Would you forgive an affair?...............
Apr 6th 2010, 6:59 pm
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Re: Would you forgive an affair?...............
But an ongoing affair? where he has been lying to me for months on end? No F-ing way! One thing I cannot stand is being lied to.
Apr 6th 2010, 7:34 pm
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Re: Would you forgive an affair?...............
Consider this. If someone cheats once they can do it again, especially if they weren't found out the first time.
I've heard of cases where mistresses became wives after the guy's previous wife divorced him for cheating, yet the second wives were shocked when their guy then cheated on them during that marriage. For some, it's nothing more than the thrill of the chase.
No forgiveness, no sympathy and no excuses. End of.
I've heard of cases where mistresses became wives after the guy's previous wife divorced him for cheating, yet the second wives were shocked when their guy then cheated on them during that marriage. For some, it's nothing more than the thrill of the chase.
No forgiveness, no sympathy and no excuses. End of.
Apr 6th 2010, 7:47 pm
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Re: Would you forgive an affair?...............
Consider this. If someone cheats once they can do it again, especially if they weren't found out the first time.
I've heard of cases where mistresses became wives after the guy's previous wife divorced him for cheating, yet the second wives were shocked when their guy then cheated on them during that marriage. For some, it's nothing more than the thrill of the chase.
No forgiveness, no sympathy and no excuses. End of.
I've heard of cases where mistresses became wives after the guy's previous wife divorced him for cheating, yet the second wives were shocked when their guy then cheated on them during that marriage. For some, it's nothing more than the thrill of the chase.
No forgiveness, no sympathy and no excuses. End of.
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Apr 6th 2010, 8:47 pm
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Re: Would you forgive an affair?...............
Consider this. If someone cheats once they can do it again, especially if they weren't found out the first time.
I've heard of cases where mistresses became wives after the guy's previous wife divorced him for cheating, yet the second wives were shocked when their guy then cheated on them during that marriage. For some, it's nothing more than the thrill of the chase.
No forgiveness, no sympathy and no excuses. End of.
I've heard of cases where mistresses became wives after the guy's previous wife divorced him for cheating, yet the second wives were shocked when their guy then cheated on them during that marriage. For some, it's nothing more than the thrill of the chase.
No forgiveness, no sympathy and no excuses. End of.
Apr 7th 2010, 9:28 am
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Re: Would you forgive an affair?...............
Edited to add on a more serious note, a good male friend a while back actually said to me "Mand if you believe that any man would pass it up if he had it laid on a plate in front of him, without anyone ever being able to find out, then you're stupid"
Whether any of you guys out there would admit to it or not I doubt - but I think he's right.
Whether any of you guys out there would admit to it or not I doubt - but I think he's right.
Apr 7th 2010, 10:50 pm
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Re: Would you forgive an affair?...............
Never have cheated. Neither has OH.
I absolutely trust that she would never cheat - I bet my future on it!
Theoretically, would I forgive? Once yes, twice no.
I absolutely trust that she would never cheat - I bet my future on it!
Theoretically, would I forgive? Once yes, twice no.
Apr 8th 2010, 12:52 am
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Apr 8th 2010, 1:18 am
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Apr 8th 2010, 1:25 am
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Apr 8th 2010, 7:53 am
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Re: Would you forgive an affair?...............
no
Apr 8th 2010, 7:54 am
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and again no
Apr 8th 2010, 10:20 pm
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Re: Would you forgive an affair?...............
Forgiving is a beautiful act and comes easy to many people, making them feel better within themselves and appear gracious to the others. Forgetting, on the other hand, is something that very few can do voluntarily, especially as there is no noble status attached to it... Remembering can be ugly, and this seems to be the main killer in the majority of post-infidelity relationships...
As for 100% trusting your partner... I think that it is a sweet utopia - just like when my forefathers in the beginning of the 20th century thought they could build a country where everyone would be equal - it's simply against human nature. There is no way to predict all the circumstances and moods of the future, changes within yourself and your other half, just as it is impossible to know if at some point there will be all the components present for a perfect storm one day, and your house will or will not be in the middle of it. All I can do is hope and pray that my home is strong enough...
As for 100% trusting your partner... I think that it is a sweet utopia - just like when my forefathers in the beginning of the 20th century thought they could build a country where everyone would be equal - it's simply against human nature. There is no way to predict all the circumstances and moods of the future, changes within yourself and your other half, just as it is impossible to know if at some point there will be all the components present for a perfect storm one day, and your house will or will not be in the middle of it. All I can do is hope and pray that my home is strong enough...
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Apr 8th 2010, 10:42 pm
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Re: Would you forgive an affair?...............
had it done to me in the past, forgave as he could charm his way out of anything, but he carried on doing it again so we broke up. That was then.
Now?
No-one is going to make me feel like that again, I would take great pleasure in smashing up the truck, the flat screen, the quad, all of his fishing gear, putting wood glue down the barrels of his guns, jumping on the games consoles, putting a big hole in the underside of the boat and setting fire to the sled and the hunting shack.
And would do all of the above with pleasure.
Then would find out who the trollope was that he had an affair with and whether she knew he was married or not, would kick 10 barrells of shit out of her too - just because.
(I have a bad temper)
Now?
No-one is going to make me feel like that again, I would take great pleasure in smashing up the truck, the flat screen, the quad, all of his fishing gear, putting wood glue down the barrels of his guns, jumping on the games consoles, putting a big hole in the underside of the boat and setting fire to the sled and the hunting shack.
And would do all of the above with pleasure.
Then would find out who the trollope was that he had an affair with and whether she knew he was married or not, would kick 10 barrells of shit out of her too - just because.
(I have a bad temper)
You werent married to me around 1997 by any chance were you 