Money matters
 

This is about 'Money related matters'

From your earliest memories as a child growing up in the UK, through your teens years to the present day.

A. Has there ever been any 'noisy' or 'bad memories' issues that affected you at anytime causing distress or serious implications to your life?

B. Including with any relationships that you have had with your soul mate, partner, live-in or spouse?

C. Did your parents fight, argue, have disagreements over money?

D. Have you with a soul mate, partner, live-in or spouse had issues that have caused serious consequences leading up to 'God knows what'?

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Yes.

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From my OP, anyone that would like to give a basic response, I have edited the post to make the points as choice item responses A, B, C etc

Simple, without anyone going into detail or explanation

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ABCD: No

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My parents argued and fought constantly...but I can't say it was over money. Probably because there was non.

Can't recall ever having an argument with my husband of over 37 years about money either. Probably because we were both raised that if you can't afford to buy it cash...you don't buy it. We have always trusted each other money wise...for example I know he wouldn't buy something expensive without discussing it...same with me.

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AB yes C yes but not over money

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ABCD . All no.

I understood there was no money to spare. It didn't cause me undue distress. Yes. It did have an impact on the course of my life at school leaving time.
No. I am not filled with any bitter feelings for what could have been but was not.

I never heard my parents argue about money. There was none. If they did argue about money in any way it was away from young ears.

My husband and I have never fought about money. Period. There is complete openess & trust when it comes to the coffers.

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Only about half your time, but equally no arguments. Very early on I was advised "your money is my my money and my money is my money" which I found quite humorous, but somehow it's all worked out fairly even. We seem to be on the same page about spending, and I can imagine it would be very difficult if we were not.

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:lol: That's similar to my mantra...'what's yours is mine...what's mine my own'.

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weighing back in on my OP

No to ABCD

- From early childhood memories through to coming to Canada, working class, council estate, blue collar working class family - all loving, never an issue that sticks in my mind.

- I never heard or saw anything, no backlash from or with my Parents with regards to money matters. It was week to week living.

- Most items as I remember it was bought cash & if you didn't have the money, you did without

- Dad was never out of work, mother worked part time. Dad died when I was 16, so it was down to me & Mother. She worked seemingly every hour, I had to contribute.

- When I came to Canada with my now wife we each had £100. From then till now we have never had a single issue over money. Its never 'whats yours is mine, whats mine is my own'.

- Never forgetting where we came from, we never go into debt (other than a mortgage), thrify to misers at times. Our children were brought up the same way & don't know any different.

- Now in our late years, me & mine have discussed the past 50 years, how when we fisrt came here we worked ourselves till we couldn't stand any longer in always having a second job, waiting 10 years to have our first child, of doing without certain pleasures when we could afford them - from not replacing when it should have been done, waiting & stretching it, that holiday away, dining out more, never having a new vehicle... many other things. But you know what, its how we lived, 'life if reilly' - no regrets

- Having said all that, as late in our lives as it is, we have started to give money to our adult children (no grandkids BTW). An envelope of cash on a monthly basis. Hopefully its all gone too them before we pop our clogs at age 99

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A-Yes and they still bother and affect me to this day.

C-I cannot recall a time when they did not fight, over money usually.