Originally Posted by mumtwo2

and yes he was detain at uk immigration and we still dont know y they refused to tell us.

Originally Posted by Ray

There is usually something stampoed in his passport.

Originally Posted by mumtwo2

yes it was but he never had a passport till he got one to fly over to see me and he dont have a criminal record so was no reason for it. he could try and enter the country again but would need to call the embassy first and think it would be better if he got a vistors visa instead of coming over here on the waver.

Originally Posted by mumtwo2

and as i said im sure my mum will watch the kids y i visit the embassy and medical if not i do have other family or friends that will do it for me who think i should go and not let anyone hold me back

Originally Posted by mumtwo2

ok ill try and keep this short i met my boyfriend online 10 months ago he is a usc and im a ukc i was still with my ex at the time we fell in love i have visited him twice each time staying for 2 weeks and have only fallen in love with him more. he did try to visit me first but got detand we still dont know why! he has a good job and has shown he can support me we have also spoken to a lawyer who will help us with the k1. here comes the problems we have the money for the k1 but i have to get a 90 day notice for my ex coz i have 2 kids with him but he has no parental rights over my oldest coz he never married me and the year she was born. my family is also not happy about me moving over there they are not thinking about the fact my kids will be better off over there and have a better life all they are thinking about is they dont want to have to fly so far to see them. ok so here are the questions

i have visited him twice but not yet taken my kids my mum says that is abandonment is it? and will that make things hard for me trying to get my son there?

i have debts my ex left me with and now on benefits and my boyfriend trying to pay out to get things sort for us all coming there im slow at paying them off will that affect my k1? even if i keep my bank account here and keep paying them off?

can my kids come with me on the k1 when i go to marry him and stay in the country with me?


will i be able to visit him when the k1 is going though?


i know alot of question but i want to make sure we do it right so there is no way for it to take to long or not go though

thanks to anyone that can help

Originally Posted by Noorah101

I think we do understand. However, getting permission from your ex to remove your youngest from the UK permanently is not an immigration matter, it's a civil matter for you. You don't have to prove anything to immigration, you just have to provide written permission or a court document or something which shows the father is OK with his son immigrating. That's something you might need an attorney for in the UK.

Rene

Originally Posted by Emma M

Not the best thing to do to tell you the truth.
If he loves you, why doesn't he move there? Any man worth their salt would insist on it rather than uprooting the kids.
And is their dad fine with that?
Are the kids ok with being parted from their Father and their family while you go goofing off around the world with them in tow?
It's a bit selfish, isn't it.

Originally Posted by Tracym

Seems a bit harsh - if he has a good career in the US, how do you know it would translate to the UK?

Furthermore, if she is on benefits in the UK, she would not be qualified to sponsor him to come over there - so I really doubt it is an option for them, for him to immigrate instead.

Originally Posted by Emma M

I'm thinking of the kids and their relationship with their father. From the sounds of it, she left her ex for this bloke, wants to run off to the US to be with him, take her kids away from their father, and without thought or care for that as she states that he doesn't have parental rights over her oldest. Watch that particular argument backfire when the kids are older...
I have enough experience in that situation.I know of all the hurt it can cause.
I've caused enough of it to my own kids and my family, although I didn't run off with them, they stayed in the UK with their Father.
I'm not going to stand by and not say anything while I see someone about to make the same sort of mistake!
She's stuck between a rock and a hard place, because if she takes the kids, she's selfish because of taking them away from the father, and if she leaves them there, she's a selfish mother. So she can't win.

Originally Posted by mumtwo2

when i went to met my boyfriend it was to get to know him before putting him into my kids lifes ...

Originally Posted by Tracym

I understand you believe you made a mistake. Of course, you're entitled to your opinion.

But everyone's situation is different, I can't presume to know hers.

When she was in the U.S., her mother took care of the kids, the ex didn't. She says the ex doesn't see the kids much.

I have no idea if its a good idea for her or not, but she seems to think so, and does appear to be thinking of the kids welfare as well.

Originally Posted by Archibald_Leach

Hasn't the original poster already got to the stage of consulting a lawyer and having the emotional lecture from her family? ... as I see it she has already considered the consequences of taking the children with her. She came to this board for advice from others that have made/are making the move to the USA. No need to drag her around the playground .... we have the trailer park board to do that to people