So NOW what do I do???
Nov 14th 2008, 1:03 am
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So NOW what do I do???
OK so some of you might remember that I have my parents staying with me for what seems like an eternity but is actually only 30 days. They have finally agreed to go away for 3 nights and my Aunt in the UK e-mails me this morning to tell me that my Mum's Uncle has just died.
I never met the guy but my Mum is quite close to her Aunt and obviously will be worried about her...my dilemma....do I ruin my Mum's weekend away (to celebrate her birthday) and tell her about the death or do I keep quiet until they return here early next week.
I never met the guy but my Mum is quite close to her Aunt and obviously will be worried about her...my dilemma....do I ruin my Mum's weekend away (to celebrate her birthday) and tell her about the death or do I keep quiet until they return here early next week.
Nov 14th 2008, 1:06 am
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Re: So NOW what do I do???
I'd tell her.
Nov 14th 2008, 1:09 am
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Re: So NOW what do I do???
OK so some of you might remember that I have my parents staying with me for what seems like an eternity but is actually only 30 days. They have finally agreed to go away for 3 nights and my Aunt in the UK e-mails me this morning to tell me that my Mum's Uncle has just died.
I never met the guy but my Mum is quite close to her Aunt and obviously will be worried about her...my dilemma....do I ruin my Mum's weekend away (to celebrate her birthday) and tell her about the death or do I keep quiet until they return here early next week.
I never met the guy but my Mum is quite close to her Aunt and obviously will be worried about her...my dilemma....do I ruin my Mum's weekend away (to celebrate her birthday) and tell her about the death or do I keep quiet until they return here early next week.
RIP Uncle
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Nov 14th 2008, 1:20 am
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Re: So NOW what do I do???
Yes, I agree, I'd tell her. In her place, I wouold be very upset to be off enjoying myself, and not having known.
And my honest opinion - it isn't really your right to keep it from her, she has the right to know. I do understand your motivation is the best... but I still think you need to tell her.
I'm sorry about your uncle.
And my honest opinion - it isn't really your right to keep it from her, she has the right to know. I do understand your motivation is the best... but I still think you need to tell her.
I'm sorry about your uncle.
Nov 14th 2008, 3:18 am
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Re: So NOW what do I do???
OK so some of you might remember that I have my parents staying with me for what seems like an eternity but is actually only 30 days. They have finally agreed to go away for 3 nights and my Aunt in the UK e-mails me this morning to tell me that my Mum's Uncle has just died.
I never met the guy but my Mum is quite close to her Aunt and obviously will be worried about her...my dilemma....do I ruin my Mum's weekend away (to celebrate her birthday) and tell her about the death or do I keep quiet until they return here early next week.
I never met the guy but my Mum is quite close to her Aunt and obviously will be worried about her...my dilemma....do I ruin my Mum's weekend away (to celebrate her birthday) and tell her about the death or do I keep quiet until they return here early next week.
Nov 14th 2008, 3:22 am
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Ahh Lisa thats a toughie.. I think you need to tell her... so sorry to hear about your great-uncle xxx
Nov 14th 2008, 6:12 am
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Thanks guys for the advice. I think I'll tell her. I hadn't even met the guy but I know my Mum thinks a lot of him and her Aunt.
Nov 14th 2008, 6:14 am
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Good luck sweetie xx
Nov 14th 2008, 6:15 am
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Re: So NOW what do I do???
OK so some of you might remember that I have my parents staying with me for what seems like an eternity but is actually only 30 days. They have finally agreed to go away for 3 nights and my Aunt in the UK e-mails me this morning to tell me that my Mum's Uncle has just died.
I never met the guy but my Mum is quite close to her Aunt and obviously will be worried about her...my dilemma....do I ruin my Mum's weekend away (to celebrate her birthday) and tell her about the death or do I keep quiet until they return here early next week.
I never met the guy but my Mum is quite close to her Aunt and obviously will be worried about her...my dilemma....do I ruin my Mum's weekend away (to celebrate her birthday) and tell her about the death or do I keep quiet until they return here early next week.
Sorry about your Uncle
Nov 14th 2008, 6:23 am
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Re: So NOW what do I do???
So I told her and although she's very upset but she's glad I told her...one of those times when you realise how far away from family we really are.
Nov 14th 2008, 10:23 pm
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Re: So NOW what do I do???
i am a coward about death. scares the living shite out of me. I still at 43 am petrified of cemetries, ghosts i still beleive in. awful.
