Marrying on tourist visa question
Dec 28th 2009, 1:14 pm
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Re: Marrying on tourist visa question
That question is something personal really, but I will answer.
Last time I saw her, we had sex without contraception, and as a result she is pregnant. I come from a good background with old-fashioned views on family, and I don't want my child to be without father on the birth certificate. So if we get married I will be on it. Only have 7 months left, so there is a rush to get it sorted quickly... So yeah...
I mean I could apply for paternity under the wedlock rules, BUT we want the child to have my name etc, loads of things. Plus, its nice to say "Yeah, we are married and we made this child together." rather than "We had this kid but we aren't married". Just my opinion on it all really...
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Dec 28th 2009, 2:02 pm
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Re: Marrying on tourist visa question
Wonderful, congratulations on the pending birth. That's a damn good reason for rushing the wedding. I'm old fashioned myself and agree with marriage when a child is involved. It may not be the way for others but it appears to be the way for you, me and my daugthers 
So fly over on a Wednesday, apply for the license on Thursday and have the wedding on Friday or Saturday and back home with you on Sunday or Monday.
What kind of wedding does she want?
So fly over on a Wednesday, apply for the license on Thursday and have the wedding on Friday or Saturday and back home with you on Sunday or Monday.
What kind of wedding does she want?
Why even get married? Nowadays many people don't bother with it.
That question is something personal really, but I will answer.
Last time I saw her, we had sex without contraception, and as a result she is pregnant. I come from a good background with old-fashioned views on family, and I don't want my child to be without father on the birth certificate. So if we get married I will be on it. Only have 7 months left, so there is a rush to get it sorted quickly... So yeah...
I mean I could apply for paternity under the wedlock rules, BUT we want the child to have my name etc, loads of things. Plus, its nice to say "Yeah, we are married and we made this child together." rather than "We had this kid but we aren't married". Just my opinion on it all really...
That question is something personal really, but I will answer.
Last time I saw her, we had sex without contraception, and as a result she is pregnant. I come from a good background with old-fashioned views on family, and I don't want my child to be without father on the birth certificate. So if we get married I will be on it. Only have 7 months left, so there is a rush to get it sorted quickly... So yeah...
I mean I could apply for paternity under the wedlock rules, BUT we want the child to have my name etc, loads of things. Plus, its nice to say "Yeah, we are married and we made this child together." rather than "We had this kid but we aren't married". Just my opinion on it all really...
Dec 28th 2009, 2:17 pm
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Re: Marrying on tourist visa question
In ref to BritishGuy, I was being slightly sarcastic xD
I'm all go on marriage, but some people aren't.
@ Rete
What she wants is a full white dress wedding. What she says is "I don't care about that, we need the money."
But last time I was there, I saw all the brides' and wedding type magazines stashed underneath the couch. And I can just hear it in her voice. So even though it will hit hard on my wallet, I'm going to make the day as perfect as possible. Not just for her, for me as well... I only plan on having one wedding day xD
I can't wait, although I'm not looking forward to looking at the ATM machine afterwards, although I will try to get the wedding about 3 days before I get paid, so that I know I will have enough cash... Will set up a joint bank account too so that she can access it, or use my JPA facility to split my salary.
Anyways, thanks for the guidance
People really are nice here.
I'm all go on marriage, but some people aren't.
@ Rete
What she wants is a full white dress wedding. What she says is "I don't care about that, we need the money."
But last time I was there, I saw all the brides' and wedding type magazines stashed underneath the couch. And I can just hear it in her voice. So even though it will hit hard on my wallet, I'm going to make the day as perfect as possible. Not just for her, for me as well... I only plan on having one wedding day xD
I can't wait, although I'm not looking forward to looking at the ATM machine afterwards, although I will try to get the wedding about 3 days before I get paid, so that I know I will have enough cash... Will set up a joint bank account too so that she can access it, or use my JPA facility to split my salary.
Anyways, thanks for the guidance
People really are nice here.
Dec 28th 2009, 2:25 pm
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Re: Marrying on tourist visa question
Have her look at David's Bridal. My co-worker's daughter got married end of November being 7 months pregnant. She found the perfect wedding dress there and it was $350. Also tell her to try ebay or any consignment shops in the area.
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Dec 28th 2009, 2:32 pm
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Thanks Rete!
God its 3:30 and im still not asleep! I'm going to have to go... will definetly post some tomorrow
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Dec 28th 2009, 4:41 pm
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Re: Marrying on tourist visa question
Marian got a lovely bias-cut silk dress from the 1930s on eBay for $65, and she looked absolutely beautiful in it.
Dec 29th 2009, 1:53 am
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Trying to figure out if this is a contradiction, is consistent, or what ....
For some reason I thought that "good background with old-fashioned views on family" required no sex until after marriage.
For some reason I thought that "good background with old-fashioned views on family" required no sex until after marriage.
Dec 29th 2009, 3:04 am
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That has been pointed out by Ian earlier. Now may we leave the gentleman alone. Even in Victorian times pre-martial sex was condoned as long as it was discreet.
Dec 29th 2009, 3:15 am
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Re: Marrying on tourist visa question
My dress was not a typical wedding gown( because that wasn't what I wanted)but I got it on clearance at Macy's. It was originally $399 and after markdowns and coupons it was $19 !!!
Dec 29th 2009, 4:22 am
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Just for the heck of it I checked out e-bay.
I can't believe the beautiful dresses, variety of sizes, and how inexpensive they are.
I can't believe the beautiful dresses, variety of sizes, and how inexpensive they are.
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Dec 29th 2009, 5:46 am
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They do have a great selection. Even if you need alterations it would still cost alot less than buying from a retail store.
Dec 29th 2009, 6:35 am
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Re: Marrying on tourist visa question
Just a quick reply to the funny post back...
Yes, it is a little unorthodox to the traditional view that I hold. However, the way we look at things is very much about not bringing the family name down. We had sex, something which is fine to do but not talk about if you see what I mean?
Anyway, I'm off again for a while!
Rothwell
Yes, it is a little unorthodox to the traditional view that I hold. However, the way we look at things is very much about not bringing the family name down. We had sex, something which is fine to do but not talk about if you see what I mean?
Anyway, I'm off again for a while!
Rothwell
