Getting unstuck
#16
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Originally posted by bromleygirl
Here Here Lion,
I couldn't agree more. Yes, it can be very cold here in Minnesota during the winter. I've been here in Minnesota for 2 years and apparently they have been the best 2 years winters that they have had for some time If you call -35 windchill and tons of snow a good winter then they can have them. I'm going to do one more winter here and then that will be it for me.
I'm from London also - Bromley actually via Cambridge. I miss the culture, decent annual leave - I'm fed up with American employers thinking that just because you work for them that they own you which I think that so many things i.e. health insurance, pension etc are all tied to your employment.
I do think that the British school system is far superior to the American system. I have 3 older step sons so I know from first hand. So yes another big reason for moving back is for my 2 young children to be able to go to British schools. I'm sure that it will depend also on what area we live - obviously if you are in a better area there will be better schools.
So when do you plan to move back Lion? I have a UKc friend just move back with her USc husband last month and she loves it.
Here Here Lion,
I couldn't agree more. Yes, it can be very cold here in Minnesota during the winter. I've been here in Minnesota for 2 years and apparently they have been the best 2 years winters that they have had for some time If you call -35 windchill and tons of snow a good winter then they can have them. I'm going to do one more winter here and then that will be it for me.
I'm from London also - Bromley actually via Cambridge. I miss the culture, decent annual leave - I'm fed up with American employers thinking that just because you work for them that they own you which I think that so many things i.e. health insurance, pension etc are all tied to your employment.
I do think that the British school system is far superior to the American system. I have 3 older step sons so I know from first hand. So yes another big reason for moving back is for my 2 young children to be able to go to British schools. I'm sure that it will depend also on what area we live - obviously if you are in a better area there will be better schools.
So when do you plan to move back Lion? I have a UKc friend just move back with her USc husband last month and she loves it.
I'm not sure when we will be able to go - i.e it couldn't really be qualified as a plan yet, as we have to get in a better financial situation first. Of all the things that may be said about going back to the U.K., nobody ever claims that it's cheap. We have a three-year-old, which complicates things. It is his education which is one of the major things giving us a push back. I really don't want to sound arrogant and patronising, and God knows it's not that all schools in the UK are great, it's just that, allowing for generalisations, the curriculum here seems terribly narrow, they don't teach children how to write (witness "remedial writing" classes in some of the top U.S. universities), the level expected of them seems very low all the way through school, few people read for pleasure because somehow all the pleasure gets taken out of it by awful textbooks, and some of the gaps boggle the imagination. I met a Political Science PhD student at Northwestern University, supposedly one of the best. She had never heard of Che Guevara. I don't means we should all be experts on the man, but a PhD in Political Science without a clue as to who he was? Ouch. Sorry, enough ranting.
Anyway, I'm trying to lay the foundations of a plan. Now, if I could just get an idea like J.K. Rowling...
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You sound like a square peg in a round hole.
Just because I live here does'nt mean that I should just sit back and accpet everything about the states. It's like I've explained to my eldest step son it's not that I hate it here - it's the fact that I have something to compare it to I have had some happy times here however I feel that the UK is where I would like to be not only for myself but for my children.
Lion brings up another good reason in regards to education - what is taught in American schools is very much from the American perspective and is very limited in terms of what is taught about other countries.
Pulaski - you didn't answer my question - do you have personal experience of the American school system? I don't think that it is possible to make a definitve judgement on the differences in the education systems of the US versus UK unless you do.
#18
Originally posted by bromleygirl
Don't you live in Canada Flashman??
Trust me I'm here in the upper mid west and people are so up tight here it's frightening. No sense of humour and they all go to church on a Sunday and if you say you don't go they look at you very strangley.
Don't you live in Canada Flashman??
Trust me I'm here in the upper mid west and people are so up tight here it's frightening. No sense of humour and they all go to church on a Sunday and if you say you don't go they look at you very strangley.
So I also know a number of people who go to church on Sundays but it's just a weekend facade. Their basic Christian values need clarification such as in the US:
- Do they accept the high US murder rate resulting from firearms?
- Is the death penalty acceptable as criminal punishment as supported by the President?
- Is declaring unilateral war acceptable on any country which does not conform to the expectations of the US government?
There are more but the point is that in this "So Called" free society anyone asking these questions will immediately be labelled as "Unpatriotic". So even the rhetoric of being the "Land of the free and the Brave" is also a lie.
#19
Originally posted by bromleygirl ......Pulaski - you didn't answer my question - do you have personal experience of the American school system? ....
I also know plenty about the British education system and it is going down the tubes. At this point in time I don't think that it will be worth uprooting our life and moving 3,500 miles for. I also anticipate further a further decline in the performance of Brtish schools.
#20
Originally posted by Pulaski
A lot is said about the US and British education systems on these boards, and it seems to me that a lot of weight is placed on the systems' respective histories and where they are now, and not much regard to where the systems are going.
I agree that the schooling that I received in the UK was excellent, but through changes made progressively since I left, the system that I experienced has been progressively dismantled in favor of something more "modern", and less "judgemental" (let's do anything to shield the children from any indication that others might be smarter, or more diligent students, than they are! )
I have no confidence that a typical school in the British education system a few years in the future will be any better than a school that we can find here in the US system by the time that any child of mine would be ready for it.
A lot is said about the US and British education systems on these boards, and it seems to me that a lot of weight is placed on the systems' respective histories and where they are now, and not much regard to where the systems are going.
I agree that the schooling that I received in the UK was excellent, but through changes made progressively since I left, the system that I experienced has been progressively dismantled in favor of something more "modern", and less "judgemental" (let's do anything to shield the children from any indication that others might be smarter, or more diligent students, than they are! )
I have no confidence that a typical school in the British education system a few years in the future will be any better than a school that we can find here in the US system by the time that any child of mine would be ready for it.
#21
Originally posted by muppetking
Dear me.....I work in that sector and your comments are rubbish. League tables and SAT results have put paid to that. Children are painfully aware of how they are performing in relation to their peers not less. International studies have English children up with the best in the world in many categories....not so the US.
Dear me.....I work in that sector and your comments are rubbish. League tables and SAT results have put paid to that. Children are painfully aware of how they are performing in relation to their peers not less. International studies have English children up with the best in the world in many categories....not so the US.
#22
Originally posted by Pulaski
I see that you are about as far removed from the UK as it is possible to be. Therefore I assume that must have swallowed the Bitish government's propaganda, .... like the perpetually downward sliding standards that ensure that the exam grades are always rising!
I see that you are about as far removed from the UK as it is possible to be. Therefore I assume that must have swallowed the Bitish government's propaganda, .... like the perpetually downward sliding standards that ensure that the exam grades are always rising!
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I can tell you Pulaski from my own personal experience I have had my 3 step-sons in the American system in 2 different states over the last 7 years and standards and expectations are a lot lower than those in the UK school system.
Anyway Pulaski if you have no intentions of moving back to the UK, why do you frequent this area of the board?
I do think you have a valid point Flashman. I do think that in America if you fail to conform to the norms and values of what is expected then yes you must be unpatriotic. Freedom of speech - give me a break. The society/culture is so judgemental and conservative at least where I am that they are not open to other points of view and different opinions. I do not want my children growing up feeling that they have to conform - this is another huge reason why I want to take my children back to the UK.
Anyway Pulaski if you have no intentions of moving back to the UK, why do you frequent this area of the board?
I do think you have a valid point Flashman. I do think that in America if you fail to conform to the norms and values of what is expected then yes you must be unpatriotic. Freedom of speech - give me a break. The society/culture is so judgemental and conservative at least where I am that they are not open to other points of view and different opinions. I do not want my children growing up feeling that they have to conform - this is another huge reason why I want to take my children back to the UK.
#24
Originally posted by bromleygirl
I do think you have a valid point Flashman. I do think that in America if you fail to conform to the norms and values of what is expected then yes you must be unpatriotic. Freedom of speech - give me a break. The society/culture is so judgemental and conservative at least where I am that they are not open to other points of view and different opinions.
I do think you have a valid point Flashman. I do think that in America if you fail to conform to the norms and values of what is expected then yes you must be unpatriotic. Freedom of speech - give me a break. The society/culture is so judgemental and conservative at least where I am that they are not open to other points of view and different opinions.
Those of us who have intentions or desires to go back have not failed, or failed to try, or come across with incorrect expectations. I think this implication derives from the "if yer not with us, yer agin us" mentality.
I am definitely NOT putting a gun rack in my truck just so I'll fit in. And I think I look silly in cowboy boots, so I'm not wearing them. But I DO eat NC barbecue because I think it tastes great.
If I complain about gun ownership and say cowboy boots look silly, does this make me a square peg in a round hole?
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Originally posted by dunroving
And it does not mean we don't or can't or haven't fit in.
And it does not mean we don't or can't or haven't fit in.
I've realised that I don't want to fit in anyway, I love being English and its in England that I want to be and yes we are well aware of all the bad things in England but for us the positives will far outweight the negatives which exist here as well.
#27
Originally posted by dunroving
.... Those of us who have intentions or desires to go back have not failed, or failed to try, or come across with incorrect expectations. I think this implication derives from the "if yer not with us, yer agin us" mentality. .....
.... Those of us who have intentions or desires to go back have not failed, or failed to try, or come across with incorrect expectations. I think this implication derives from the "if yer not with us, yer agin us" mentality. .....
#28
Originally posted by Pulaski
Yes, but, rightly or wrongly, you end up looking like somebody who came to the US (, Oz, NZ, or wherever) to grab as much as they can and then return home rather than somebody who came here to settle and contribute to their new home. ...... And that is then a brush that those of us who emigrated, period, get tarred with!
Yes, but, rightly or wrongly, you end up looking like somebody who came to the US (, Oz, NZ, or wherever) to grab as much as they can and then return home rather than somebody who came here to settle and contribute to their new home. ...... And that is then a brush that those of us who emigrated, period, get tarred with!
And as for "grab as much as they can", even more codswallop. Are you saying that temporary visitors are takers, not givers? Tell that to the hundreds of USc students who have graduated from the various degree programs I have taught in or directed. I don't think you'll find a single one who would say I came here to take, rather than give. My office door is open more hours than any USc who works in my department.
These days, people move all over the place, regularly. So your argument could equally apply to USc's who move from Houston to Boston, to LA, wherever (or Greensboro to Raleigh, to Charlotte). I suppose you intend to stay in Charlotte the rest of your natural borne, and that gives you the right to pass judgment on the rest of us "temporaries"?
Have you never moved anywhere not knowing if you were going to stay? Or thinking you were going to stay, and then when you grew up a little realized you were wrong? If not, then you are one of the (few) extremely lucky ones.
"...that is then a brush that those of us who emigrated, period, get tarred with! :rolleyes ,,,"
Give me a break! So why exactly do you have to "settle" in order to be able to "contribute"?? And don't you think the average Joe is more concerned about the homeless, or the shiftless, or the lazy, or the corporate corrupt, or the politically corrupt (among their own citizens), to worry about you and whether you are "one of them temporary visa-wantin', takin' and not givin', stealin' ferriners"?
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Yes, but, rightly or wrongly, you end up looking like somebody who came to the US (, Oz, NZ, or wherever) to grab as much as they can and then return home rather than somebody who came here to settle and contribute to their new home. ...... And that is then a brush that those of us who emigrated, period, get tarred with!
If you are happy living here Pulaski, then more power to you but please don't lecture those of us who wish to return to the UK.
#30
Originally posted by dunroving
What a load of codswallop! ....
What a load of codswallop! ....
It just kinda aggravates me to hear people say how much better things are in the UK, which always makes me wonder why did you leave? why did you stay away so long? and why do things seem so bad to you (in the US), when most things seem, IMHO, to be no worse, and often a lot better, than in the UK?
I'll slip away from here, back to the expats boards. [Slips away, tail between legs, ..... ]
Last edited by Pulaski; Aug 17th 2003 at 2:23 pm.