Originally Posted by stuabroad (Post 12390798)

...I just did the first part and will remain in Canada for the next 20yrs whatever happens, to be a father to my son. But can't imagine myself marrying another Canadian...

Originally Posted by Shard (Post 12390929)

I think personal attributes (personality, education, class) far out weigh nationality.

Originally Posted by Paul_Shepherd (Post 12391106)

I agree...thats what I look for in a partner.

If the potential is there, I think familiarity and humour comes with time, and getting to know each other.

Originally Posted by Shard (Post 12391116)

You only need to look at the number of failed relationships within a nationality (even within a region) to realise that cultural familiarity does not guarantee compatibility.

Originally Posted by stuabroad (Post 12390798)

...can't imagine myself marrying another Canadian...

Originally Posted by stuabroad (Post 12391120)

All good points and as I said, i'm not isolating the Canadian aspect as the thing at fault. It coincides with being here 9 years now, missing home really for the first time in years which really means familiarity and family. A break home would probably refreshen me. I'm sure observing the options outside the average chippy at 2am in Manchester, would cause that to go quicker.

Originally Posted by Shirtback (Post 12393048)

I don’t see how Citizenship/nationality comes into the equation.

- very long-term relationship with a Frenchman who also happened to be Canadian, which is how I originally ended up here (as a pr but not through spousal sponsorship) and finished with a protracted & drawn-out break-up/separation.

- Some time after that, totally randomly, fell into a long-ish term relationship with a Brit expat, who is more Canadian than British.

- single & happy about it now.

Hmmmm, perhaps you DO have a point worth thinking about... ;).

ETA: a similar education & background might be a factor in the above.

Originally Posted by Shard (Post 12390929)

I think personal attributes (personality, education, class) far out weigh nationality.

Originally Posted by BristolUK (Post 12391100)

Probably a little restrictive :nod:

Originally Posted by Dorothy (Post 12393103)

Absolutely.


Especially since the OP is planning on living in Canada for the next 20 years.

After my husband of 23 years (Canadian, like me) and I separated I said that the 3 things I would avoid when dating: Older than I am(my ex was 4 years younger), tradie and being British. Well, it seems I hit the trifecta with my current partner. He's not much older - only 6 months, he's a diesel mechanic who up until recently worked in the mines here in Western Australia, and he's from Middlesborough originally. If I had restricted myself to my rather ridiculous criteria then I never would have been in a great relationship with a great guy who makes me laugh every day, and laughs both with and at me every day.

As someone else said, after the breakup of your marriage you're in a bad place emotionally. Homesickness kicks in and it's not easy to see the bigger picture. Give it some time and maybe a visit back to the UK and most importantly take care of yourself.