Re: Stay in school kids!
 

It is good to encourage children to make the most of their opportunities. Sometimes a bit of tough love might be appropriate if you think your child is malingering. However, not all kids get much benefit from being in school. When I was young the vast majority of children left school at 16.

I hated my school. I am quite severely dyslexic and was not considered as university material. As a result, I was treated as a dead weight by the masters at my school who only seemed concerned with the prestige of the universities their pupils were accepted to. Although I stuck it out till 18 and emerged with an A level it was really two wasted, thoroughly unpleasant, years.

I got into cash management and accounting because I did not have problem with numbers. I took an accounting A level by correspondence course when I was 22 to get the minimum necessary to enroll as a student with the ACCA. It was the same problem though. I could cope with the accounting courses but anything that required a written explanation was hopeless. I needed to edit and re-edit anything I wrote five or six times before it made sense. Impossible in the time allowed in an exam.

I was 26 when I first had use of a computer with a word processor. My world changed overnight.

This is all a preamble to my decision not to fight my son when he wanted to drop out in grade 11. Drop out might be the wrong word. He thought he was not benefiting from being there, something his teachers agreed with. It is not that he is stupid, but nothing in school motivated him to apply any effort. What was the point in forcing him? I knew from my own life that under-performing at school is not the end of the world.

Sure, he spent a few years in minimum wage jobs, but he earns well above minimum wage now. He has never had trouble getting work, even though he often quits a job when he has saved enough money to go travelling. He always seems to find a new one as soon as he gets back.

As a parent, you have to decide at what point you listen to your children and start to allow them to make their own life decisions. It is going to be a different age for different children.

Re: Stay in school kids!
 

I lived in the province of Quebec before and know what I speak of.......

http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/montre...ules-1.1322347

$50M lump sum sought by woman
After separating, Lola sought spousal support, but Quebec's Civil Code provides no such provision for couples who are not legally married.

here is a case that backs up what I speak of http://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/c...al_decides_on/

Backing up my fact again...it's clear that you are the one that is full of the "Bull"

The Supreme Court of Canada in Bracklow v. Bracklow made the definition of entitlement very broad as it did state that a significant income disparity between the spouses that would result in a significant drop in the lower income spouse's standard of living, would generally mean entitlement for some support, as would cases where there have been children, as they might be the cause of a significant disparity in income because of child - rearing responsibilities.
http://www.thepascoedifference.com/spousal-support.html

Re: Stay in school kids!
 

I didn't educate my childen because they're clever than I am. They outbrained me from about the age of 12 and out learning'd me from 14 or so. I assume that, if your children are out of kindergarten, you're in the same position.

Re: Stay in school kids!
 

UR, we know that having to support your family burns you but it's got nothing to do with this thread. Why don't you go quietly into a corner and cut your nuts off so you don't make the same mistakes again?

Re: Stay in school kids!
 

Please :)

Re: Stay in school kids!
 

At least least am not being a dead beat dad (dbd)....:D

I only have 1 child, and I can very well afford it, and be there for their education, as opposed to blaming the school and teachers :D

Re: Stay in school kids!
 

Gods for you ! Right on ! Power to the people!


Sorry , I meant I don't give a toss what you think :)

Re: Stay in school kids!
 

I think this string of words shows why that's not a very good idea. If you want someone who knows pipes you call a plumber, if you want someone who knows writing, you call a teacher.

Re: Stay in school kids!
 

And if you want a parent...you definitely don't call a deadbeatdad, right?

Re: Stay in school kids!
 

Am sure you meant...Good? Yet you replied though?

Re: Stay in school kids!
 

You'd have to ask my children, it was one of them who suggested the dbd name.

Re: Stay in school kids!
 

No .. God. As you think you are :)

And just reinforcing .. So you don't forget .. But you wouldn't as you are .... You choose..perfect? The dogs bollox, best thing since sliced bread? Bit of a mammary ?

Re: Stay in school kids!
 

^^^All am saying is....if we as parents keep blaming the teachers and schools, what kind of message is that sending out to the kids and their future kids?

As I mentioned up thread, I don't believe the Asian parents amongst other races ever blame the schools...it takes a village and all that

Re: Stay in school kids!
 

+1

Parental drive and responsibility is wonderful, where available, but the system has to pick up any slack.

Re: Stay in school kids!
 

I thinks it's the schools responsibility to educate a child, they are supposed to be the experts. It is my responsibility to make sure the child attends school. If the child is not attending, the responsibility of the school ends with informing the parent that the student is not there.
I believe that raising a child under the age of 12 is a very different experience to raising one over the age of 12 and those with no experience of the latter are in no position to criticize.