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Re: Would you forgive an affair?...............
Originally Posted by Elaine B.
(Post 8467718)
Interesting question I guess it depends on a few things like would any of you be more likely to forgive a one night stand or an ongoing affair?
But an ongoing affair? where he has been lying to me for months on end? No F-ing way! One thing I cannot stand is being lied to. |
Re: Would you forgive an affair?...............
Consider this. If someone cheats once they can do it again, especially if they weren't found out the first time.
I've heard of cases where mistresses became wives after the guy's previous wife divorced him for cheating, yet the second wives were shocked when their guy then cheated on them during that marriage. For some, it's nothing more than the thrill of the chase. No forgiveness, no sympathy and no excuses. End of. |
Re: Would you forgive an affair?...............
Originally Posted by CaptainHook
(Post 8476794)
Consider this. If someone cheats once they can do it again, especially if they weren't found out the first time.
I've heard of cases where mistresses became wives after the guy's previous wife divorced him for cheating, yet the second wives were shocked when their guy then cheated on them during that marriage. For some, it's nothing more than the thrill of the chase. No forgiveness, no sympathy and no excuses. End of. |
Re: Would you forgive an affair?...............
Originally Posted by CaptainHook
(Post 8476794)
Consider this. If someone cheats once they can do it again, especially if they weren't found out the first time.
I've heard of cases where mistresses became wives after the guy's previous wife divorced him for cheating, yet the second wives were shocked when their guy then cheated on them during that marriage. For some, it's nothing more than the thrill of the chase. No forgiveness, no sympathy and no excuses. End of. |
Re: Would you forgive an affair?...............
Originally Posted by mandymoochops
(Post 8467089)
Edited to add on a more serious note, a good male friend a while back actually said to me "Mand if you believe that any man would pass it up if he had it laid on a plate in front of him, without anyone ever being able to find out, then you're stupid"
Whether any of you guys out there would admit to it or not I doubt - but I think he's right. |
Re: Would you forgive an affair?...............
Never have cheated. Neither has OH.:cool::wub:
I absolutely trust that she would never cheat - I bet my future on it!:thumbsup: Theoretically, would I forgive? Once yes, twice no. |
Re: Would you forgive an affair?...............
Originally Posted by dollface
(Post 8476505)
Wow, you're really open minded - i'm just not wired like that..........
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Re: Would you forgive an affair?...............
Originally Posted by scottishcelts
(Post 8480213)
Hence the jail sentence for the last castration :lol::unsure:
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Re: Would you forgive an affair?...............
Originally Posted by dollface
(Post 8480237)
:rofl::rofl::rofl: only 2 rofls for your comment the last one was for your new sig:p:lol:
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Re: Would you forgive an affair?...............
Originally Posted by scottishcelts
(Post 8480261)
;) knew you'd love it!
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Re: Would you forgive an affair?...............
Originally Posted by dollface
(Post 8480263)
I know you knew i'd love it:lol:
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Re: Would you forgive an affair?...............
Forgiving is a beautiful act and comes easy to many people, making them feel better within themselves and appear gracious to the others. Forgetting, on the other hand, is something that very few can do voluntarily, especially as there is no noble status attached to it... Remembering can be ugly, and this seems to be the main killer in the majority of post-infidelity relationships...
As for 100% trusting your partner... I think that it is a sweet utopia - just like when my forefathers in the beginning of the 20th century thought they could build a country where everyone would be equal - it's simply against human nature. There is no way to predict all the circumstances and moods of the future, changes within yourself and your other half, just as it is impossible to know if at some point there will be all the components present for a perfect storm one day, and your house will or will not be in the middle of it. All I can do is hope and pray that my home is strong enough... |
Re: Would you forgive an affair?...............
Originally Posted by mandymoochops
(Post 8466952)
had it done to me in the past, forgave as he could charm his way out of anything, but he carried on doing it again so we broke up. That was then.
Now? No-one is going to make me feel like that again, I would take great pleasure in smashing up the truck, the flat screen, the quad, all of his fishing gear, putting wood glue down the barrels of his guns, jumping on the games consoles, putting a big hole in the underside of the boat and setting fire to the sled and the hunting shack. And would do all of the above with pleasure. Then would find out who the trollope was that he had an affair with and whether she knew he was married or not, would kick 10 barrells of shit out of her too - just because. (I have a bad temper) :eek: You werent married to me around 1997 by any chance were you ;) |
Re: Would you forgive an affair?...............
Originally Posted by Zhanna
(Post 8482744)
Forgiving is a beautiful act and comes easy to many people, making them feel better within themselves and appear gracious to the others. Forgetting, on the other hand, is something that very few can do voluntarily, especially as there is no noble status attached to it... Remembering can be ugly, and this seems to be the main killer in the majority of post-infidelity relationships...
As for 100% trusting your partner... I think that it is a sweet utopia - just like when my forefathers in the beginning of the 20th century thought they could build a country where everyone would be equal - it's simply against human nature. There is no way to predict all the circumstances and moods of the future, changes within yourself and your other half, just as it is impossible to know if at some point there will be all the components present for a perfect storm one day, and your house will or will not be in the middle of it. All I can do is hope and pray that my home is strong enough... |
Re: Would you forgive an affair?...............
Originally Posted by dollface
(Post 8466868)
Lifted this from the Dingo forum - interesting - discuss....................;)
.......if my eye was going to stray, I would make sure I was free to do just that.... |
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