Harry

I'm 32 (the UK citizen) and my wife Wendy is 24. We met on a music discussion board on the net spring 2000, started chatting real time that September, started talking on the phone Nov 2000, and met in person Jan 2001. Many visits, phone calls, and emails later, my K1 got approved and I moved over here, and we got married on May 11, 2002.

-Harry

Jo Brayne

I am 31 (USC) and Stuart is 29 (Brit. cit). We met online on Monochrome BBS (set up by City Uni, in London) and I came over here (england) on a single entry-marriage visa. I arrived and married in July '96, and applied for my national insurance number straight away. I have been here ever since (7 years).

We have 2 kids who were born here but are now US citizens through the consular birth process (actually, dual cit). Thank GOD for that.

We are looking to start the I-130 process next spring. It all seems so daunting for me. I am freaking out that I won't have enough clout for them to approve my finances, but I will have a house sale in my name, with about £40k in equity (UK housing boom for ya).

My big Q is, how can I get it to count as 100% rather than a 20% asset?

Joyce

I am 49 (USA)..Larry is 51.
We met online August 1998 and we married May 1999.

Joyce

eneelk

I am 22, Filipino. My bf is 27, from the U.S. We met on the chat room two years ago, and we are together for 7 months now. We moved here in Costa Rica from Philippines. My bf filed a petition for fiance and we got the notice of action last September 15. And we filed the I-824 to transfer the case here in Costa Rica, and it says it will take 210-365 days to process. Why it takes so long? (I have a new post about this).

So many americans go to Philippines just to look for a girl, and most of the Filipino girls like americans cause of money and they wanted to go to the u.s.

SSJ

Me: Chinese-Canadian 31 yr old
Him: USC 33 yr old

We met Summer of 2000 when I went to US to visit an good, old female-friend, he happened to be around. I wasn't looking for a boyfriend but he caught my eyes. He never thought he'd date a Chinese, but he loved the fact that I'm domestic (raised this way) yet VERY independent (influenced by American culture). After 2 yrs of difficult long-distance dating, we're still together and he might file petition for me soon. I actually prefer him moving up to Canada, since I have a better job and don't mind supporting him. :-) I agree most Asian women are "tame", but I show him who's the boss when he doesn't behave... He prefer it this way because he wants a real partner/friend, not just a little wife.

katnap8

Hi,

I'm a 30yr old USC that met my fiance a 32yr old UKC in August 2000 in a chat room. He came over in April of 2001 for what was suppose to be a 2 week holiday but ended up extending it to 4 weeks . As you can see we hit it off rather well. After getting to know each other online for those few months, it felt like we'd known each other a lifetime when we finally met in person.
Since then he has visited me twice last year, and I have visited him 3 times this year. We're planning to spend the December and January together. First he comes here and then we fly over together to spend the holidays in England. I can't wait to see him... 16 more days.. YIPPEE!!!

Sometimes I feel funny telling people we've met online but then realizing that there are alot of us out there doesn't make it seem so funny.

BEST OF LUCK to all of you. It's been great reading all these posts. I feel like I know some of your lives just by this message board. Thanks

Patricia

Hey we age gappers are not alone I am 49 (USC) and my husband is 30
(DEN). He is young looking some days It bothered me a bit at
first-but not anymore. We are both artists so a bit different anyway.
Most people dont notice our age difference. He is the perfect
husband- we recently went back to Denmark and met his mom (for the
first time) and she loved me. She thinks we are such a cute couple-
so sweet together. We have been married almost 3 years now and are
very happy. I was married twice before and it stunk...My previous
marriges would have never held up to all this INS paperwork or
scrutiny. This is LOVE Patricia and Henrik

Maya Novak

I'm 37 and my husband is 33. We me online, but not in a chatroom. It
all started with a long debate through email. After a while we decided
to continue the debate in person, so we met for lunch. There was an
instant attraction, se we kept meeting and doing stuff together, until
we decided one day that we wanted to live together...

He wasn't looking for a foreigner, and I wasn't looking for an
American. We were both looking for a person to connect with, to laugh
with, to do things together, to share dreams, and hopefully to share
the values.

And we happened to find all that and more in each other.

    > "......Why do foreign women want American husbands? Many sources
    > suggest that these women are searching for a "better life" in terms of
    > socio-economic factors--they do, for the most part, come from places
    > in which jobs and educational opportunities for women are scarce and
    > wages are low.

I'm a programmer and I have a good salary. I also owned my house
before I even met my husband. So I definitely wasn't looking for a
"better life" in financial sense.

    > However, when the women themselves are asked this
    > question, the answer generally indicates an attraction to American men
    > (they look like movie stars) and an aversion to native men. Americans,
    > they say, make good husbands while Filipino
    > (Thai/Indonesian/Russian/etc.) men do not. Americans are thought to be
    > faithful to their wives, while the native men are cruel and run around
    > with other women. True or not, this is the perception.

I know lots of Americans who are not faithful to their wifes. I had a
boyfriend from my country, and I know he was faithful to me all those
years.

I agree that being faithful is very important. But I wouldn't say that
people of any one nationality are more faithful than others.

I think that my husband is extremely attractive man. However, I don't
think that Americans are in general any more attractive than men from
my country.

    > Why do American men want foreign wives? Most of the personal
    > reports from American men who have married women through
    > these agencies talk about "traditional values." That is, American
    > women are thought not content to be wives and mothers but
    > seek personal satisfaction through their own careers and
    > interests, while the foreign woman is happy to be the homemaker
    > and asks for nothing more than husband, home, and family.
    > Again, true or not, this is the perception............"

Far from true! I have my own career as a programmer. We don't have any
children yet. But if we do, I will not stay at home. I didn't change
my last name - and he like that. He agrees with me that changing last
name is a relict from the times when women were considered property of
their husbands.

If I differ from an "average American woman" it's that I'm more
liberal.

One of my coworkers (American for several generations) said to me:
"When I get married, I expect my husband to be my leader." - I
cringed! I expect my husband to be my partner. We share the house
chores and the decisions.

He doesn't have problems carrying my purse or buying feminine products
for me. He can clean the kictchen (although since neither of us
particularly likes this chore, we share it). He cooks most of the
time. He vacuums the carpets...

We're just soooo different from most couples, here or there. LOL.

Maya

Ronald Austin

"Maya Novak" wrote in message
news:[email protected]...

    > One of my coworkers (American for several generations) said to me:
    > "When I get married, I expect my husband to be my leader." - I
    > cringed! I expect my husband to be my partner. We share the house
    > chores and the decisions.

    > Maya

Must be a Southern Baptist. ;-)