Pers

Hi,
My husband(USC) and I got separated right after AOS was approved and I got my unconditional GC. We had problems before, but he agreed to wait till AOS. Right after that he said that I don't need him anymore and asked me sign a Legal separation ageement. Now 3 years later we still are not divorced, but don't live together. He filed for Adjustment of status for my son. After Fingerprinting and receiving EAD we received AOS Iterview Letter. It's in a week. Even though we were married before my son's 18 birthday and marriage was in good faith, we got separated RIGHT after I got I-551 stamp in my passport. I am very worried! Would that affect my son's Interview? Would that matter?

kentucky kidd

well, when you take advantage of people and use them, and then discard them like so much trash, then you have troubles such as this. i hope you get whats coming to you.

Pers

I wish you didn't judge withouth knowing who used whom! He not only made me sign separation papers, but before we got married-prenuptial agreement, then made his Will the way that I won't get anything. Never put me and my son on his health insuranse, wouldn't get us a joint checking account, but didn't hesitate to take my life savings and use for his retirement fund! He through me and my son out of the house as soon as I got the stamp and sold the house right away! I was hoping for a family and never gave him any financial trouble. I went to work right away, to help him pay his bills. Well, maybe now he feels gulty and wants to help. How do you think I feel?!!!!
So, if you don't have anything helpful to say, don't bother!

Wendy

Two ways to solve your situation:
1. Negotiate with your ex-husband, if he can support and attend the
interview will be a great help to your son.

2. Find yourself a good lawyer.

I think the first way is better, it seems you and your husband at least have
basic understanding, he should help.

Good Luck.
"Pers" <member22592@british_expats.com> wrote in message
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    > Hi,
    > My husband(USC) and I got separated right after AOS was approved
    > and I got my unconditional GC. We had problems before, but he agreed to
    > wait till AOS. Right after that he said that I don't need him anymore
    > and asked me sign a Legal separation ageement. Now 3 years later we
    > still are not divorced, but don't live together. He filed for Adjustment
    > of status for my son. After Fingerprinting and receiving EAD we received
    > AOS Iterview Letter. It's in a week. Even though we were married before
    > my son's 18 birthday and marriage was in good faith, we got separated
    > RIGHT after I got I-551 stamp in my passport. I am very worried! Would
    > that affect my son's Interview? Would that matter?
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    > Posted via http://britishexpats.com

JeffB

Pers,
Don't pay any attention to the Trolls(Kentucky Kidd), there are those out there with no life, except that of trying to bring frustration to ours. Imagine what a sorry existance these individuals have that they spend thier time stalking Message Boards attempting to hurt our feelings. As much trouble as we end up in some days we are very fortunate we are not a Troll, imagine trying to go to sleep everynight realizing what a pathetic existance they are living. Now that we can always take heart in!
Can I get an AMEN!

Jeff and Remi

Pers

Thank you guys so much! This is really hard time for me and any advice counts. I am not a bad person, I came here with great hopes, but I think was totally taken adavntage of. What makes my husband help us now: guilt or a hope of future payoff, doesn't matter to me. I just want out of this situation. I already lost everything I had back home in hopes of having a family, I think I deserve to keep something in here. I really appreciate your help! I talked to a lawyer, she thinks we should be OK. My husband is cooperating or though is very irritated about having to collect papers (it's just some tax returns and a paystub!). He even didn't have to pay for anything, I did. I hope he doesn't change his mind at the last minute.
Thanks again!

Mtravelkay

Wendy wrote:

    > Two ways to solve your situation:
    > 1. Negotiate with your ex-husband, if he can support and attend the
    > interview will be a great help to your son.
    >
    > 2. Find yourself a good lawyer.
    >
    > I think the first way is better, it seems you and your husband at least have
    > basic understanding, he should help.

I don't know that the first way is better. Unless someone lies at the
AOS interview for the son, I think there might be problems, since they
no longer live together. (note: I am not saying to lie)
I am curious... What visa did the son enter under, since it sounds like
the mother got her AOS 3 years earlier.

Pers

My son entered with me as a dependent (k1/k3?) and we did apply for him earlier, but had to reapply last year because his file got lost. We are not going to lie about anything, why would we? Marriage happend before his 18th birtday and was in good faith, at least from my side. We separated, it happens. I wish I didn't sign separation papers or at least hired a lawyer before it, but oh well.
Pity Party? If you noticed my first question didn't have any complaints. But after a mean remark I just had to defend myself. You "reform" will never understand what it's like to be in my shoes.
Everybody else, thank you!

Wendy

I do not mean to lie. He should be honest of course. But he can explain to
the officer their marriage is a sincere one and his words accounts a lot
than the lawyers. Normally INS perfer to the American citizen side and
protect them first. So his attitude is very important.
"mtravelkay" <[email protected]> wrote in message
news:[email protected]...
    > Wendy wrote:
    > > Two ways to solve your situation:
    > > 1. Negotiate with your ex-husband, if he can support and attend the
    > > interview will be a great help to your son.
    > >
    > > 2. Find yourself a good lawyer.
    > >
    > > I think the first way is better, it seems you and your husband at least
have
    > > basic understanding, he should help.
    > I don't know that the first way is better. Unless someone lies at the
    > AOS interview for the son, I think there might be problems, since they
    > no longer live together. (note: I am not saying to lie)
    > I am curious... What visa did the son enter under, since it sounds like
    > the mother got her AOS 3 years earlier.

lairdside

Nothing to add really except good luck.

Facing some difficulties of a similar nature myself

Pers

You do? If you need to talk about it - I am here. Good luck to you too!

lairdside

Thanks Pers.

Always good to have someone who is going through something similar to share with

PM me anytime.

Victoria.

Mtravelkay

Wendy wrote:
    > I do not mean to lie. He should be honest of course. But he can explain to
    > the officer their marriage is a sincere one and his words accounts a lot
    > than the lawyers. Normally INS perfer to the American citizen side and
    > protect them first. So his attitude is very important.

My understanding was that AOS has to do with the current relationship,
not the whether the marriage WAS a sincere one. You said "is", but my
understanding is that you seperated after adjusting status and have been
seperated for If this was the AOS for a K-1, then there would problems
adjusting status if you were no longer together. However, I don't know
how that would work for a K2, after the parent had already adjusted
since, in most cases the K2 adjusts status at the same time as the K1.

Pers

You see, I did not come here for a GC, so I had no idea how the system works, what to file and when, I didn't know what GC is! My husband didn't care much, so we were late with filing for my son. My lawyer said that since our marriage happened before my son's 18th birthday and USC is willing to file for his stepson - it's all we need. Separate addresses of him and a stepson don't mean anything, because stepchild of 18 doesn't have to live with nether of parents and stepparent doesn't have to participate much in his life. I hope she is right. And I hope it helps somebody in situation like mine.
Of course they might ask when we split and that is my worry. I also wonder if I would have problems when I apply for Naturalization, even though I didn't apply after 3 years, because we don't live together anymore, I am going to wait 5 years.