Married to a girl, got her GC and now she want to take my money - HELP!
Dec 1st 2002, 6:42 pm
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Married to a girl, got her GC and now she want to take my money - HELP!
I got married to a girl from Europe 4 years ago. Brought her over here on a
F1 student visa. She was on F1 for 4 years. I got my US citizenship and
filed for her. She got her green card this summer. It is good for 10 years.
(I guess she don't have to remove condition after 2 years!?) Now she has a
new boyfriend (she doesn't know that I know about) and wants to divorce me.
Besides divorcing, she wants to take half of my savings (I have earned this
money while I was married to her, but I earned it alone and supported her
thru collage --$100/foreign student unit). She has an 8 year old from her
previous marriage. She is about to hire a lawyer and seek for alimony
support from me and take half of my savings. Is there any way that I can
void my marriage? Is there a better way out ? (I respect the child, he has a
future here in the US, not much in Romania. Doesn't even remember his old
country.). Can/should I call INS and explain the situation? Any easy way out
for me without spending all my savings + years of alimony? What should I do?
Please, help. Thanks in advance, Mike
F1 student visa. She was on F1 for 4 years. I got my US citizenship and
filed for her. She got her green card this summer. It is good for 10 years.
(I guess she don't have to remove condition after 2 years!?) Now she has a
new boyfriend (she doesn't know that I know about) and wants to divorce me.
Besides divorcing, she wants to take half of my savings (I have earned this
money while I was married to her, but I earned it alone and supported her
thru collage --$100/foreign student unit). She has an 8 year old from her
previous marriage. She is about to hire a lawyer and seek for alimony
support from me and take half of my savings. Is there any way that I can
void my marriage? Is there a better way out ? (I respect the child, he has a
future here in the US, not much in Romania. Doesn't even remember his old
country.). Can/should I call INS and explain the situation? Any easy way out
for me without spending all my savings + years of alimony? What should I do?
Please, help. Thanks in advance, Mike
Dec 1st 2002, 9:46 pm
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Re: Married to a girl, got her GC and now she want to take my money - HELP!
> I got married to a girl from Europe 4 years ago. Brought her over here on
a
> F1 student visa. She was on F1 for 4 years. I got my US citizenship and
> filed for her. She got her green card this summer. It is good for 10
years.
> (I guess she don't have to remove condition after 2 years!?) Now she has a
> new boyfriend (she doesn't know that I know about) and wants to divorce
me.
> Besides divorcing, she wants to take half of my savings (I have earned
this
> money while I was married to her, but I earned it alone and supported her
> thru collage --$100/foreign student unit). She has an 8 year old from her
> previous marriage. She is about to hire a lawyer and seek for alimony
> support from me and take half of my savings. Is there any way that I can
> void my marriage? Is there a better way out ? (I respect the child, he has
a
> future here in the US, not much in Romania. Doesn't even remember his old
> country.). Can/should I call INS and explain the situation? Any easy way
out
> for me without spending all my savings + years of alimony? What should I
do?
> Please, help. Thanks in advance, Mike
Hire a lawyer yourself? This has nothing to do with a VISA anymore.
a
> F1 student visa. She was on F1 for 4 years. I got my US citizenship and
> filed for her. She got her green card this summer. It is good for 10
years.
> (I guess she don't have to remove condition after 2 years!?) Now she has a
> new boyfriend (she doesn't know that I know about) and wants to divorce
me.
> Besides divorcing, she wants to take half of my savings (I have earned
this
> money while I was married to her, but I earned it alone and supported her
> thru collage --$100/foreign student unit). She has an 8 year old from her
> previous marriage. She is about to hire a lawyer and seek for alimony
> support from me and take half of my savings. Is there any way that I can
> void my marriage? Is there a better way out ? (I respect the child, he has
a
> future here in the US, not much in Romania. Doesn't even remember his old
> country.). Can/should I call INS and explain the situation? Any easy way
out
> for me without spending all my savings + years of alimony? What should I
do?
> Please, help. Thanks in advance, Mike
Hire a lawyer yourself? This has nothing to do with a VISA anymore.
Dec 2nd 2002, 4:07 am
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Re: Married to a girl, got her GC and now she want to take my money - HELP!
Mike,
If you register on this board with an email address, it will apparently allow other people to send email to you directly rather than to post publicly. The only way to have a flame-free discussion that allows you to figure out if it is an immigration issue or not is to go underground. Don't be surprised if you make more contacts with middle-aged women (US citizens) who have faced your nightmare than men.
If you register on this board with an email address, it will apparently allow other people to send email to you directly rather than to post publicly. The only way to have a flame-free discussion that allows you to figure out if it is an immigration issue or not is to go underground. Don't be surprised if you make more contacts with middle-aged women (US citizens) who have faced your nightmare than men.
Dec 2nd 2002, 5:29 am
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Re: Married to a girl, got her GC and now she want to take my money -
I am confused.
You married her 4 years ago and now she wants 1/2 of your savings that
you actually saved during the time of the marriage. So, give it to her.
What does this have to do with immigration visas? You have been married
for 4 years, do you have any proof of fraud in her getting the PR
statuss?
Get a divorce attorney, leave INS out of it.
You married her 4 years ago and now she wants 1/2 of your savings that
you actually saved during the time of the marriage. So, give it to her.
What does this have to do with immigration visas? You have been married
for 4 years, do you have any proof of fraud in her getting the PR
statuss?
Get a divorce attorney, leave INS out of it.
Dec 2nd 2002, 11:07 am
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As near as I can tell, Mike's email address would not be "known on a public forum" if he registeres with a valid address. I am registered with a valid email address, I will eat a slice of humble pie if you will prove that I am wrong by revealing my email address right here.
My point is that Mike's topic draws a lot of nasty comments from people who don't understand the issues as they relate to immigration, so it is best taken outside of their shouting circle. Unfortunately, Mike has probably already been scared away, and without an email address, he isn't receiving email notification to additional replies to his post.
My point is that Mike's topic draws a lot of nasty comments from people who don't understand the issues as they relate to immigration, so it is best taken outside of their shouting circle. Unfortunately, Mike has probably already been scared away, and without an email address, he isn't receiving email notification to additional replies to his post.
Dec 2nd 2002, 5:55 pm
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bobzy wrote:
>
> My point is that Mike's topic draws a lot of nasty comments from people
> who don't understand the issues as they relate to immigration, so it is
> best taken outside of their shouting circle.
What kind of nasty comments. They have been married and living together
for 4 years.
It would be a stretch to start complaining to INS about fraud, unless
you had proof.
>
> My point is that Mike's topic draws a lot of nasty comments from people
> who don't understand the issues as they relate to immigration, so it is
> best taken outside of their shouting circle.
What kind of nasty comments. They have been married and living together
for 4 years.
It would be a stretch to start complaining to INS about fraud, unless
you had proof.
Dec 2nd 2002, 8:00 pm
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You could always spend the money! She can't take what you don't have - go on a cruise, hire a troop of strippers, buy a new car, join hair club for men, buy a box a the red sox or even a hot dog at the red sox (that should do it).
Dec 3rd 2002, 2:43 am
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Re: Married to a girl, got her GC and now she want to take my
Mike,
At the very least,you owe her half your savings.If you live in a
community property state,it will be by law.If you are not in a community
property state,then
by moral attitude.While she is married to you,the term is "our"
savings,not my savings.
If divorce is imminent,seek a divorce lawyer.Be happy she only wants her
fair
share.
Hope for all to work out as painlessly as
possible for both of you.
John M
At the very least,you owe her half your savings.If you live in a
community property state,it will be by law.If you are not in a community
property state,then
by moral attitude.While she is married to you,the term is "our"
savings,not my savings.
If divorce is imminent,seek a divorce lawyer.Be happy she only wants her
fair
share.
Hope for all to work out as painlessly as
possible for both of you.
John M
Dec 3rd 2002, 4:01 am
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Re: Married to a girl, got her GC and now she want to take my money - HELP!
In article , bobzy
writes
>Mike,
>If you register on this board with an email address, it will apparently
>allow other people to send email to you directly rather than to post
>publicly. The only way to have a flame-free discussion that allows you
>to figure out if it is an immigration issue or not is to go underground.
>Don't be surprised if you make more contacts with middle-aged women (US
>citizens) who have faced your nightmare than men.
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Subject: Married to a girl, got her GC and now she want to take my money
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>Mike,
>If you register on this board with an email address, it will apparently
>allow other people to send email to you directly rather than to post
>publicly. The only way to have a flame-free discussion that allows you
>to figure out if it is an immigration issue or not is to go underground.
>Don't be surprised if you make more contacts with middle-aged women (US
>citizens) who have faced your nightmare than men.
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- HELP!
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Dec 3rd 2002, 10:35 am
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Re: Married to a girl, got her GC and now she want to take my money - HELP!
As you can see, Mike clearly gave his hotmail address
Could someone who is able to see Mike's address and my address be so kind as to send mine to Mike, asking him to contact me?
Dec 11th 2002, 11:25 am
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Re: Married to a girl, got her GC and now she want to take mymoney...
I am sure it depends on "what state" the divorce happened in... each state
had different laws concerning joint-marital property..
my state says that Joint marital property is ONLY assets and propety
acquired during the marriage. Any joint-property is split 50%.
If someone had money in their savings before they were married, And that
saved money is clearly not used up during the marriage, then in my state,
that money is NOT community property, and it should go to the person who
owned that savings money before the marriage, they "are supposed" to get it
all back..
at least that is the way it's supposed to work, with lawyers inolved, then
there are many ways someone can lay claim to non-marital property... but
the law is clear here, and non-marriage money or property is not joint-owned
BR
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> Mike,
> At the very least,you owe her half your savings.If you live in a
> community property state,it will be by law.If you are not in a community
> property state,then
> by moral attitude.While she is married to you,the term is "our"
> savings,not my savings.
> If divorce is imminent,seek a divorce lawyer.Be happy she only wants her
> fair
> share.
> Hope for all to work out as painlessly as
> possible for both of you.
> John M
had different laws concerning joint-marital property..
my state says that Joint marital property is ONLY assets and propety
acquired during the marriage. Any joint-property is split 50%.
If someone had money in their savings before they were married, And that
saved money is clearly not used up during the marriage, then in my state,
that money is NOT community property, and it should go to the person who
owned that savings money before the marriage, they "are supposed" to get it
all back..
at least that is the way it's supposed to work, with lawyers inolved, then
there are many ways someone can lay claim to non-marital property... but
the law is clear here, and non-marriage money or property is not joint-owned
BR
"John Mott" wrote in message
news:[email protected]...
> Mike,
> At the very least,you owe her half your savings.If you live in a
> community property state,it will be by law.If you are not in a community
> property state,then
> by moral attitude.While she is married to you,the term is "our"
> savings,not my savings.
> If divorce is imminent,seek a divorce lawyer.Be happy she only wants her
> fair
> share.
> Hope for all to work out as painlessly as
> possible for both of you.
> John M
Dec 11th 2002, 12:02 pm
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Re: Married to a girl, got her GC and now she want to take mymoney...
Originally posted by Billreese
I am sure it depends on "what state" the divorce happened in... each state had different laws concerning joint-marital property..
I am sure it depends on "what state" the divorce happened in... each state had different laws concerning joint-marital property..
Caroline
Dec 12th 2002, 1:05 am
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Re: Married to a girl, got her GC and now she want to take my money -
The state you and/or reside in.
Of course, divorce in the US requires residency in the state.
For instance, if you and your spouse are living in Calif, I doubt you
can simply move to a non community property state to eliminate her
community property rights.
Caro wrote:
>
> Originally posted by Billreese
> > I am sure it depends on "what state" the divorce happened in... each
> > state had different laws concerning joint-marital property..
> >
>
> Is it the state that you are getting the divorce in that matters or the
> state that you got married in [regarding the kind of laws are regulating
> the marriage]?
>
> Caroline
>
> --
> Posted via http://britishexpats.com
Of course, divorce in the US requires residency in the state.
For instance, if you and your spouse are living in Calif, I doubt you
can simply move to a non community property state to eliminate her
community property rights.
Caro wrote:
>
> Originally posted by Billreese
> > I am sure it depends on "what state" the divorce happened in... each
> > state had different laws concerning joint-marital property..
> >
>
> Is it the state that you are getting the divorce in that matters or the
> state that you got married in [regarding the kind of laws are regulating
> the marriage]?
>
> Caroline
>
> --
> Posted via http://britishexpats.com
Dec 12th 2002, 2:16 am
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Re: Married to a girl, got her GC and now she want to take my money -
Originally posted by Mrtravel
The state you and/or reside in.
Of course, divorce in the US requires residency in the state.
For instance, if you and your spouse are living in Calif, I doubt you
can simply move to a non community property state to eliminate her
community property rights.
The state you and/or reside in.
Of course, divorce in the US requires residency in the state.
For instance, if you and your spouse are living in Calif, I doubt you
can simply move to a non community property state to eliminate her
community property rights.
This is off-topic now, but I know that as far as France is concerned, the laws that apply to my marriage are not the French laws since I was married in the US but the laws of the State of Michigan, state I was married in, independently of where I now reside. But I surely hope never to have to find out more about the subject...
Caroline
