over cautious?
Dec 15th 2009, 11:36 am
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over cautious?
Hi all!!!
Wanted to get your views on my query....
As you know I was "flagged" within the system last February. Since that date I have always been referred to secondary and always carried ties to Canada and have never been refused entry.
On my lawyers advise I changed border crossing from Sumas to Pacific Crossing and the officers there have been very sympathetic and even advised me to apply to DHS Trip, which I did, last week.
So, I am leaving about 6 - 8 weeks between visits now, this is causing huge tension in my relationship as my boyfriend thinks I am being paranoid and over cautious....
He feels I have strong ties and should not worry about it.
My view....I think i have been a little over cautious but given that we are palnning our lives there long term and he will not consider Canada, it makes sense for me to be sensible and leave bigger gaps in between visits...
So, view appreciated..... and happy xmas to all!!!!!
Wanted to get your views on my query....
As you know I was "flagged" within the system last February. Since that date I have always been referred to secondary and always carried ties to Canada and have never been refused entry.
On my lawyers advise I changed border crossing from Sumas to Pacific Crossing and the officers there have been very sympathetic and even advised me to apply to DHS Trip, which I did, last week.
So, I am leaving about 6 - 8 weeks between visits now, this is causing huge tension in my relationship as my boyfriend thinks I am being paranoid and over cautious....
He feels I have strong ties and should not worry about it.
My view....I think i have been a little over cautious but given that we are palnning our lives there long term and he will not consider Canada, it makes sense for me to be sensible and leave bigger gaps in between visits...
So, view appreciated..... and happy xmas to all!!!!!
Dec 15th 2009, 11:46 am
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Re: over cautious?
My initial reaction to your boyfriend is..if he doesn't like it, tell him to do the travelling! Probably not very helpful 
especially as the reason I got flagged is that I was going in a little too much in their eyes!
Dec 15th 2009, 1:00 pm
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Re: over cautious?
I think you're over cautious. I'd continue to take short trips, and travel with current evidence of ties and employment.
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Dec 15th 2009, 2:04 pm
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Re: over cautious?
Ian..thanks.....I guess I feel deep down that if anything went wrong, ie refusal of entry, then he would not move up here....and thats my future plans up in the air (TN1 next spring - thats my goal).....maybe I have been a little too paranoid, but there is alot at stake for me......and for some reason my boyfriend cannot see that....hummm maybe its not ex pats I need, maybe its a relationship site....thanks for the reply, happy xmas!
Dec 15th 2009, 2:05 pm
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Re: over cautious?
but thanks for the reply! happy xmas!!!!
Dec 15th 2009, 2:15 pm
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Re: over cautious?
If he wants you to risk getting denied, but also doesn't want to do the fiance visa, then he's not the right one for you, IMO.
Rene
Dec 15th 2009, 2:21 pm
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Re: over cautious?
Which occupation/category will you be seeking a TN for?
Dec 15th 2009, 3:26 pm
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Re: over cautious?
If you are refused entry, then just start K-1 fiance visa process. You'll be back together in about 6 to 8 months! And in the meantime, while waiting, he can come visit you.
If he wants you to risk getting denied, but also doesn't want to do the fiance visa, then he's not the right one for you, IMO.
Rene
If he wants you to risk getting denied, but also doesn't want to do the fiance visa, then he's not the right one for you, IMO.
Rene
awww, thanks...you are right..... its funny, we were just on the phone and he said...I will marry you tomorrow if you get refused entry...very romantic!!!!
you just tell him you got refused
Dec 16th 2009, 6:10 am
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Re: over cautious?
You're a smart girl and it seems you know what the situation holds for you. You have a lot of thinking to do but IMO, dump his lazy butt for someone who appreciates you.
