Legolas

I honestly can't imagine being seperated from my wife and child for even a
WEEK! I don't know how people do it for a few months/years!

David

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Dzidzior

    > Simple, you do what has to be done.

I'm waiting here for my wife - its almost a year since i left my
country of origin. It's a lot of pain and problems but there are few
things you can do to help yourself and your family - I travel to here
a lot (every 3 months), we have Internet and webcams - it helps a lot
- almost like she is here. Phone calls ae very important - to hear her
voice... All of this helps a lot. But I'm not suprised with so many
divorces because of that.

Lukas

Christa

Actually, most divorces happen to people who are "together" in front of the
TV. No communication, resentment building up, boredom ... Being separated
for a long time is not a bad thing before marriage. Of course now that we've
been living together, I couldn't imagine being separated for more than a few
weeks anymore. But we would manage.


"Dzidzior" wrote in message
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    > > Simple, you do what has to be done.
    > I'm waiting here for my wife - its almost a year since i left my
    > country of origin. It's a lot of pain and problems but there are few
    > things you can do to help yourself and your family - I travel to here
    > a lot (every 3 months), we have Internet and webcams - it helps a lot
    > - almost like she is here. Phone calls ae very important - to hear her
    > voice... All of this helps a lot. But I'm not suprised with so many
    > divorces because of that.
    > Lukas

cindyabs

My husband and I have been married since June of 2000 and are waiting for the K3 to come thru. The key is patience NOT complacency. As for the harm it does being apart, depends on the inner strength of the two individuals involved and the strength of their relationship. It's your basic trial by fire and it ain't for sissies......

Mvstolar

WELL SAID!!!!
nsc hostage - 1st noa 9/13/02
2nd noa!!!**&%$$#!!
    >The key is patience NOT complacency. As for the
    >harm it does being apart, depends on the inner strength of the two
    >individuals involved and the strength of their relationship. It's your
    >basic trial by fire and it ain't for sissies......
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Ah-Jua

Well, inner strength is a nice thing ... but there are MANY MANY
people who ARE NOT strong inwardly - and it's not their fault. And it
doesn't make them LESS of a person or a bad person. Perhaps it is
because of betrayal upon betrayal that has happened to them. Perhaps
only one betrayal! But a broken heart can do just that ~~~ BREAK YOUR
HEART ~~~ and your INNER STRENGTH. I know I am a sane person, but I
am not very emotionally sound and can't handle the separation well at
all. It is hard to know you can trust a person no matter what they
say - once you've been burned by others whom you also loved very
deeply - and trusted - and whom blew your trust out of the water.

So I don't blame anyone for a breakup after a long separation. I
believe that we all need interaction with someone of the opposite sex.
It fills a need in us. But if you are away from your spouse or fiance,
and someone else is nearby, whom you can see face-to-face, it is easy
to be tempted and drawn towards that person. I flee such temptations -
and I mean "temptation" being when I am enjoying the company of a
man... I have to run from it... cuz I want my husband to be the one to
meet that need in me.

Plus, truth is, those friends can see you are lonely and your husband
is far away - knowing that there is a stronger tendency for these
types of relationships to fail... and they can use it as an
opportunity for "moving in"...

In addition, your husband or wife across the ocean can be going thru
similar situations.

In addition... I have seen so many times how being apart from a person
-- whether family or friend or lover -- can easily lead to increased
lack of trust, doubting, wondering, and negative thoughts that may not
be true... and these are hard to counteract and overcome. People
simply FORGET - at least somewhat - WHEN THEY ARE NOT AROUND THE
PERSON REGULARLY TO BE REMINDED.


Even the STRONGEST relationship can be weakened by time apart.

And who is to say, anyway, that all our relationships SHOULD be so
strong--- I mean, here we are all married or engaged to foreignors...
and being out of our country, away from family and jobs - it is hard
to maintain such a life for long - so probably the time we've had to
spend WITH our partner is very short... so how can it even get so
STRONG?

My strong feelings about the subject...

Sue(Ah-jua)

cindyabs wrote in message news:...
    > My husband and I have been married since June of 2000 and are waiting
    > for the K3 to come thru. The key is patience NOT complacency. As for the
    > harm it does being apart, depends on the inner strength of the two
    > individuals involved and the strength of their relationship. It's your
    > basic trial by fire and it ain't for sissies......