The Princess

Just out of curiosity, for those of you who have or are getting ready
to tie the knot, how long did you wait from the time the foreign
fiancee entered the States to the time that you were actually married?
Would you recommend going up through the alotted three months, or
would you recommend that the marriage occur as soon as they arrive in
the country?

just wondering,
the Princess

Ticket To Us

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[email protected] (the Princess) wrote:

    > Just out of curiosity, for those of you who have or are getting ready
    > to tie the knot, how long did you wait from the time the foreign
    > fiancee entered the States to the time that you were actually married?
    > Would you recommend going up through the alotted three months, or
    > would you recommend that the marriage occur as soon as they arrive in
    > the country?
    >
IF the foreign fiance has been to the US before, and KNOWS what he/she
is getting into, you've been together extensively, and everything is
hunky-dory after his/her arrival, then marriage can be as soon as you
want. IF, however, the foreign fiance has NEVER been in the US before,
meetings together have been limited, and the US is all very new and very
strange, one MIGHT want to consider waiting until they are totally SURE
that each of them feels the same way they *thought* they did prior to
the arrival.

I say this after reading some posts after arrivals of the foreign
fiance, only to find that the US fiance or foreign fiance was not what
they had anticipated previously. Of course, taking one's time in the
engagement period and meeting/being together as much as possible can
help to minimize this, but all too often we see a one-time meeting and
then marriage right after arrival, and then disaster strikes in some
form or fashion.

There have, for instance, been cases of a spouse:
1. being controlling by taking a passport, not filing paperwork, not
giving foreign spouse any money, no transportation, etc.
2. being a drug addict, alcoholic, etc.
3. having a mental illness that was previously not brought to light.
4. having a medical problem crop up which required extensive surgery or
medical care, which could not be financed by the US spouse.

These are, of course, worst-case scenarios, however it's good to go into
this with your eyes wide open and aware that problems can and do occur,
which were totally unanticipated previously. There are never any
guarantees in all of this, obviously.
--
US Ticket

Christa

We've known each other for 4 years before the wedding, my husband was in the
US twice a year during that time. He arrived with the K1 on Dec. 12th 2000,
we got married Dec. 27th 2000. It was us and the 2 witnesses wed by a pastor
in a historic building here in town. No extensive wedding planning was
necessary.


"the Princess" wrote in message
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    > Just out of curiosity, for those of you who have or are getting ready
    > to tie the knot, how long did you wait from the time the foreign
    > fiancee entered the States to the time that you were actually married?
    > Would you recommend going up through the alotted three months, or
    > would you recommend that the marriage occur as soon as they arrive in
    > the country?
    > just wondering,
    > the Princess