Sept 07 - March 08 applicants check in thread
#106
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Re: Sept 07 - March 08 applicants check in thread
I've been debating whether to mention this, then this morning i thought, what the hell, so here it is..........................
Have any of you started to wake up every morning wondering what the hell you're doing? Have you started to question the reasons you're giving up good jobs, good schools, nice house for the unknown in Australia?
I don't know if what i'm feeling is normal, it's a bit like a grieving process for everything i'm about to give up, and i don't think it's helped by people at work constantly asking whether we've got jobs to go to, but the wobbles have started again, much worse than before, and we're due to fly out on the 22nd October
The waiting to go hasn't helped either, more time to think and worry, the current financial crisis is a nightmare as well, we've lost loads since we first submitted our application. We've got the dogs blood tests next week, which i'm worried about, so maybe i'll feel better once they come back I don't want to put a downer on anyone's dreams, i guess i just want to see if other people are feeling the same.
Have any of you started to wake up every morning wondering what the hell you're doing? Have you started to question the reasons you're giving up good jobs, good schools, nice house for the unknown in Australia?
I don't know if what i'm feeling is normal, it's a bit like a grieving process for everything i'm about to give up, and i don't think it's helped by people at work constantly asking whether we've got jobs to go to, but the wobbles have started again, much worse than before, and we're due to fly out on the 22nd October
The waiting to go hasn't helped either, more time to think and worry, the current financial crisis is a nightmare as well, we've lost loads since we first submitted our application. We've got the dogs blood tests next week, which i'm worried about, so maybe i'll feel better once they come back I don't want to put a downer on anyone's dreams, i guess i just want to see if other people are feeling the same.
You sound just like me. I thought I was the only one feeling like this. I have tried to explain to OH but he excited. I am scared to death but also excited.
While the visa was processing, I was always researching areas, jobs, schools, going on realestate. I was excited.
Now we have the visa, I feel I have been dropped back down to earth.
I dont know were to start.
I am also worried how much I will miss my mum and step dad. They will come over alot but I think are we doing the best for the kids by taking them away from there granny & grandad. My parents are not old, they are 56 & 59.
I also worry about jobs, if we will find them and what pay.
We have lost so much money with the house, so all initial plans about what we could afford have gone out of the window.
Please dont get me wrong, I really want to go and make a go of it. Im sure this must be normal behaviour.
At least we aint going with rose tinted specs.
Take care.
Jill
xxx
Ps: I could go on and on about what is whizzing through my mind.
#107
Re: Sept 07 - March 08 applicants check in thread
I've been debating whether to mention this, then this morning i thought, what the hell, so here it is..........................
Have any of you started to wake up every morning wondering what the hell you're doing? Have you started to question the reasons you're giving up good jobs, good schools, nice house for the unknown in Australia?
I don't know if what i'm feeling is normal, it's a bit like a grieving process for everything i'm about to give up, and i don't think it's helped by people at work constantly asking whether we've got jobs to go to, but the wobbles have started again, much worse than before, and we're due to fly out on the 22nd October
The waiting to go hasn't helped either, more time to think and worry, the current financial crisis is a nightmare as well, we've lost loads since we first submitted our application. We've got the dogs blood tests next week, which i'm worried about, so maybe i'll feel better once they come back I don't want to put a downer on anyone's dreams, i guess i just want to see if other people are feeling the same.
Have any of you started to wake up every morning wondering what the hell you're doing? Have you started to question the reasons you're giving up good jobs, good schools, nice house for the unknown in Australia?
I don't know if what i'm feeling is normal, it's a bit like a grieving process for everything i'm about to give up, and i don't think it's helped by people at work constantly asking whether we've got jobs to go to, but the wobbles have started again, much worse than before, and we're due to fly out on the 22nd October
The waiting to go hasn't helped either, more time to think and worry, the current financial crisis is a nightmare as well, we've lost loads since we first submitted our application. We've got the dogs blood tests next week, which i'm worried about, so maybe i'll feel better once they come back I don't want to put a downer on anyone's dreams, i guess i just want to see if other people are feeling the same.
We are selling our beautiful house at a knockdown price - losing all the money we spent doing it up..... my DD is losing a place at one of the best schools in the country. We are having to leave 2 properties behind unsold and manage them from overseas.
Bloody hell, I have colly wobbles every day!!!!
I think answer lies in your heart. Imagine if Mick came home tonight and said he had changed his mind. How would you feel??? Would you be heartbroken or relieved???
Mary -
I wonder that too sometimes.
Because of the financial crisis spreading, I'm feeling more and more that it's a good time to go. For us it's more opportunity for DH - and warmer climate for all of us. For our children, it's a better life as they reach adulthood. For my husband and I perhaps a better retirement.
Life takes many unknown turns. I'm sure you would have lost a lot in these current financial times anyway - almost no one is untouched in some way.
Very true
Recently I've become more anxious to go
I wonder that too sometimes.
Because of the financial crisis spreading, I'm feeling more and more that it's a good time to go. For us it's more opportunity for DH - and warmer climate for all of us. For our children, it's a better life as they reach adulthood. For my husband and I perhaps a better retirement.
Life takes many unknown turns. I'm sure you would have lost a lot in these current financial times anyway - almost no one is untouched in some way.
Very true
Recently I've become more anxious to go
#108
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Re: Sept 07 - March 08 applicants check in thread
I've been debating whether to mention this, then this morning i thought, what the hell, so here it is..........................
Have any of you started to wake up every morning wondering what the hell you're doing? Have you started to question the reasons you're giving up good jobs, good schools, nice house for the unknown in Australia?
I don't know if what i'm feeling is normal, it's a bit like a grieving process for everything i'm about to give up, and i don't think it's helped by people at work constantly asking whether we've got jobs to go to, but the wobbles have started again, much worse than before, and we're due to fly out on the 22nd October
The waiting to go hasn't helped either, more time to think and worry, the current financial crisis is a nightmare as well, we've lost loads since we first submitted our application. We've got the dogs blood tests next week, which i'm worried about, so maybe i'll feel better once they come back I don't want to put a downer on anyone's dreams, i guess i just want to see if other people are feeling the same.
Have any of you started to wake up every morning wondering what the hell you're doing? Have you started to question the reasons you're giving up good jobs, good schools, nice house for the unknown in Australia?
I don't know if what i'm feeling is normal, it's a bit like a grieving process for everything i'm about to give up, and i don't think it's helped by people at work constantly asking whether we've got jobs to go to, but the wobbles have started again, much worse than before, and we're due to fly out on the 22nd October
The waiting to go hasn't helped either, more time to think and worry, the current financial crisis is a nightmare as well, we've lost loads since we first submitted our application. We've got the dogs blood tests next week, which i'm worried about, so maybe i'll feel better once they come back I don't want to put a downer on anyone's dreams, i guess i just want to see if other people are feeling the same.
I'd be more worried if you didn't get the wobbles actually. I've told myself and the family very openly that we will experience times of serious doubt, homesickness, house-sickness, even school sickness. You can't deny this is a huge change and change brings a whole host of emotions. If you don't allow these feelings now when they hit you (which I think they must) it will be like a rock.
I've reached the stage of actually saying out loud that I'd rather know we've been rejected that not know at all coz of the waiting. Deep down I don't want that as I still have the dream of what the lifestyle and opportunities for us and children can offer us.
You've taken the most important step - going for it and the second most important step - being honest about your feelings. Keep going, keep packing (!) and when you get there and have settled and are really happy - post us all to keep us going. You are blazing the trail for many who are following on after you. Many of us (and everyone out there do agree with me) have relied on you - so keep leaning on us as you need to.
Lastly of course - do send me your case officer!!!!!!!!!!!
#109
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Re: Sept 07 - March 08 applicants check in thread
Mary -
I wonder that too sometimes.
Because of the financial crisis spreading, I'm feeling more and more that it's a good time to go. For us it's more opportunity for DH - and warmer climate for all of us. For our children, it's a better life as they reach adulthood. For my husband and I perhaps a better retirement.
Life takes many unknown turns. I'm sure you would have lost a lot in these current financial times anyway - almost no one is untouched in some way.
Recently I've become more anxious to go
I wonder that too sometimes.
Because of the financial crisis spreading, I'm feeling more and more that it's a good time to go. For us it's more opportunity for DH - and warmer climate for all of us. For our children, it's a better life as they reach adulthood. For my husband and I perhaps a better retirement.
Life takes many unknown turns. I'm sure you would have lost a lot in these current financial times anyway - almost no one is untouched in some way.
Recently I've become more anxious to go
I havent felt like this. But, to be honest, its probably because I'm not moving a whole family over. Its more of a commitment for you but for me, I can turn around and come home whenever I want.
But, at this stage of the process, thinking about whether you are doing the right thing is wasted energy. You're doing it, no going back now. Just be positive about it and keep an open mind. If you arrive over there trying to compare it to living in the UK, you'll have a hard time finding your feet. I'm going over seeing it as a holiday to start with. Financially I'm secure and am confident about finding work wherever I end up.
Also, you need to remember your reasons for wanting to do it in the first place. If those reasons are still true, then you are still doing the right thing.
But, at this stage of the process, thinking about whether you are doing the right thing is wasted energy. You're doing it, no going back now. Just be positive about it and keep an open mind. If you arrive over there trying to compare it to living in the UK, you'll have a hard time finding your feet. I'm going over seeing it as a holiday to start with. Financially I'm secure and am confident about finding work wherever I end up.
Also, you need to remember your reasons for wanting to do it in the first place. If those reasons are still true, then you are still doing the right thing.
Hi Mary
You sound just like me. I thought I was the only one feeling like this. I have tried to explain to OH but he excited. I am scared to death but also excited. While the visa was processing, I was always researching areas, jobs, schools, going on realestate. I was excited.
Now we have the visa, I feel I have been dropped back down to earth.
I dont know were to start.
I am also worried how much I will miss my mum and step dad. They will come over alot but I think are we doing the best for the kids by taking them away from there granny & grandad. My parents are not old, they are 56 & 59.
I also worry about jobs, if we will find them and what pay.
We have lost so much money with the house, so all initial plans about what we could afford have gone out of the window.Please dont get me wrong, I really want to go and make a go of it. Im sure this must be normal behaviour. At least we aint going with rose tinted specs.
Take care.
Jill
xxx
Ps: I could go on and on about what is whizzing through my mind.
You sound just like me. I thought I was the only one feeling like this. I have tried to explain to OH but he excited. I am scared to death but also excited. While the visa was processing, I was always researching areas, jobs, schools, going on realestate. I was excited.
Now we have the visa, I feel I have been dropped back down to earth.
I dont know were to start.
I am also worried how much I will miss my mum and step dad. They will come over alot but I think are we doing the best for the kids by taking them away from there granny & grandad. My parents are not old, they are 56 & 59.
I also worry about jobs, if we will find them and what pay.
We have lost so much money with the house, so all initial plans about what we could afford have gone out of the window.Please dont get me wrong, I really want to go and make a go of it. Im sure this must be normal behaviour. At least we aint going with rose tinted specs.
Take care.
Jill
xxx
Ps: I could go on and on about what is whizzing through my mind.
Hi Mary, I had the same feeling this morning. My OH works for Lloyds TSB. This mornings news made him groan because he reckons there will be enough work for a decade - he is a computer system merger specialist and is still working on the merger between Lloyds and TSBSo here we are heading off to Adelaide where his skills aren't very much in demand
We are selling our beautiful house at a knockdown price - losing all the money we spent doing it up..... my DD is losing a place at one of the best schools in the country. We are having to leave 2 properties behind unsold and manage them from overseas.
Bloody hell, I have colly wobbles every day
I think answer lies in your heart. Imagine if Mick came home tonight and said he had changed his mind. How would you feel??? Would you be heartbroken or relieved???
We are selling our beautiful house at a knockdown price - losing all the money we spent doing it up..... my DD is losing a place at one of the best schools in the country. We are having to leave 2 properties behind unsold and manage them from overseas.
Bloody hell, I have colly wobbles every day
I think answer lies in your heart. Imagine if Mick came home tonight and said he had changed his mind. How would you feel??? Would you be heartbroken or relieved???
Mary
I'd be more worried if you didn't get the wobbles actually. I've told myself and the family very openly that we will experience times of serious doubt, homesickness, house-sickness, even school sickness. You can't deny this is a huge change and change brings a whole host of emotions. If you don't allow these feelings now when they hit you (which I think they must) it will be like a rock.
I've reached the stage of actually saying out loud that I'd rather know we've been rejected that not know at all coz of the waiting. Deep down I don't want that as I still have the dream of what the lifestyle and opportunities for us and children can offer us.
You've taken the most important step - going for it and the second most important step - being honest about your feelings. Keep going, keep packing (!) and when you get there and have settled and are really happy - post us all to keep us going. You are blazing the trail for many who are following on after you. Many of us (and everyone out there do agree with me) have relied on you - so keep leaning on us as you need to.
Lastly of course - do send me your case officer!!!!!!!!!!!
I'd be more worried if you didn't get the wobbles actually. I've told myself and the family very openly that we will experience times of serious doubt, homesickness, house-sickness, even school sickness. You can't deny this is a huge change and change brings a whole host of emotions. If you don't allow these feelings now when they hit you (which I think they must) it will be like a rock.
I've reached the stage of actually saying out loud that I'd rather know we've been rejected that not know at all coz of the waiting. Deep down I don't want that as I still have the dream of what the lifestyle and opportunities for us and children can offer us.
You've taken the most important step - going for it and the second most important step - being honest about your feelings. Keep going, keep packing (!) and when you get there and have settled and are really happy - post us all to keep us going. You are blazing the trail for many who are following on after you. Many of us (and everyone out there do agree with me) have relied on you - so keep leaning on us as you need to.
Lastly of course - do send me your case officer!!!!!!!!!!!
What would i do without you lot????
Everything you say is right and it all makes sense. The reasons are still the same, nothings changed really except our finances (really feel for you on this Nic) and the fact that i leave my job next week I wish i could see it as a big adventure (think it's the age thing Nige, but because of the kids i can't - it's like an overwhelming feeling of responsiblity and guilt.
I know i'll start to feel better once the kids are in school and we've got jobs, it's just the bit in the middle that's driving me crazy, too much time to think and nothing i can do about it..............maybe i'm just a control freak
Don't worry, i'll be posting as soon as i can get connected - all good stuff of course
I think Fly Away's CO is now free
#110
Re: Sept 07 - March 08 applicants check in thread
What would i do without you lot????
Everything you say is right and it all makes sense. The reasons are still the same, nothings changed really except our finances (really feel for you on this Nic) and the fact that i leave my job next week I wish i could see it as a big adventure (think it's the age thing Nige, but because of the kids i can't - it's like an overwhelming feeling of responsiblity and guilt.
I know i'll start to feel better once the kids are in school and we've got jobs, it's just the bit in the middle that's driving me crazy, too much time to think and nothing i can do about it..............maybe i'm just a control freak
Don't worry, i'll be posting as soon as i can get connected - all good stuff of course
I think Fly Away's CO is now free
Everything you say is right and it all makes sense. The reasons are still the same, nothings changed really except our finances (really feel for you on this Nic) and the fact that i leave my job next week I wish i could see it as a big adventure (think it's the age thing Nige, but because of the kids i can't - it's like an overwhelming feeling of responsiblity and guilt.
I know i'll start to feel better once the kids are in school and we've got jobs, it's just the bit in the middle that's driving me crazy, too much time to think and nothing i can do about it..............maybe i'm just a control freak
Don't worry, i'll be posting as soon as i can get connected - all good stuff of course
I think Fly Away's CO is now free
Money is overrated. If you lose money, you have already gained the skills in accumulating it back again (you're 41, well experienced lol). But my main original point was to try and enjoy what you're doing instead of freaking out about a move which is definitely going to happen.
#111
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Re: Sept 07 - March 08 applicants check in thread
Actually, I was just reading Pollyanas interview on here about half an hour ago (now I know what the witch avatar is about). She seems to have had many moments of regret since moving. But, she said herself that she would have found it easier if she was moving with her family. You'll be leaving people behind but so will everyone. The responsibility thing works both ways. If you stayed in the UK, would you be making the right choice for your kids? You never know. Forget about the pressure of moving as thats going to happen anyway.
Money is overrated. If you lose money, you have already gained the skills in accumulating it back again (you're 41, well experienced lol). But my main original point was to try and enjoy what you're doing instead of freaking out about a move which is definitely going to happen.
Money is overrated. If you lose money, you have already gained the skills in accumulating it back again (you're 41, well experienced lol). But my main original point was to try and enjoy what you're doing instead of freaking out about a move which is definitely going to happen.
You're so right, i need to start seeing the positives instead of crying over the negatives (41 isn't a negative and i'm not that experienced). You've made an excellent point and it's given me a lot to think about, thanks Nige.
You can cry on my shoulder anytime
#112
Re: Sept 07 - March 08 applicants check in thread
Oh and I will lol. I'll probably cry like a baby for weeks once I get over there lol. Everyone else from BE will be partying and having a fab time in Oz. I'll be on here on my own going 'Hello?? Anybody?' haha.
#113
Re: Sept 07 - March 08 applicants check in thread
I didn't write anything spectacular. I just asked if they could give us a reasonable idea of when the visa would be granted as we had been waiting 8 months and the timescale we had been given was 4-7 months (475 visa). I said I needed to know as we had frontloaded the meds and if it was going to be much longer, we would have to do the meds again - obvioulsly at great expense. i also said that I had sen on various internet forums that hundreds of visas had been granted to post Jan applicants - so I was worried there was something wrong with our application. I wrote all this very politely and said that I knew there were hundreds of people in a similar situation but we had sold our house and were ready to go.
As for having the colly wobbles well thats happening to me too - not even got the visas yet - all the excitement seems to have gone out of it and I worry about the effect it will have on the kids etc etc. OH wants to go in January and we should really but it just seems so close. Really though I suppose there is just too much time to think - the momentum has gone out of it all - maybe it will pick up again once we have exchanged on the house sale!!!!
At least we all have each other - what would it be like without BE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Jackie x
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#114
Joined: Apr 2007
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Re: Sept 07 - March 08 applicants check in thread
Just get broadband and you'll be fine, we can all cry together
#116
Re: Sept 07 - March 08 applicants check in thread
Hope you exchange REAL SOON!
Hi
Good luck for the flight, not long now!
Good idea about stocking up at Primark or similar, as there is no equivalent here, you can go to Target or Kmart but choice is not so good and quality is really poor, I bought 2 T shirts for my son and they lasted 2 washes. When I took them back to complain, the girl said "what do you expect for $10?" but I reckon a £5 T shirt would have lasted ok in the UK, so was not impressed.
Good luck again
Sam
Good luck for the flight, not long now!
Good idea about stocking up at Primark or similar, as there is no equivalent here, you can go to Target or Kmart but choice is not so good and quality is really poor, I bought 2 T shirts for my son and they lasted 2 washes. When I took them back to complain, the girl said "what do you expect for $10?" but I reckon a £5 T shirt would have lasted ok in the UK, so was not impressed.
Good luck again
Sam
Hi everyone
We have just had the valuer/surveyor out he was only he 10mins top! we should be complete for the 30th of this month (fingers and legs crossed) and leave for the Gold Coast on the 08th October.
I dont know about anyone else but i am soooooo tired, worrying about things like people xmas prezzies! OH has gone mad and told me not to buy them but i feel guilty and hoping that we find somewhere nice to live oh and will we receive our furniture before xmas!!!!!!!!!!
We have just had the valuer/surveyor out he was only he 10mins top! we should be complete for the 30th of this month (fingers and legs crossed) and leave for the Gold Coast on the 08th October.
I dont know about anyone else but i am soooooo tired, worrying about things like people xmas prezzies! OH has gone mad and told me not to buy them but i feel guilty and hoping that we find somewhere nice to live oh and will we receive our furniture before xmas!!!!!!!!!!
MIL bought us each Christmas prezzies so that we have something to open - so sweet of her! I had not thought that far ahead - and now wondering if it is someting I should add to my 'to do' list - or just leave it - may regret it if I don't ! dilemma
mmmmm are we doing the right thing? Hell Yes! I am stopping myself thinking about "the goodbyes" because I think I will be crying for a good few hours of the flight. But I am very excited to be leaving my job at the end of the month. And excited about starting a new life. Maybe I am in la-la land, but I can only think of good things. Hope it stays that way!
#117
Joined: Apr 2007
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Re: Sept 07 - March 08 applicants check in thread
Of course you can
I'll have whatever you're on
We are also waiting to exchange - we have said that this must happen by latest 10th October - otherwise we will rent the place out - we would much rather sell - even tho we have dropped the price so much - given recent events we may need the money!
Hope you exchange REAL SOON!
mmmmm are we doing the right thing? Hell Yes! I am stopping myself thinking about "the goodbyes" because I think I will be crying for a good few hours of the flight. But I am very excited to be leaving my job at the end of the month. And excited about starting a new life. Maybe I am in la-la land, but I can only think of good things. Hope it stays that way!
Hope you exchange REAL SOON!
mmmmm are we doing the right thing? Hell Yes! I am stopping myself thinking about "the goodbyes" because I think I will be crying for a good few hours of the flight. But I am very excited to be leaving my job at the end of the month. And excited about starting a new life. Maybe I am in la-la land, but I can only think of good things. Hope it stays that way!
I'll have whatever you're on
#118
Re: Sept 07 - March 08 applicants check in thread
Excited, Scared, Worried, sick, Happy, Impatient - all those things and more!
Niamh - sounds like it was sound advice - I'd better go shopping again Whats the shopping like in Brisbane? Have you been to Indooroopilly (pronounced indra'pilly so I'm tole ) shopping centre? Apparently its BIG (250 stores mmmm yay).
AHH - sounds so nice - I must have had my happy pills tonight - I'm feeling up up up!!!
hello everyone
we flew with singapore airlines a few days ago to perth. 2 adults 2 kids we were all allowed 40kg, you dont need anything in writing as long as its the first time you are entering oz on your visa, you can take as many cases as you want has long as they dont weigh more than 32kg each, we brought 6 cases. 4 hand luggage and laptop in a seperate bag, we were a little overweight on our cases but they didnt charge us, the staff on singapore airlines are very nice and friendly, and the airport at singapore is out of this world really modern spotless, you can go swimming out doors which refreshed us for the next journey, you can go in a place where the butterflies land on your hands the kids loved it,
good luck everyone have a safe journey
michelle
we flew with singapore airlines a few days ago to perth. 2 adults 2 kids we were all allowed 40kg, you dont need anything in writing as long as its the first time you are entering oz on your visa, you can take as many cases as you want has long as they dont weigh more than 32kg each, we brought 6 cases. 4 hand luggage and laptop in a seperate bag, we were a little overweight on our cases but they didnt charge us, the staff on singapore airlines are very nice and friendly, and the airport at singapore is out of this world really modern spotless, you can go swimming out doors which refreshed us for the next journey, you can go in a place where the butterflies land on your hands the kids loved it,
good luck everyone have a safe journey
michelle
#119
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Re: Sept 07 - March 08 applicants check in thread
Excited, Scared, Worried, sick, Happy, Impatient - all those things and more!
Niamh - sounds like it was sound advice - I'd better go shopping again Whats the shopping like in Brisbane? Have you been to Indooroopilly (pronounced indra'pilly so I'm tole ) shopping centre? Apparently its BIG (250 stores mmmm yay).
AHH - sounds so nice - I must have had my happy pills tonight - I'm feeling up up up!!!
Niamh - sounds like it was sound advice - I'd better go shopping again Whats the shopping like in Brisbane? Have you been to Indooroopilly (pronounced indra'pilly so I'm tole ) shopping centre? Apparently its BIG (250 stores mmmm yay).
AHH - sounds so nice - I must have had my happy pills tonight - I'm feeling up up up!!!
Keep up the positive vibes..............you're making me feel better already
#120
Re: Sept 07 - March 08 applicants check in thread
Hi Everyone - found us on page 7! Hope you are all well - only 6 working days for me - got all our stuff down from the loft on the weekend - didn't realise how much we had up there - now for the sorting!