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Re: Kids' chores ?
When I was a kid my brother and I did everything. From looking after the littlest kids from babies to washing down walls at the weekend we did the lot. Washing up, cooking dinner, laundry, ironing, dusting, hoovering, cleaning the bathroom etc. Sometimes my mother would happily tell my friends when they knocked on the door that "no we cannot come out to play as we are busy" and would "lovingly" break the news to me on a weekend that "No I cannot go out and ride" the pony I leased from the farmer in the pony club team event that i was signed up to "because I had work to do". It didnt take long to be dropped from the team as I was a woefully unreliable member.
My mother worked more than full time as a nurse and my step father was a lazy ass. My mother was straight out of the 1950's :( In our house my girls who are 12 and 9 empty the dishwasher and clean their bedrooms. They also have the feed the pets (dogs and cat) and set and clear the table. Thats it. My mother suggested not that long ago that my oldest should be able to iron by now. That was shot down by me, I want my children to have a childhood. I dont want my children to hate me with the intensity that I loathed my parents... |
Re: Kids' chores ?
Howefamily if it is any help my older boys seem to have turned out alright. Lol. Their job was the dishwasher and their bedrooms.
You're on the right track 😘ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ |
Re: Kids' chores ?
Originally Posted by MillieF
(Post 12192572)
Gosh....would you like a chid swap? My son is 16 and bloody fantastic actually, but never does a thing that I ask him to...but lots that I don't! I did everything that my mother demanded, I had to. We were a very unhappy bunch... My child is lazy, deaf to my demands, but we like each other...I am happy with that scenario...I think it will work in the long term:o. Every family is, thankfully, different. I never pay cash for anything carried out at home...
P.s. I've searched the thread for Victor, and had a look through Canada...can you give us another clue? I tend to fall asleep before I've mastered Europe and the rest of the world! Help!
Originally Posted by Teaandtoday5
(Post 12192950)
This^
They have a pretty full schedule of activities/paid work, homework/instrument practice. I'm not someone who likes being tied to a routine of housework, so if I don't feel like doing something straight away then tomorrow will do. I certainly don't want to make sure 2 or 3 other people are sticking to some sort of list of obligations. I remember feeling absolute resentment when drying dishes (dirty dishes made me want to throw up so my sister always washed) when I was a kid. Obviously I now know this feeling was completely unjustified, but it was how I felt at the time. As a result I don't enforce chores in a set pattern, but they help when asked, without resentment. As a result they are probably less competent domestically competent than I would have been at their age, but they'll learn when they have to. None of it is rocket science after all. My only bug bears are clothes on the floor, and their steadfast belief in the magical capability of the dishwasher to load itself with items left in its approximate vicinity. This is how it is in our house. If something needs helping with, we help. If I make a late night snack after everyone's went to bed, I clean up after it before I go up. I'm a bit of a clean freak so clean room's never been a problem. |
Re: Kids' chores ?
Originally Posted by DandNHill
(Post 12204006)
Howefamily if it is any help my older boys seem to have turned out alright. Lol. Their job was the dishwasher and their bedrooms.
You're on the right track 😘ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ |
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