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Old Dec 3rd 2017, 5:06 pm
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Absolutely.


Especially since the OP is planning on living in Canada for the next 20 years.

After my husband of 23 years (Canadian, like me) and I separated I said that the 3 things I would avoid when dating: Older than I am(my ex was 4 years younger), tradie and being British. Well, it seems I hit the trifecta with my current partner. He's not much older - only 6 months, he's a diesel mechanic who up until recently worked in the mines here in Western Australia, and he's from Middlesborough originally. If I had restricted myself to my rather ridiculous criteria then I never would have been in a great relationship with a great guy who makes me laugh every day, and laughs both with and at me every day.

As someone else said, after the breakup of your marriage you're in a bad place emotionally. Homesickness kicks in and it's not easy to see the bigger picture. Give it some time and maybe a visit back to the UK and most importantly take care of yourself.
Good point about the 20 years.
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Old Dec 3rd 2017, 6:01 pm
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Good point about the 20 years.
Shame I didn't say that in post number 5. Perhaps I was too subtle

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Shame I didn't say that in post number 5. Perhaps I was too subtle

Subtlety is not a strong point of mine.
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I've been married to, or had a sustained relationship, equivalent to marriage in Canadian law, with, a Swiss, a Newfie, an American and an Irish person. I've lived for a couple of years each with people of other nationalities including, at one point, an English one. I have not been able to conclude anything related to nationality but I have determined that the key to wealth is domestic stability.
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Old Dec 4th 2017, 12:10 am
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...I have not been able to conclude anything related to nationality but I have determined that the key to wealth is domestic stability.
Nothing to do with cheese?
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Old Dec 4th 2017, 3:24 am
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The lack of knowledge of a partner's early life doesn't only apply to different nationalities or countries!

and I don't really think it should be used as so much of an excuse for the breakdown in a relationship.


OH and I didn't meet until we were 19 and 21, at university. We were raised in very different areas of England, and had very different childhoods. Even after well over 50 years, it is still difficult sometimes to understand each other's childhoods.

I was the second child, with a brother who was so much older that we never actually had childhood holidays together. Brother left school at 14 and was apprenticing for the next 7+ years, married by the time I was 12, and I was babysitting his first child less than a year later.

OH was the elder child, and almost as much older than his sister as my brother had been, but he had more of a childhood with her than I'd had.

I grew up in a Lancashire cotton mill town, easy access to the moors but grim and grimy streets and buildings, and hard scrabble farming.

He grew up in a country town in Cheshire, close to a farming community, even worked on a farm in summer holidays.

His parents were professionals, my father was a foundry worker and then a foreman.

As different as chalk and cheese.

You just have to make it work, and forge your own traditions etc!
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Old Dec 4th 2017, 6:43 pm
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The lack of knowledge of a partner's early life doesn't only apply to different nationalities or countries!

and I don't really think it should be used as so much of an excuse for the breakdown in a relationship.


OH and I didn't meet until we were 19 and 21, at university. We were raised in very different areas of England, and had very different childhoods. Even after well over 50 years, it is still difficult sometimes to understand each other's childhoods.

I was the second child, with a brother who was so much older that we never actually had childhood holidays together. Brother left school at 14 and was apprenticing for the next 7+ years, married by the time I was 12, and I was babysitting his first child less than a year later.

OH was the elder child, and almost as much older than his sister as my brother had been, but he had more of a childhood with her than I'd had.

I grew up in a Lancashire cotton mill town, easy access to the moors but grim and grimy streets and buildings, and hard scrabble farming.

He grew up in a country town in Cheshire, close to a farming community, even worked on a farm in summer holidays.

His parents were professionals, my father was a foundry worker and then a foreman.

As different as chalk and cheese.

You just have to make it work, and forge your own traditions etc!
That post reminds me of those 11plus questions.... John has 4 apples but no bike, Fred has oranges and a bike but no car ..... who has both oranges and a car ? lol
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I think foregoing cheese in Canada could significantly add to your wealth, but if you're in a quinfecta with a Swiss, a Newfie, an American and an Irish person they're probably ain't enough (overpriced) cheese in the world.


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Nothing to do with cheese?
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