BunnyGirl

I wonder if she's talking about a K3? Linsey, do you know exactly what forms were filed? We can help but we need some details.

sir_eccles

An interesting thought. The attorney is still wrong though.

BunnyGirl

Oh absolutely, just wondered if that's where the fiancé visa confusion originated...

Zoe Bell

I'm still curious as to how we were all rude and nasty and mean ?

We've either corrected a misunderstanding the OP had or stopped them going with an attorney that was about to do something stupid.

Either way I guarantee the OP won't be back saying "oops, sorry I was wrong"

sometimes I wonder why we all bother

Pulaski

Occasionally someone shows up only looking for agreement and confirmation that they are doing everything perfectly. They don't much appreciate objective criticism.

Noorah101

Hey, wait a minute, didn't I just win the Friendliest Mod title around here? LOL

Rene

BunnyGirl

I thought she was complaining about Pulaski

She was complaining about you?? How very dare she!

Pulaski

That hardly seems likely!

Noorah101

I thought she was referring to everyone!

Rene

Hotscot

How'd I miss this?

Zoe Bell

Ya snooze
ya lose

christmasoompa

I must be missing something, because I can't see where anybody has been rude or unfriendly to you? On the contrary, you've been welcomed and given some great advice. Sarcasm is to be expected - it's British Expats after all! But nobody has been rude at all.

I think people are just concerned that your immigration attorney is about to stuff things up for you, with serious consequences. Hopefully that's not the case, and it's just a misunderstanding or miscommunication, but people are only trying to help you avoid a sticky situation.

Good luck to you.

ian-mstm

Quote:

Originally Posted by Linseyb

Can you confirm you are a practicing immigration attorney please?

Have you ever given your children any medicine? Are you a practicing medical doctor? Or, perhaps, you're able to read simple directions and follow them!

All the information is freely available in the forms and the instructions that must be completed. We're not telling you anything that isn't clearly written down by the US government on the very forms that are submitted.

Quote:

Our immigration process was discussed at length with our attorney and we have been advised that I can in fact go on a fiances visa even though we are married.

Your attorney is an idiot. Do you not understand the simple difference in the concept of "spouse" and "fiancé"? They're not the same thing... ergo (for Pulaski) the processes and paperwork are different.

If you want to be pissed off, be pissed off at your attorney!

Quote:

Originally Posted by christmasoompa

But nobody has been rude at all.

I’m happy to be rude – because she is lashing out at us, when she should be angry with her attorney. We’ve broken her perfect bubble by telling her the truth – so, of course, she’s covering up her anger and embarrassment by shooting the messenger. She’s just beginning to realize what a fool she’s been – and that can be a very unsettling moment.

Ian

S Folinsky

Without being a party to the actual conversation, I hesitate to call the attorney an "idiot." Back when I was in practice I would often have consultations where I was told "But Attorney 'x' told me that ..." With permission of the person sitting front of me I would call the other attorney [particularly if I knew them...] and it invariably the attorney said something else [but perhaps close] or there was a "little" fact that either I or the other attorney was not aware of which had a major influence on what would be the correct answer.

Also, language can be a slippery thing. I was recently consulted on a case in a law office where I am "of counsel." After reviewing the file I told the woman "When you and your husband were arrested by Immigration ..." only to be told with vigor "I was never arrested by Immigration." "Sigh. The paperwork shows you were arrested but you were released the same day because you had children at home. Here is the paperwork you signed." Moral -- the person directly involved may not be able to describe their actual immigration situation.

Be nice people.

YouWantFriesWithThat

Good post.

It is very easy for those familiar with certain terms and expressions to expect (sometimes subconsciously) others who may be unfamiliar with those same terms to use everything in its correct context.

When I was in law enforcement you often had to have a lot of patience with people who would get terms mixed up, particularly in times of stress and pressure.

Helping people in such difficult times offers great opportunities to practice empathy, patience and understanding.