Sad topic... funerals back home
 

Hey I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this or not - if not sorry! I can move it no worries :)

Anyways I was wondering if any of you had any experience of death in the family back in the UK whilst you were over here and how you coped with it? I moved over here alone 2 years ago and as I'm still waiting for my TWP to come back I can't go back for my Gran's funeral and I'm finding it quite difficult to deal with from the other side of the world.

I'm sorry if it's too sad a topic but I was wondering has anyone else experienced this situation and what helped you cope with being so far away?


Thanks for any advice you can give me! I really appreciate it :)

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So sorry for your loss, thats a tough one, there have been some very sad posts on here in the past, some people have managed to get back others couldn't also some i know from people on here that have pmd privately.

I suppose its one of the things thats negative about moving, along with leaving the ones we love, It must be hard to accept and come to terms with something like this :wub: hope someone else comes along to give you some comforting words, this sight is great a supporting people when they need it.

Take care x

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How sad, :( not nice being half way around the world when a close relative dies. I'm sorry. Can you hold your own small ceremony.......plant a tree or do something specific to be symbolic, something she would have appreciated?

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I went back for my father's funeral, as did my brother who lives in an even more remote part of Ontario. It wasn't difficult in the obvious way, I wasn't close to my father. What was tricky though was the realization that there will likely only be more occasion on which the whole family will be together. I suppose we're all now waiting for that penny to drop. That'll represent a milestone in emigration, the point when there's no reason to go there again and no reason to be here.

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I went back for my father's funeral in 2004. It wasn't a major logistical exercise, neither did it cost much. Very little, in fact. When my mum (now 87) passes on, that trip to my birthplace may well be the last I ever make. There will be no reason for me to go to Brighton. If it wasn't for a contractual obligation, I probably wouldn't even go to the UK. I can see that contract being changed in a few years.

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Just to tie a couple of threads together, when visiting family I usually divert to Brighton. I go and have a beer with people I met from GU (or in the case of lindalotte, I have a Red Bull or a coffee while she hoovers cocaine).

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I know of a good place to get DM's in Brighton. Proper ones.

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I intend to go the DM department store in Convent Garden over Christmas. Happy days, the kids now being self-shodding I only have to get one pair.

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Is 'lindalotte' from Brighton actually from Ecuador?

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No, Bristol, though she's a blessing to the Bolivian economy.

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Oh well, thought a small world just got a bit smaller there.

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So sorry for our loss, it is a really hard thing to deal with. My husband lost both parents within 6 months of each other last year, so it was two stressful trips back - we had to go back, if we were still on TWP's, we would still have had to have gone back and hang the consequences. I can't offer you any advice as every situation is very different, so I will just offer my condolences through this difficult and sad time.

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So what exactly is the score with a TWP? I presume it's a one-time-only entry? Surely there must be something in place for the TWP holder to leave the country legitimately and in an emergency.

Can anyone offer any helpful advice to the OP on this? You can't surely be 'held prisoner' here for the whole duration of a TWP? :confused:

Sorry about your gran.

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Ann

You can leave the country and re-enter on a TWP (although it is not guarenteed you can re-enter, but I assume that as long as you haven't racked up a criminal record since your TWP started they will let you back in).

Loads of TWP holders go back and forth without problems.

However I suspect that the OP, who seems to have been here 2 yrs, is waiting for an extension, and may indeed be on implied status, in which case she loses that if she leaves.

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I have been through this.....twice now and i am on twp
Both times i left and got back into the country ;)
Feel free to send me a PM and ill help in anyway that i can.

So sorry to hear about the OP gran xx

LB