Feeling sick again today
#31
Re: Feeling sick again today
They come and go. I took a long, hard look at things and realised that, although we may return to the UK one day, it isn't going to be soon.
All my family love it here and I was wasting my life being miserable.
That makes the process sound very simplistic but it wasn't.
All my family love it here and I was wasting my life being miserable.
That makes the process sound very simplistic but it wasn't.
#32
Re: Feeling sick again today
Yes thanks for your reply i wasnt thinking that how could it be harder returning when we know family are there, and where to buy things etc..Did you feel homesick for a while or was it not just right, how long did it take you to decide to go home, are you happy now....thanks again x x
Jo
#33
Australia's Doorman
Joined: Jan 2005
Location: The Shoalhaven, New South Wales, Australia
Posts: 11,056
Re: Feeling sick again today
Hi Lisa. I've heard a lot of people talk about some amazing period during which you're supposed to magically feel okay about your life and forget about the life you left behind. Well - it's a load of horse-shit - you know in your heart if somewhere's not right - and that's an end to it. I lived in the states for a while and after six months I was yearning for home. It was pre-internet days and I'd spend hours in the library pouring over imported copies of The Times to try and feel somehow connected with the UK. Life's too short to feel so desparately unhappy - make a list, start sorting things now, and get yourself back to the UK. You made it here, you've given it a bloody good go, and now you need to head home for the sake of your sanity. Best of luck with it.
#34
Re: Feeling sick again today
Hi Lisa. I've heard a lot of people talk about some amazing period during which you're supposed to magically feel okay about your life and forget about the life you left behind. Well - it's a load of horse-shit - you know in your heart if somewhere's not right - and that's an end to it. I lived in the states for a while and after six months I was yearning for home. It was pre-internet days and I'd spend hours in the library pouring over imported copies of The Times to try and feel somehow connected with the UK. Life's too short to feel so desparately unhappy - make a list, start sorting things now, and get yourself back to the UK. You made it here, you've given it a bloody good go, and now you need to head home for the sake of your sanity. Best of luck with it.
PS. The US was the pits for us too.
#35
Re: Feeling sick again today
Hi Lisa. I've heard a lot of people talk about some amazing period during which you're supposed to magically feel okay about your life and forget about the life you left behind. Well - it's a load of horse-shit - you know in your heart if somewhere's not right - and that's an end to it. I lived in the states for a while and after six months I was yearning for home. It was pre-internet days and I'd spend hours in the library pouring over imported copies of The Times to try and feel somehow connected with the UK. Life's too short to feel so desparately unhappy - make a list, start sorting things now, and get yourself back to the UK. You made it here, you've given it a bloody good go, and now you need to head home for the sake of your sanity. Best of luck with it.
I agree too that there is no magical timescale on when you should start settling. I knew pretty much straight away, in fact i knew when i came on holiday the year before so i should have listened to myself then!! For me it just got worse & worse over those 18 mths till i reached the point where i just couldnt do it anymore
I know lisa how you feel as you & i have spoke to you a lot on this. I dont think how you feel is likely to change & i truly believe that you will be best at home. If your partner comes with you then all the better but please dont be unhappy anymore
I think the trouble is with so many of us on here is that we are/have been hanging on in there for the sake of a partner & thats not right as we too deserve to be happy. I know a lot of you are or will be lucky that they will come back too but for some of us like me then it wont happen & we have to put our feelings & happiness 1st
I truly hope lisa that you find some sort of ending to all this & you are happy again!
you know where i am if you need me
Lov judexx
#36
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Joined: Dec 2005
Location: uk-perth northern suburbs-uk
Posts: 740
Re: Feeling sick again today
Hi Lisa. I've heard a lot of people talk about some amazing period during which you're supposed to magically feel okay about your life and forget about the life you left behind. Well - it's a load of horse-shit - you know in your heart if somewhere's not right - and that's an end to it. I lived in the states for a while and after six months I was yearning for home. It was pre-internet days and I'd spend hours in the library pouring over imported copies of The Times to try and feel somehow connected with the UK. Life's too short to feel so desparately unhappy - make a list, start sorting things now, and get yourself back to the UK. You made it here, you've given it a bloody good go, and now you need to head home for the sake of your sanity. Best of luck with it.
When people say you havent given it long enough, what's the time limit? How long is a piece of string?
You've been there 17mnths. Thats longer than loads of us. Look at all you've achieved....you've successfully lived the other side of the world, you've built a house for goodness sake! How amazing is that?!
Youve given it a great go. If you still feel you need to go back, do so with your head held high, safe in the knowledge you have had more of an experience in these last 2 yrs than others might have in their lifetime.