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Old Nov 16th 2004, 6:54 am
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What do you reckon??

Is the expats site a relationship breaker

http://www.msn.handbag.com/relations...ineinfidelity/


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Old Nov 16th 2004, 10:27 am
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what on earth are you doing reading the article on 'handbag.com'!!??

but yes, i agree with the theory - flirting and cybersex are just as much an emotional betrayal as the physical betrayal of a physical affair.
being honest here, i was guilty of a bit of cyber flirting - didnt realise my other half had an inkling (it was just flirting, no sexy conversations);my other half being the kind of bloke who cant/wont talk through problems, he decided to go and have a fling with someone by text - i found his text messages and they were extremely pornographic!! I felt quite sick and betrayed, and (despite him saying they only started when he thought i was having a cyber affair with someone I think they were going on for quite a time before then) I felt completely betrayed. We did a lot of talking (for a change) and a lot of yelling before we realised we were both guilty of betraying each other (despite the relationship already breaking down for other reasons) and it actually brought us back together again. We managed to work through the other crap that was going on in the relationship and things are much better now....so far so good!

I think the problem with cyber affairs are that they are far more covert than a normal physical affair - theres only the people who access the computer who can find out....none of this meeting in pubs miles away from anywhere so no one sees you etc!! I think cyber-flirting is fairly harmless providing it goes no further. My other half is a huge flirt, but the minute i do it, its a whole different thing!! hes always hugging and kissing his mates girlfriends, but if i look at another bloke he gets very arsey about it all!!!!

sorry, starting to waffle a bit!!

nice one walla, now back to the original question - what are you doing reading handbag.com?????

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Old Nov 16th 2004, 10:55 am
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Originally Posted by walla1
What do you reckon??

Is the expats site a relationship breaker

http://www.msn.handbag.com/relations...ineinfidelity/


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Damn. I thought this was going to be the Boris Johnson thread

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Old Nov 16th 2004, 10:58 am
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Hang on hang on... (Now hopefully not everyone reading this will be as puritanical as the commentors on my Speeding replys but) Understand the sentiment but surely if you have not actually met someone or made the move to meet then it's impossible to be unfaithful. Therefore, you haven't done any wrong. Cybersex etc. has not made you unfaithful. Reading a lewd magazine or book likewise. Thinking the most outrageously unfaithful thoughts whilst in mid whatever with your partner. Non of these things is being unfaithful. But remember Bill Clinton? Surely the line has to be drawn there. Not at cybersex/SMSs etc. as long as it is by mutual consent. Otherwise the next thing will be the thought police. :scared:

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Old Nov 16th 2004, 12:31 pm
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Originally Posted by walla1
What do you reckon??

Is the expats site a relationship breaker

http://www.msn.handbag.com/relations...ineinfidelity/


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If flirting on BE did break a relationship then I'd say that the relationship was a bad one anyway.

Trust is key, without that you might as well pack it in.

As to how far you can flirt? Who knows, depends on the people involved ... but if you wouldn't want your partner reading what you have written then it's probably a bad sign.
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Originally Posted by walla1
What do you reckon??
Is the expats site a relationship breaker
http://www.msn.handbag.com/relations...ineinfidelity/
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BE is safe, you have my word for it That being said, I personally think that cyber affairs can be as damaging as the real thing. The emotional thing that makes you come back to your computer and keyboard for solace from whatever it is that is bugging you in real life. I think Sue will know what I'm talking about. Nothing wrong with a little harmless flirtation if you know where to draw the line. Just like real life
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Old Nov 16th 2004, 2:16 pm
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Originally Posted by walla1
What do you reckon??

Is the expats site a relationship breaker

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Expats? no way!!! i think the article is talking more along the lines of people in chat rooms...i've never been in a chat room, actually expats is my first experience with online chat(and i'm hooked )

actually while on avarity searching for a new avatar i read the online chat at the side and two people were having cyber sex!!! quite graphic too i almost left the room.....hehe almost
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I think shaving one's balls is a relationship breaker...
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Originally Posted by Deadmeat
If flirting on BE ....
there's flirting on BE?

i thought it was all lewd comments and backstabbing one-liners...
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Originally Posted by ksct97
there's flirting on BE?

i thought it was all lewd comments and backstabbing one-liners...

heehee actually i'd put B.E in the same category as an old Carry On flick full of sexual innuedo and a bit of harmless fun!!

i've been lucky to avoid the nasties so far
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Old Nov 16th 2004, 5:06 pm
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Originally Posted by Deadmeat
... but if you wouldn't want your partner reading what you have written then it's probably a bad sign.
my wife has hours of fun reading through all the threads I post on ...

like DM said - trust is paramount ... and if I felt I couldn't let Cheryl read this stuff (she has asked me on more than one occasion if I mind that she reads it) not only would I be ashamed of myself, but I'd have to doubt the stability of our marriage
 
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Originally Posted by ksct97
there's flirting on BE?

i thought it was all lewd comments and backstabbing one-liners...
You've forgotten the tasteless jokes, never forget the jokes
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Old Nov 16th 2004, 5:33 pm
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Originally Posted by Deadmeat
You've forgotten the tasteless jokes, never forget the jokes
Speak for yourself!
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Old Nov 16th 2004, 5:36 pm
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Originally Posted by Deadmeat
If flirting on BE did break a relationship then I'd say that the relationship was a bad one anyway.

Trust is key, without that you might as well pack it in.

As to how far you can flirt? Who knows, depends on the people involved ... but if you wouldn't want your partner reading what you have written then it's probably a bad sign.
Yep, totally agree with you. I think there is flirting to a certain extent on BE, but my husband and I have a really good laugh over most of what is written.

How are things going with DM?
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Old Nov 16th 2004, 5:41 pm
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Originally Posted by willmore
Yep, totally agree with you. I think there is flirting to a certain extent on BE, but my husband and I have a really good laugh over most of what is written.

How are things going with DM?
Just peachy thanks for asking Blagged some extra baggage allowance today and got my "email ticket" for the flight ... I miss REAL tickets ...

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