Gary Morrison

When my fiancee has her interview at Guangzhou, is how well the
interview is going for us likely to be readily apparent? Or, in
contrast, are they more likely to "keep a poker face" about how well or
badly it's going?

For example, if they don't have adequate proof of ... whatever ... will
they probably tell her that, so that she can point out some document to
address that concern?

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Noorah101

If she is lacking something, they will ask to see it. If they have questions about what she is presenting, they'll ask about it. If she needs to gather more of something, they'll give her a chance to obtain it and return it to them another day, if necessary.

She should just be relaxed, and answer the questions as they come along. She shouldn't be concerned with trying to read how the interview is going. She shouldnt' try to get inside the officer's head to figure anything out. Just be relaxed, answer the quesitons asked, don't volunteer more than they ask, and present whatever paperwork they ask for.

Best Wishes,
Rene

scrubbedexpat099

Have a look on candleforlove.

Extremely quick and simple where I had mone but I have no idea about China.

Gary Morrison

Noorah101 wrote:

    > If she is lacking something, they will ask to see it. If they have
    > questions about what she is presenting, they'll ask about it. If she
    > needs to gather more of something, they'll give her a chance to obtain
    > it and return it to them another day, if necessary.
    >
    > She should just be relaxed, and answer the questions as they come
    > along. She shouldn't be concerned with trying to read how the
    > interview is going. She shouldnt' try to get inside the officer's
    > head to figure anything out. Just be relaxed, answer the quesitons
    > asked, don't volunteer more than they ask, and present whatever
    > paperwork they ask for.

That's great advice; thanks!

About volunteering stuff though, I have a question: She'll be taking
with her a listing of the nearly 1000 Email messages we've exchanged,
along with several of the Email messages themselves selected more or
less at random.

Should she not volunteer to show that until they say something like, "we
don't see much evidence of a relationship between you two"?

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Noorah101

By not volunteering, I meant answer only the question asked, until they ask further. For example, if they ask "do you know what time it is?" she should say "yes". If they ask "what time is it?" she should say "3:00" or whatever it is. Meaning, answer minimally, until they ask for details.

As for showing documents, at our interview in Turkey, I only presented what they specifically asked for. They asked for the most current 6 months of original phone bills. I had brought a year's worth, but I only showed her the most recent 6 months. They asked for ALL the photos we had together, so I showed them ALL the photos, covering several trips and several years. They didn't ask to see any correspondence, so I never did show them the few cards and letters we had exchanged. We never had email correspondence, so I had none to show anyway.

They will ask for what they need. If they ask in general "do you have something to show that you correspond with each other?" She can say "you mean for example, emails?" They can say "yes", and then she can show the email list. That's just an example. From what I can see, they will ask for whatever evidence they want to see.

This is based on my experience in Turkey, and from other postings on this forum. I have no direct experience with China.

Did you check out that candleforlove.com site? They probably have lots of good tips...it's geared completely to China.

Best Wishes,
Rene

Gary Morrison

Noorah101 wrote:

    > By not volunteering, I meant answer only the question asked, until they
    > ask further. For example, if they ask "do you know what time it is?"
    > she should say "yes". If they ask "what time is it?" she should say
    > "3:00" or whatever it is. Meaning, answer minimally, until they ask
    > for details.

OK. That's good advice.

    >
    > Did you check out that candleforlove.com site? They probably have lots
    > of good tips...it's geared completely to China.

I wasn't sure what to make of "candleforlove" without the .com after it.
So, I'll look for it, now that I know that it's a website.

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Gary Morrison

Noorah101 wrote:

    > As for showing documents, at our interview in Turkey, I only presented
    > what they specifically asked for. They asked for the most current 6
    > months of original phone bills.

Speaking of phone bills, I sent my fiancee one particular month's phone
bill, since she didn't say how much to send. Should I dig up a larger
history of phone bills and send them to her?

In all honesty, although we send each other oooooodles of Email, we
don't talk a lot on the phone because of the time difference, and
because there is still a substantial spoken language gap.

In the three times we've been together in China, we spoke almost
entirely Mandarin, as we do over the phone, but unlike over the phone,
in person we can also use gestures, drawings, and translation computer
programs, so in person we communicate quite well, but it's a little more
difficult over the phone.

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Noorah101

It certainly couldn't hurt. In our case, we only spoke on the phone, very few written correspondences, and zero emails or chats. So phone bills were all we had. If you have phone bills that show you called her, might not hurt to send those months showing you called.

Rene

ian-mstm

Google is your friend. Even without the .com, you would have immediately figured out what the concatenation "candleforlove" meant. I can't believe you didn't even bother to check!

Ian