Poppy girl

What I am not getting is why would any man or woman want to put thier spouse's status in danger for removal from the US, especially when there are children involved.

Rete

Not privvy to their thoughts, but a few do come to mind and one of the first is that citizens tend to think that the government won't do anything because they are married to a citizen of that country. Another is to be between a rock and a hard place. He has a job but it doesn't pay well and to look for another with no current US experience and if he doesn't have a viable skill will be very difficult.

peachleaf

Thankyou for all your replies. if the worse comes to the worse would the embassy deport my children and I, if I gave myself in.My husband does not even have enough for a medical appointment for me despite paying insurance through his work.So that just tells me things must be really bad.
I hope this does not sound like a sob story.This would be the last resort as of course it is not fair for the children to go through such stress.

peachleaf

hello Kat
Goodness that was a long time.Yes that must have been very hard.If anything did happen to someone in England there would be no way to afford airfare over there anyway.
I am so glad you sorted it all out.Thankyou and take care

peachleaf

hello Poppy
Unfortunately they would not be able to help.Thankyou for your suggestion though.

Elvira

YOU could potentially be deported. Your children, being USCs, would stay behind and could not be returned to the UK without your husband's permission or a court order.

Are you saying your husband refuses to let you see a doctor because he claims he cannot afford the co-pay (which is typically around $15)>

You need to get an overview of your financial situation and not rely on what your husband tells you. Look at his bank and credit statements, and the household bills.

I have a very bad feeling regarding your husband's attitude to all this. I know you say he is loving, but my gut tells me all this just isn't right.

You two should be a team, but clearly you are not. It is not healthy for a wife to be so dependent, and you are setting yourself up for serious heartbreak.

Go and see an immigration specialist at one of the Catholic charities for advice.

Noorah101

Hi Peach,

Have you and your husband actually ASKED all these people for help yet? Have you asked your family or friends for a loan? Has he asked his family or friends or boss for a loan? Has he tried to go to the bank and get a loan, or has he tried to get cash from a credit card? Does he have any large items he can sell and get extra cash? Heck, even if you have to live on beans, rice, and ramen soup for a month, that should bring in a little extra. Maybe your husband can even get a little part time job on the weekend or evenings and just put the money from that aside little by little...dont' spend it on the family, just save it for your AOS.

You keep saying "that won't work" or "they won't be able to help", but I am not sure if you have actually tried those avenues yet? Is your husband as worried as you are about your status?

Did your kids enter the USA on their US passports?

Rene

Songbird

I agree entirely - the more I read the more uncomfortable I get with the whole situation. There are a few things that don't quite add up.

1. Husband is contract worker and got a sudden job offer for government work - while being in the UK. How does that work? Surely he had to have been making enquirers, applications etc? Granted he came in as a USC BUT what if any discussion took place regarding YOUR and his children's relocation?

2. He has medical insurance ( via his job) isn't it the norm for companies to include spouse and children on this? Hence you would have coverage, is it not possible for you to arrange your own medical and cover the cost of the co-pay?

3. You state that hubby is 'in a pickle' with credit card companies - how so? He has only been back in the USA for a year - he has a contracting job for the government (hence an income and presumably not too shabby otherwise why relocate here?) How could he have run foul of the credit card companies so quickly?

4. He has a bank account - how come he can't seek a small loan / overdraft to cover the cost of sorting out the paperwork? With a steady income this shouldn't be too difficult at all.

Mr. F's VAWA suggestion isn't quite as abrupt as what I initially thought it was - If i were in your position I would be sitting hubby down and have a GOOD chat about exactly what is going on.

Noorah101

The medical she needs for her AOS has to be done by a USCIS civil surgeon. That doctor might not be on their medical plan anyway, so she shouldn't count on being covered for her AOS medical anyway. She can get any vaccinations she might need from her primary care physician through her medical coverage, but perhaps not the full medical to be done by the USCIS doctor.

She should look into that, and start saving up a few hundred for the medical as well. Overall, she should be take a much more pro-active approach to her own immigration, in my opinion.

Rene

Elvira

Does she even need a new medical? I thought they are valid for 12 months, and they originally filed less than a year ago.

Or is it just 6 months?

Elvira

Please, PLEASE, Peach - explore the options outlined by Mr Folinsky - he really does know what he is talking about!

http://britishexpats.com/forum/showp...5&postcount=23

Poppy girl

I think the answer lies within the checking of his financial statements as Elvira suggested.

And your damn right again Elvira something is certainly not right

meauxna

What medical? They decided to move and got on a plane.
She did not have a visa medical overseas.

Elvira

Quoting from her first post:

"Before the 3 months was up my husband sent paperwork off for change of status or permanent visa.His cheque bounced due to lack of funds.THey sent the paperwork back to us and 9 months later it is still sitting in our cupboard..."

I had assumed that they would have included the medical with the paperwork......... but I guess I could be wrong, given the disorganised way they went about this whole immigration lark...

LadyKat1974

Hi All,

Knowing what it is like to be out of status is extremly stressful. Some people(eg. my exhusband) refuse to allow their partners to adjust status cause they don't want the chance that they could leave their partner to go see family members in their home country. I dealt with this for 7yrs with my 1st husband and not able to do a thing about it as he had control over everything even writing down how many miles I went in the car if he wasn't with me. Her husband may have a good reason but we don't know as we are only hearing her side of the story. I am sure she knows what to do, so maybe we could be a more considerate to feelings. Other people read these threads and may be in the same situation as Peach is so their feelings to are being effected. Peach will figure out what to do as it is her business even though she made it public.
Just food for thought
Have a great day all
Kat