Possible marriage fraud...what to do?
Apr 15th 2006, 11:40 am
#16
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Joined: Jun 2005
Posts: 30
Re: Possible marriage fraud...what to do?
He may not have broken any law. I read somewhere that one can marry for a greencard but that should not be the ONLY or the MAIN reason..but it can be one of the reasons.
Which means you technically dont have to love the person you marry.
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Which means you technically dont have to love the person you marry.
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Originally Posted by kariml
Hi all, it's been quite awhile since I posted here.
I brought my husband over on a K1 in 2003 from Germany. About 7 or 8 months after our marriage, things started going downhill. No abuse or cheating, it was just clear that my husband did not love me and wasn't interested in building a marriage together. I tried for the next year and a half to repair our marriage, but he would never recognize that there was a problem. This is a very condensed version of our marital problems, so I apologize. We moved from KY to VA (DC metro) last year and filed his I-751 in Feb. The day after the petition was mailed my husband told me he was no longer in love with me and wanted a divorce. I have since moved back to KY while he remains in VA. He received a pending letter extending his travel and employment, but has since moved (within the same city) and filed a change of address form.
After having time to think about this it has become clear to me that I was used. Maybe not to get into the country as I do believe he genuinely cared for me, but he knew our marriage was falling apart and wanted out, but waited until it was more convenient to tell me. My family is extremely hurt as they included affidavits attesting to our bona-fide marriage. I feel like I just basically lied to the federal government and it makes me feel awful. I really don't know what to do. We can't file for divorce until August, though.
Anyway, any advice on what I should do?
Thanks.
I brought my husband over on a K1 in 2003 from Germany. About 7 or 8 months after our marriage, things started going downhill. No abuse or cheating, it was just clear that my husband did not love me and wasn't interested in building a marriage together. I tried for the next year and a half to repair our marriage, but he would never recognize that there was a problem. This is a very condensed version of our marital problems, so I apologize. We moved from KY to VA (DC metro) last year and filed his I-751 in Feb. The day after the petition was mailed my husband told me he was no longer in love with me and wanted a divorce. I have since moved back to KY while he remains in VA. He received a pending letter extending his travel and employment, but has since moved (within the same city) and filed a change of address form.
After having time to think about this it has become clear to me that I was used. Maybe not to get into the country as I do believe he genuinely cared for me, but he knew our marriage was falling apart and wanted out, but waited until it was more convenient to tell me. My family is extremely hurt as they included affidavits attesting to our bona-fide marriage. I feel like I just basically lied to the federal government and it makes me feel awful. I really don't know what to do. We can't file for divorce until August, though.
Anyway, any advice on what I should do?
Thanks.
May 13th 2006, 12:49 pm
#17
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Re: Possible marriage fraud...what to do?
Come on. Sure marriage can be for as many reasons as there are people but a
bonifies of a marriage do not include getting a green card. If your
marriage is a real marriage for love or for cultural or religious reasons
then so be it the couple should be together. But to say that getting a
green card can be one of the bonifidies of a marriage is semantic and
freshman gibberish.
A bonifide marriage comes first then one realizes the need for a green card.
"OldJohnDoe" <member40159@british_expats.com> wrote in message
news:[email protected] m...
>> Hi all, it's been quite awhile since I posted here.
>> I brought my husband over on a K1 in 2003 from Germany. About 7 or 8
>> months after our marriage, things started going downhill. No abuse or
>> cheating, it was just clear that my husband did not love me and wasn't
>> interested in building a marriage together. I tried for the next year
>> and a half to repair our marriage, but he would never recognize that
>> there was a problem. This is a very condensed version of our marital
>> problems, so I apologize. We moved from KY to VA (DC metro) last year
>> and filed his I-751 in Feb. The day after the petition was mailed my
>> husband told me he was no longer in love with me and wanted a divorce.
>> I have since moved back to KY while he remains in VA. He received a
>> pending letter extending his travel and employment, but has since
>> moved (within the same city) and filed a change of address form.
>> After having time to think about this it has become clear to me that I
>> was used. Maybe not to get into the country as I do believe he
>> genuinely cared for me, but he knew our marriage was falling apart and
>> wanted out, but waited until it was more convenient to tell me. My
>> family is extremely hurt as they included affidavits attesting to our
>> bona-fide marriage. I feel like I just basically lied to the federal
>> government and it makes me feel awful. I really don't know what to do.
>> We can't file for divorce until August, though.
>> Anyway, any advice on what I should do?
>> Thanks.
> He may not have broken any law. I read somewhere that one can marry for
> a greencard but that should not be the ONLY or the MAIN reason..but it
> can be one of the reasons.
> Which means you technically dont have to love the person you marry.
> ======================================
> --
> Posted via http://britishexpats.com
>
bonifies of a marriage do not include getting a green card. If your
marriage is a real marriage for love or for cultural or religious reasons
then so be it the couple should be together. But to say that getting a
green card can be one of the bonifidies of a marriage is semantic and
freshman gibberish.
A bonifide marriage comes first then one realizes the need for a green card.
"OldJohnDoe" <member40159@british_expats.com> wrote in message
news:[email protected] m...
>> Hi all, it's been quite awhile since I posted here.
>> I brought my husband over on a K1 in 2003 from Germany. About 7 or 8
>> months after our marriage, things started going downhill. No abuse or
>> cheating, it was just clear that my husband did not love me and wasn't
>> interested in building a marriage together. I tried for the next year
>> and a half to repair our marriage, but he would never recognize that
>> there was a problem. This is a very condensed version of our marital
>> problems, so I apologize. We moved from KY to VA (DC metro) last year
>> and filed his I-751 in Feb. The day after the petition was mailed my
>> husband told me he was no longer in love with me and wanted a divorce.
>> I have since moved back to KY while he remains in VA. He received a
>> pending letter extending his travel and employment, but has since
>> moved (within the same city) and filed a change of address form.
>> After having time to think about this it has become clear to me that I
>> was used. Maybe not to get into the country as I do believe he
>> genuinely cared for me, but he knew our marriage was falling apart and
>> wanted out, but waited until it was more convenient to tell me. My
>> family is extremely hurt as they included affidavits attesting to our
>> bona-fide marriage. I feel like I just basically lied to the federal
>> government and it makes me feel awful. I really don't know what to do.
>> We can't file for divorce until August, though.
>> Anyway, any advice on what I should do?
>> Thanks.
> He may not have broken any law. I read somewhere that one can marry for
> a greencard but that should not be the ONLY or the MAIN reason..but it
> can be one of the reasons.
> Which means you technically dont have to love the person you marry.
> ======================================
> --
> Posted via http://britishexpats.com
>
May 13th 2006, 2:39 pm
#18
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Joined: Sep 2002
Posts: 16,266
Re: Possible marriage fraud...what to do?
Originally Posted by Around The World
Come on. Sure marriage can be for as many reasons as there are people but a
bonifies of a marriage do not include getting a green card. If your
marriage is a real marriage for love or for cultural or religious reasons
then so be it the couple should be together. But to say that getting a
green card can be one of the bonifidies of a marriage is semantic and
freshman gibberish.
A bonifide marriage comes first then one realizes the need for a green card.
bonifies of a marriage do not include getting a green card. If your
marriage is a real marriage for love or for cultural or religious reasons
then so be it the couple should be together. But to say that getting a
green card can be one of the bonifidies of a marriage is semantic and
freshman gibberish.
A bonifide marriage comes first then one realizes the need for a green card.
Why are you bringing this up now?
BTW, you happen to be wrong.
May 13th 2006, 3:56 pm
#19
Guest
Posts: n/a
Re: Possible marriage fraud...what to do?
In article <[email protected]> , OldJohnDoe
<member40159@british_expats.com> wrote:
>
> He may not have broken any law. I read somewhere that one can marry for
> a greencard but that should not be the ONLY or the MAIN reason..but it
> can be one of the reasons.
>
> Which means you technically dont have to love the person you marry.
It's not a technicality at all.
The system even has procedures in place for people that are marrying
without first having met or communicated in any way.
I wonder if Tina ever had to deal with immigrationn?
--
J.B. Moreno
<member40159@british_expats.com> wrote:
>
> He may not have broken any law. I read somewhere that one can marry for
> a greencard but that should not be the ONLY or the MAIN reason..but it
> can be one of the reasons.
>
> Which means you technically dont have to love the person you marry.
It's not a technicality at all.
The system even has procedures in place for people that are marrying
without first having met or communicated in any way.
I wonder if Tina ever had to deal with immigrationn?
--
J.B. Moreno
May 13th 2006, 10:50 pm
#20
Forum Regular
Joined: Jun 2005
Posts: 30
Re: Possible marriage fraud...what to do?
It appears you want to write your own immigration laws, since you dont happen to agree with the current ones.
Originally Posted by Around The World
Come on. Sure marriage can be for as many reasons as there are people but a
bonifies of a marriage do not include getting a green card. If your
marriage is a real marriage for love or for cultural or religious reasons
then so be it the couple should be together. But to say that getting a
green card can be one of the bonifidies of a marriage is semantic and
freshman gibberish.
A bonifide marriage comes first then one realizes the need for a green card.
"OldJohnDoe" <member40159@british_expats.com> wrote in message
news:[email protected] m...
>> Hi all, it's been quite awhile since I posted here.
>> I brought my husband over on a K1 in 2003 from Germany. About 7 or 8
>> months after our marriage, things started going downhill. No abuse or
>> cheating, it was just clear that my husband did not love me and wasn't
>> interested in building a marriage together. I tried for the next year
>> and a half to repair our marriage, but he would never recognize that
>> there was a problem. This is a very condensed version of our marital
>> problems, so I apologize. We moved from KY to VA (DC metro) last year
>> and filed his I-751 in Feb. The day after the petition was mailed my
>> husband told me he was no longer in love with me and wanted a divorce.
>> I have since moved back to KY while he remains in VA. He received a
>> pending letter extending his travel and employment, but has since
>> moved (within the same city) and filed a change of address form.
>> After having time to think about this it has become clear to me that I
>> was used. Maybe not to get into the country as I do believe he
>> genuinely cared for me, but he knew our marriage was falling apart and
>> wanted out, but waited until it was more convenient to tell me. My
>> family is extremely hurt as they included affidavits attesting to our
>> bona-fide marriage. I feel like I just basically lied to the federal
>> government and it makes me feel awful. I really don't know what to do.
>> We can't file for divorce until August, though.
>> Anyway, any advice on what I should do?
>> Thanks.
> He may not have broken any law. I read somewhere that one can marry for
> a greencard but that should not be the ONLY or the MAIN reason..but it
> can be one of the reasons.
> Which means you technically dont have to love the person you marry.
> ======================================
> --
> Posted via http://britishexpats.com
>
bonifies of a marriage do not include getting a green card. If your
marriage is a real marriage for love or for cultural or religious reasons
then so be it the couple should be together. But to say that getting a
green card can be one of the bonifidies of a marriage is semantic and
freshman gibberish.
A bonifide marriage comes first then one realizes the need for a green card.
"OldJohnDoe" <member40159@british_expats.com> wrote in message
news:[email protected] m...
>> Hi all, it's been quite awhile since I posted here.
>> I brought my husband over on a K1 in 2003 from Germany. About 7 or 8
>> months after our marriage, things started going downhill. No abuse or
>> cheating, it was just clear that my husband did not love me and wasn't
>> interested in building a marriage together. I tried for the next year
>> and a half to repair our marriage, but he would never recognize that
>> there was a problem. This is a very condensed version of our marital
>> problems, so I apologize. We moved from KY to VA (DC metro) last year
>> and filed his I-751 in Feb. The day after the petition was mailed my
>> husband told me he was no longer in love with me and wanted a divorce.
>> I have since moved back to KY while he remains in VA. He received a
>> pending letter extending his travel and employment, but has since
>> moved (within the same city) and filed a change of address form.
>> After having time to think about this it has become clear to me that I
>> was used. Maybe not to get into the country as I do believe he
>> genuinely cared for me, but he knew our marriage was falling apart and
>> wanted out, but waited until it was more convenient to tell me. My
>> family is extremely hurt as they included affidavits attesting to our
>> bona-fide marriage. I feel like I just basically lied to the federal
>> government and it makes me feel awful. I really don't know what to do.
>> We can't file for divorce until August, though.
>> Anyway, any advice on what I should do?
>> Thanks.
> He may not have broken any law. I read somewhere that one can marry for
> a greencard but that should not be the ONLY or the MAIN reason..but it
> can be one of the reasons.
> Which means you technically dont have to love the person you marry.
> ======================================
> --
> Posted via http://britishexpats.com
>
May 14th 2006, 11:35 am
#21
Concierge
Joined: Apr 2001
Posts: 46,474
Re: Possible marriage fraud...what to do?
Arranged marriages can be bona fide and can result in permanency residency in the US without the couple ever having met in person and/or communicated by letter, phone or any type of telecommunication.
Originally Posted by J.B. Moreno
In article <[email protected]> , OldJohnDoe
<member40159@british_expats.com> wrote:
>
> He may not have broken any law. I read somewhere that one can marry for
> a greencard but that should not be the ONLY or the MAIN reason..but it
> can be one of the reasons.
>
> Which means you technically dont have to love the person you marry.
It's not a technicality at all.
The system even has procedures in place for people that are marrying
without first having met or communicated in any way.
I wonder if Tina ever had to deal with immigrationn?
--
J.B. Moreno
<member40159@british_expats.com> wrote:
>
> He may not have broken any law. I read somewhere that one can marry for
> a greencard but that should not be the ONLY or the MAIN reason..but it
> can be one of the reasons.
>
> Which means you technically dont have to love the person you marry.
It's not a technicality at all.
The system even has procedures in place for people that are marrying
without first having met or communicated in any way.
I wonder if Tina ever had to deal with immigrationn?
--
J.B. Moreno
Last edited by Rete; May 14th 2006 at 11:36 am. Reason: Took out the first sentence.
