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Old Jun 7th 2020, 10:37 pm
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Originally Posted by MillieF View Post
Something odd which did occur to me; I’ve become much more used to the sound of the language, I do stop and think now, are they English, or Canadian, as it washes over me... I think it’s assimilation? Or the onset of hearing difficulties...
I do this! To the point of embarrassing myself on one occasion .

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Originally Posted by no good name View Post
Just curious as to why this thread was moved ?
The main Canada forum is for Canada centric 'questions' or for seeking general advice pertaining TO Canada - for want of a better description.. whereas the Maple Leaf is for general observations / questions etc., such as your own - or off topic i.e not necessarily about Canada - subjects.

Hope that explains things
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Old Jun 8th 2020, 5:38 am
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I must have adapted as I find many English accents irritating. TV programmes such as "Escape to the Country" are so slow and twee with simpering voices.
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Old Jun 8th 2020, 11:46 am
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Originally Posted by bats View Post
I must have adapted as I find many English accents irritating. TV programmes such as "Escape to the Country" are so slow and twee with simpering voices.
Surely it depends on the part of the country to which they are escaping? I can't imagine there's much simpering going on in Yorkshire !
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Originally Posted by Shard View Post
Surely it depends on the part of the country to which they are escaping? I can't imagine there's much simpering going on in Yorkshire !
No simpering in Yorkshire, just whingeing from those folks. Having lived here for 32 years you can be having the greatest day of your life and then you hear it when you least expect it that London/Cockney accent and poof day ruined.
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Old Jun 8th 2020, 12:50 pm
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Originally Posted by Former Lancastrian View Post
No simpering in Yorkshire, just whingeing from those folks. Having lived here for 32 years you can be having the greatest day of your life and then you hear it when you least expect it that London/Cockney accent and poof day ruined.
No shortage of whingers nationwide.

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Old Jun 11th 2020, 2:43 am
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Originally Posted by tooboocoo View Post
Although you have a wacky way of putting things, 100% correct. The 'golden age' for moving to Canada (for 1st-worlders) ended sometime in the '90s.
Indeed, it's no longer easy. The colonials no longer tug at the forelock at the sound of a proper British accent of any sort. ;-)

Yet Canada is still what one makes of it. The housing is no longer 'cheap' by UK standards (yet still 'less expensive'), and the winters are still challenging despite global warming. But the health and education systems are "1st-world" if one invests a bit of research in order to access the best parts of them.

And career-wise, once one lands that first decent job (a difficult hurdle for immigrants to any country), advancement is pretty much meritocratic (YMMV, but that was my experience).
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Originally Posted by no good name View Post
I can be distracted for a while (TV, Movie, ect)
then I will hear a canadian accent outside the house and boom... a feeling of 'dread', 'sadness' comes over me.

I'll be in my overpriced rental, I will walk to the kitchen sink, look out the window at the street outside which after 4 years I still feel disconnected to and boom.... that feeling....

I will be sitting in a group, whether at work or social gathering, they will be acting in a way or talking about things I just dont relate to, boom that feeling of detachment....

I'll be driving, listening to a radio station, daydreaming listening to a song, it finishes, the presenter starts talking in that canadian accent, and boom.... im reminded of where I am...

On the occasions I have visited back home. I will have that feeling of 'returning' to where I should be. Similar to that feeling you get when you have had a holiday in the sun, and although most would say that is great, but "it will be nice to get back to my own bed"...
It seems as though you’ve built a negative association in your head with Canada and Canadians. All I can think of is your life here isn’t going well in some way, I’d really like to know what has happened that got you to this point mentally. Maybe then I can offer some advice.
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Originally Posted by Teaandtoday5 View Post
I do this! To the point of embarrassing myself on one occasion .
I thought it was just me that did that! I have been here 11 years now, and sometimes really have to listen to check if they are English or Canadian! lol... sometimes its obvious, you can tell a rural Canadian or an East Coast Canadian, but if you take some new readers....say Peter Mansbridge for example, he has a well spoken Canadian accent, so almost sounds English, where as if I had listened to him 10 years ago, he would have stuck out like sore thumb...and definitely sounded Canadian! strange eh?
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Originally Posted by Shard View Post
Surely it depends on the part of the country to which they are escaping? I can't imagine there's much simpering going on in Yorkshire !
No Yoirkhsire is certainly not a simpering accent. lol

I love the Geordie accent... the coolest British regional accent/dialect out there! Years ago, my friend and I pretended to be Geordies on a night out.... that was one hell of a legendary night out! lol Its like going out in costume....it alters your personality!
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Originally Posted by Paul_Shepherd View Post
No Yoirkhsire is certainly not a simpering accent. lol

I love the Geordie accent... the coolest British regional accent/dialect out there! Years ago, my friend and I pretended to be Geordies on a night out.... that was one hell of a legendary night out! lol Its like going out in costume....it alters your personality!
wye aye man !
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Originally Posted by Paul_Shepherd View Post

I love the Geordie accent... the coolest British regional accent/dialect out there! Years ago, my friend and I pretended to be Geordies on a night out.... that was one hell of a legendary night out! lol Its like going out in costume....it alters your personality!
Did you become Michael the Geordie

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Originally Posted by Paul_Shepherd View Post
I thought it was just me that did that! I have been here 11 years now, and sometimes really have to listen to check if they are English or Canadian! lol... sometimes its obvious, you can tell a rural Canadian or an East Coast Canadian, but if you take some new readers....say Peter Mansbridge for example, he has a well spoken Canadian accent, so almost sounds English, where as if I had listened to him 10 years ago, he would have stuck out like sore thumb...and definitely sounded Canadian! strange eh?


I haven't been able to distinguish most Canadian accents for years ..... people from around Hamilton used to have an accent that sounded very like a Bronx accent for new York, but I haven't met anyone from there for some years.

Maritimers and Newfoundlanders are very distinct bilingual Quebecers can be indistinguishable to me from other Anglophone Canadians


On the other hand, I really notice British accents these days .............. and I'm always being told that my accent has hardly changed from Lancashire!
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I haven't been able to distinguish most Canadian accents for years ..... people from around Hamilton used to have an accent that sounded very like a Bronx accent for new York, but I haven't met anyone from there for some years.

Maritimers and Newfoundlanders are very distinct bilingual Quebecers can be indistinguishable to me from other Anglophone Canadians


On the other hand, I really notice British accents these days .............. and I'm always being told that my accent has hardly changed from Lancashire!
I can actually detect an NZ NI Auckland type accent now from a bottom of a South Island one. It isn't that marked but there is a difference
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Originally Posted by CanadaJimmy View Post
It seems as though you’ve built a negative association in your head with Canada and Canadians. All I can think of is your life here isn’t going well in some way, I’d really like to know what has happened that got you to this point mentally. Maybe then I can offer some advice.
You are correct mate.

So what has happened?

When we 1st arrived the rental apt we put a deposit down on...the previous tenants were crack heads.
We decided not to live in that grubby apt block.. we lost our $1500 deposit...
We were left scrambling for somewhere suitable to live... Most places we viewed (in burlington /oakville) were stupidly overpriced, tiny, and/ or disgusting. Most still are...

I also maybe, truthfully did not want 'this' from the beginning, even before we boarded the plane (it was always my wifes 'dream' just to live here)?
She said she would resent me if we didnt "just try it". Great eh...
I was 35yrs old when we moved over, I was 'finally' as settled as I had ever been in life... Good secure job, owned a home.. kids just started local schools... opportunity to travel/ have proper adventures...could share it all with long term friends and family.... had it 'all' in place.

I had 11yrs service in a sought after career, one I was happy with, or at least didnt dread going to everyday when the alarm went off, one that had many perks...
Since being in the GT bloody A, I have not secured a fulfilling job which is also enough **important** to sustain a 'comfortable' life in overrated Oakville...

Costs of living p*ss me right off!.. from the small to the big.. (mobile phones, gyms, food, condo fees, houses!!) Ect ect ect

Live here does nothing for me.



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