marriage
Feb 15th 2006, 9:32 pm
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marriage
I was curious about my status to get a permanent residence if I were to
marry my boyfriend in the United States. Thing is I am currently
seperated from a marriage in Canada that is an immigration marriage. I
am required to sponsor my spouse for a further two years in Canada. We
plan to file for divorce in the next couple of months. Once I am
divorced I am still required to sponsor him for a further two years.
Culturally our marriage didn't work because we do not share the same
religious beliefs sexually not on the same plane, and we never
discussed the living arrangements with the in-laws before we got
married. They want to move in. I also found him very demeaning once
we did get married. I loved him but wonder if his intentions were just
so he could stay in Canada. I found him emotionally abusive. Telling
me I should cook and clean like a Chinese girl should. I was slowly
put on a back burner once we did get married and I believe but have no
real evidence that there is another girl in his native home of China.
I picked up the phone once while he was talking to someone in China and
it was a younger girls voice, and he has no sisters or cousins that I
know of. It was in chinese so I never understood what was said. When
I got married I was a younger, I was only 24 and now I am 27. My
parents really encouraged the wedding. I really did not weigh out the
consequences of my choice to do this as people in their early 20s
usually don't.
Currently I share the same religion as my current boyfriend as
well as other qualities. I am more aware of what I want in a spouse.
I have known him well over four years. We were friends for a long
time, we used to chat on the internet. We intentionally met as friends
and one thing led to another... I have met him and lived with him for
a few months. He treats me with dignity and respect. I have a higher
self esteem because of him.
Questions are....
Should I wait two years and then get married to my boyfriend?
Is the United States immigration going to look at the fact that my
first marriage failed and now I am involved with an American man, and
wanting to move to the United States?
Will I have to prove that my love was real in my first marriage and
that culturally we were not on the same page. Whereas an American is
more like a Canadian then a Chinese person?
Would pre-marital counselling be a plus for us, and look good to
immigration?
I don't want to jump into a marriage and find out we can't be together
because of my past.
Thank-you in advance
Mybelle
marry my boyfriend in the United States. Thing is I am currently
seperated from a marriage in Canada that is an immigration marriage. I
am required to sponsor my spouse for a further two years in Canada. We
plan to file for divorce in the next couple of months. Once I am
divorced I am still required to sponsor him for a further two years.
Culturally our marriage didn't work because we do not share the same
religious beliefs sexually not on the same plane, and we never
discussed the living arrangements with the in-laws before we got
married. They want to move in. I also found him very demeaning once
we did get married. I loved him but wonder if his intentions were just
so he could stay in Canada. I found him emotionally abusive. Telling
me I should cook and clean like a Chinese girl should. I was slowly
put on a back burner once we did get married and I believe but have no
real evidence that there is another girl in his native home of China.
I picked up the phone once while he was talking to someone in China and
it was a younger girls voice, and he has no sisters or cousins that I
know of. It was in chinese so I never understood what was said. When
I got married I was a younger, I was only 24 and now I am 27. My
parents really encouraged the wedding. I really did not weigh out the
consequences of my choice to do this as people in their early 20s
usually don't.
Currently I share the same religion as my current boyfriend as
well as other qualities. I am more aware of what I want in a spouse.
I have known him well over four years. We were friends for a long
time, we used to chat on the internet. We intentionally met as friends
and one thing led to another... I have met him and lived with him for
a few months. He treats me with dignity and respect. I have a higher
self esteem because of him.
Questions are....
Should I wait two years and then get married to my boyfriend?
Is the United States immigration going to look at the fact that my
first marriage failed and now I am involved with an American man, and
wanting to move to the United States?
Will I have to prove that my love was real in my first marriage and
that culturally we were not on the same page. Whereas an American is
more like a Canadian then a Chinese person?
Would pre-marital counselling be a plus for us, and look good to
immigration?
I don't want to jump into a marriage and find out we can't be together
because of my past.
Thank-you in advance
Mybelle
Feb 16th 2006, 4:47 am
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Re: marriage
Should I wait two years and then get married to my boyfriend?
This one is up to you.
Is the United States immigration going to look at the fact that my first marriage failed?
No. All you will need to produce is a divorce certificate.
Will I have to prove that my love was real in my first marriage and that culturally we were not on the same page.
No. You will have to prove that your marriage to an American is real and is for love and not immigration reasons.
Would pre-marital counselling be a plus for us, and look good to immigration?
It's a personal issue, and US immigration officer/consular officer will not care whether you had premarital counseling. It would probably be a plus for you so that you don't make another mistake and leave your entire life behind you, but it's not an immigration issue.
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This one is up to you.
Is the United States immigration going to look at the fact that my first marriage failed?
No. All you will need to produce is a divorce certificate.
Will I have to prove that my love was real in my first marriage and that culturally we were not on the same page.
No. You will have to prove that your marriage to an American is real and is for love and not immigration reasons.
Would pre-marital counselling be a plus for us, and look good to immigration?
It's a personal issue, and US immigration officer/consular officer will not care whether you had premarital counseling. It would probably be a plus for you so that you don't make another mistake and leave your entire life behind you, but it's not an immigration issue.
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