wondering if there is anything I can do to stay even
though I have not had an interview.
I know that it would be wrong for me to beg my husband to give me the
interview, because some people are working really hard to get theirs.
I had good intentions in my marriage but unfortuantly things happen
that are out of control I guess. I don't want to do anything illegal
and won't, its not fair to those that are trying so hard. But i
really would like to stay, any advice you can give me would be so much
help to me thank you.
Also I just got my second work authorization card that will be for
another year would I be able to still use it till it runs out? I
can't believe this is happening to me.
Dec 20th 2003, 3:14 pm
#2
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Joined: Sep 2002
Posts: 16,266
Re: what do I do in this case? please be serious....
Originally posted by Mistressbang
My husband and I are on the rocks at the moment. We're seperated and
wouldn't you know we got our interview date. I wrote them a letter
and said we would not be able to make the interview date because my
husband was working and he couldn't get time off. Im sure that will
give me a little time but I don't know how much.
My question is this, given that we havn't had an interview and that we
might be looking at a divorce in the near future unfortunatly, is
there anything or any paper work that I can fill out that would allow
me to stay? Im sure you're all saying "why would you want to stay?"
Well fact is that I've made a home here in the 5 years that I've been
here. I've lost old friends from back home and gained new ones here
and have created a life no matter how bad it seems right now at the
moment. Im wondering if there is anything I can do to stay even
though I have not had an interview.
I know that it would be wrong for me to beg my husband to give me the
interview, because some people are working really hard to get theirs.
I had good intentions in my marriage but unfortuantly things happen
that are out of control I guess. I don't want to do anything illegal
and won't, its not fair to those that are trying so hard. But i
really would like to stay, any advice you can give me would be so much
help to me thank you.
Also I just got my second work authorization card that will be for
another year would I be able to still use it till it runs out? I
can't believe this is happening to me.
My husband and I are on the rocks at the moment. We're seperated and
wouldn't you know we got our interview date. I wrote them a letter
and said we would not be able to make the interview date because my
husband was working and he couldn't get time off. Im sure that will
give me a little time but I don't know how much.
My question is this, given that we havn't had an interview and that we
might be looking at a divorce in the near future unfortunatly, is
there anything or any paper work that I can fill out that would allow
me to stay? Im sure you're all saying "why would you want to stay?"
Well fact is that I've made a home here in the 5 years that I've been
here. I've lost old friends from back home and gained new ones here
and have created a life no matter how bad it seems right now at the
moment. Im wondering if there is anything I can do to stay even
though I have not had an interview.
I know that it would be wrong for me to beg my husband to give me the
interview, because some people are working really hard to get theirs.
I had good intentions in my marriage but unfortuantly things happen
that are out of control I guess. I don't want to do anything illegal
and won't, its not fair to those that are trying so hard. But i
really would like to stay, any advice you can give me would be so much
help to me thank you.
Also I just got my second work authorization card that will be for
another year would I be able to still use it till it runs out? I
can't believe this is happening to me.
There are "rocks" and then there are "boulders." In many cases where a marriage breaks up, there is still a feeling of affection for the soon to be ex-spouse -- and rather than anger, the feeling is one of regret. Is you husband willing to still go foward with the case? Even if you are NO LONGER living together, the case can still be approved.
Dec 21st 2003, 3:26 pm
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Re: what do I do in this case? please be serious....
Originally posted by Mistressbang
My husband and I are on the rocks at the moment. We're seperated and
wouldn't you know we got our interview date. I wrote them a letter
and said we would not be able to make the interview date because my
husband was working and he couldn't get time off. Im sure that will
give me a little time but I don't know how much.
My question is this, given that we havn't had an interview and that we
might be looking at a divorce in the near future unfortunatly, is
there anything or any paper work that I can fill out that would allow
me to stay? Im sure you're all saying "why would you want to stay?"
Well fact is that I've made a home here in the 5 years that I've been
here. I've lost old friends from back home and gained new ones here
and have created a life no matter how bad it seems right now at the
moment. Im wondering if there is anything I can do to stay even
though I have not had an interview.
I know that it would be wrong for me to beg my husband to give me the
interview, because some people are working really hard to get theirs.
I had good intentions in my marriage but unfortuantly things happen
that are out of control I guess. I don't want to do anything illegal
and won't, its not fair to those that are trying so hard. But i
really would like to stay, any advice you can give me would be so much
help to me thank you.
Also I just got my second work authorization card that will be for
another year would I be able to still use it till it runs out? I
can't believe this is happening to me.
My husband and I are on the rocks at the moment. We're seperated and
wouldn't you know we got our interview date. I wrote them a letter
and said we would not be able to make the interview date because my
husband was working and he couldn't get time off. Im sure that will
give me a little time but I don't know how much.
My question is this, given that we havn't had an interview and that we
might be looking at a divorce in the near future unfortunatly, is
there anything or any paper work that I can fill out that would allow
me to stay? Im sure you're all saying "why would you want to stay?"
Well fact is that I've made a home here in the 5 years that I've been
here. I've lost old friends from back home and gained new ones here
and have created a life no matter how bad it seems right now at the
moment. Im wondering if there is anything I can do to stay even
though I have not had an interview.
I know that it would be wrong for me to beg my husband to give me the
interview, because some people are working really hard to get theirs.
I had good intentions in my marriage but unfortuantly things happen
that are out of control I guess. I don't want to do anything illegal
and won't, its not fair to those that are trying so hard. But i
really would like to stay, any advice you can give me would be so much
help to me thank you.
Also I just got my second work authorization card that will be for
another year would I be able to still use it till it runs out? I
can't believe this is happening to me.
When was your interview date scheduled for? Did you indicate in your letter when you wanted it rescheduled for or did you just write that you couldn't make the interview without any further elaboration? The EAD you just received - was this sent unsolicited?
An attorney has already responded to you. A lot of this will depend on what your husband's attitude towards all of this is. Please respond so that others can help you in such a difficult time.
Dec 22nd 2003, 1:06 am
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Re: what do I do in this case? please be serious....
Originally posted by Mistressbang
My husband and I are on the rocks at the moment. We're seperated and wouldn't you know we got our interview date. I wrote them a letter and said we would not be able to make the interview date because my husband was working and he couldn't get time off. Im sure that will give me a little time but I don't know how much.
My question is this, given that we havn't had an interview and that we might be looking at a divorce in the near future unfortunatly, is there anything or any paper work that I can fill out that would allow me to stay? Im sure you're all saying "why would you want to stay?"
Well fact is that I've made a home here in the 5 years that I've been here. I've lost old friends from back home and gained new ones here and have created a life no matter how bad it seems right now at the moment. Im wondering if there is anything I can do to stay even though I have not had an interview.
I know that it would be wrong for me to beg my husband to give me the interview, because some people are working really hard to get theirs.
I had good intentions in my marriage but unfortuantly things happen that are out of control I guess. I don't want to do anything illegal and won't, its not fair to those that are trying so hard. But i really would like to stay, any advice you can give me would be so much help to me thank you.
Also I just got my second work authorization card that will be for
another year would I be able to still use it till it runs out? I
can't believe this is happening to me.
My husband and I are on the rocks at the moment. We're seperated and wouldn't you know we got our interview date. I wrote them a letter and said we would not be able to make the interview date because my husband was working and he couldn't get time off. Im sure that will give me a little time but I don't know how much.
My question is this, given that we havn't had an interview and that we might be looking at a divorce in the near future unfortunatly, is there anything or any paper work that I can fill out that would allow me to stay? Im sure you're all saying "why would you want to stay?"
Well fact is that I've made a home here in the 5 years that I've been here. I've lost old friends from back home and gained new ones here and have created a life no matter how bad it seems right now at the moment. Im wondering if there is anything I can do to stay even though I have not had an interview.
I know that it would be wrong for me to beg my husband to give me the interview, because some people are working really hard to get theirs.
I had good intentions in my marriage but unfortuantly things happen that are out of control I guess. I don't want to do anything illegal and won't, its not fair to those that are trying so hard. But i really would like to stay, any advice you can give me would be so much help to me thank you.
Also I just got my second work authorization card that will be for
another year would I be able to still use it till it runs out? I
can't believe this is happening to me.
http://britishexpats.com/forum/showt...hreadid=146051
I guess your new honey hasn't worked out?
My advice remains the same: tell your husband the truth and see if he will help you by attending your interview, assuming you have not done so already.
P.S. I post this link only because I find it disingenuous for you to come in here now and ask for help, telling only part of the story, 8 months later. Especially since you got an extremely thorough answer to your questions last time from Meauxna and others.
Last edited by Dekka's Angel; Dec 22nd 2003 at 1:31 am.
Dec 22nd 2003, 6:29 am
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Re: what do I do in this case? please be serious....
Originally posted by Dekka's Angel
I can't believe it's been only 8 months - seems like only yesterday:
I can't believe it's been only 8 months - seems like only yesterday:
"Thank you for telling us where you are coming from Dekka.
... After so many years on the forum it's easier to differentiate between the ones who are sincere and the ones who are not. It is after all our frailties that make us human.
Oh and welcome to the WWP... happy to have you join. Like you say there aren't enough of us..
__________________
Ranjini"
And I was just about to post more kudos to you on the 'words of wisdom' thread. I still will, and I'll add here; *I'm* happy to count you as a WildWoman...one of the smartest ones I 'know'.
mo
