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Expecting the child of a married British citizen, working in Malaysia

Old May 11th 2016, 11:37 pm
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The OP has not yet addressed Englishmum's suggestion of adoption.

Seeing as the alleged father is unwilling to even recognise the baby......that option seems best and the adoption/hospital fees may be accepted by the father.

Revenge can be enacted later, but at least the innocent child will not be a pawn in that action.
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Old May 11th 2016, 11:53 pm
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Originally Posted by Englishmum
Where is the wife of your baby's father? Is she also in Malaysia or is she still resident in the UK? Does he already have children with his wife? Are you hoping that he will divorce her and be with you?

The man sounds like a fool, if he's the MD he is not 'stupid' and would definitely know about contraceptive methods...it takes two to tango as the saying goes, you have both been playing with fire and now been burnt.

I have no idea about labour laws in Malaysia, do pregnant women have any job security?

Are you and your family members willing and able to care for your baby if the father is not? You state that you are expecting a son and I guess that you have already bonded with your baby somewhat and that a late termination is not a consideration

What is your ethnicity eg Malay, Chinese, Indian, Filipina, Indonesian or other? Is your family religious....I'm fully aware that Asian families tend to be conservative in outlook and I'm wondering how supportive they are, or have you hidden your pregancy so far?

I don't know if, in the scenario that you cannot care for your baby that you would be willing to consider having the baby adopted? I am certain that there are charities, religious organisations and and social service organisations in Malaysia which can help you and I'm sure that many expats in SE Asia would be willing to research these for you.

All the best
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& to Davita also.
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Old May 13th 2016, 7:25 am
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hi
The best way to handle this situation is talk and agree with the man, the man has more to loose if his fired from his job. so best come to an agreement so that your baby can e supported. There no point about the wrongs or rights, whats happen has happened , one needs to be positive minded.
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Old May 13th 2016, 9:01 am
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Just to say the OP has not been back since her last post, so she won't have seen all this good advice
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Old Jun 24th 2016, 7:26 pm
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guess they all recovering from brexit
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