What should I do? SOS!

Old Oct 16th 2002, 11:29 am
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Hi

I am 23y and from South Africa. I met my solemate in Israel - 1999 December and we have been together ever since. After meeting each other in Israel we went to London for 2 months, we stayed with friends. I had to return to South Africa to continue my studies but soon after he (Canadian) came to visit me for about 6 months. Then asked me to visit him. So I went for my visa interview and got rejected because they thought I was not truthfull about my relationship with him. I told them we were just friends and that I got invited to spend New years and Christmas with him and his mom. I heard at that time that saying he was my boyfriend will make them reject my visa instantly...well, i got rejected anyway. So we kept our relationship strong, over the phone, calling each other almost 2 a week (very expensive) Then I thought based on my babysitting experience I will au-pair in Canada so I can be with him...but you need one year au-pair experience to au-pair in Canada. I applied to do au-pair in America to get the experience then move on to Canada...So i got my J1 visa for America and started working for the family...soon I applied for a multiple entry visa into Canada so I can visit him during my holiday,I was so happy I got the visa (based on the fact that the Canadian and I am friends and that I was invited by him and his mother) - valid till December 2003.I visit him ones and things were just amazing. But after about 3 months the family was great but the job just wasn't for me anymore, and when you fail to complete the 1 year program you have to return to your own country and are not allowed to enter any other country.....I got so afraid of not seeing him I went to Canada. I dont know if the American Immigration knows or not. Anyway.....so here is where i am now......
I am in Canada and my entry date expires on the 20th January 2003. We are still very happy and want to stay together and will get married. But we want to stay together for a few years just to be sure (mature decision) I am currently busy with my 3de year Travel and Tourism course throught the post and would like to study photograpy here in Canada....I am just scared if I want to extend my visa they will reject it and send me back home. We have been throught hell to be with each other, crying over the phone because we miss each other so much....it is a scary thought of me going back to South Africa. At the moment we go on as if I am already a Canadian(I wish) we are looking for a appartment. He has a great job that will allow him to be a valid sponser. But do I still need to extend my visa when we planning for him to be my sponsor. Will it be best for us to get married before my enty expires? Which means I have to get married in about a month from now. What do you make of this situation. There is so many forms and things to think about that I just confuse myself. I was even thinking of going to another country for one month or so and then return and just tell the entry officer that I came to visit my friend again and get another six months to figure out things. I have a friend in Boston USA that said I can always go stay with her then return to Canada but I dont know if the American Imigration will deport me if they put something on the computer like I went awall or something. My American J1 expires on May 28 2003. This might sound like a stupid situation I put myself into....well, anything in the name of love right....but if you could advise me on what to do to stay in Canada without being send home or something like that I will be very happy. Hope you can make sense of this story....I tried my best to explain this long complicated story in short.
Thanks for taking the time to read this.
Have a good day.
If you know of someone that can help, just let me know.

Thanks again
ME
Ps: sorry for my spelling
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Old Oct 16th 2002, 3:25 pm
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Before you read this, keep in mind I am NOT an expert/consultant. I am just writing my opinion here.

OK as I get it, You are right now in Canada and have Visa to stay here till Jan. 2003. You don't want to get married right now, but want to stay with your BF.

Rent an apt here and you both start living together, start collecting proof that you both are living together, like phone bills, VISA bills, etc. Now you want to stay here and study, but as I get your main purpose is to be with your BF. Its October now and you have to be with your BF for a year, before he can apply to sponsor you as Common Partner. Now you want to stay here beyond Jan 2003, and you have multi entry Visa till Dec 2003, In Jan goto South Africa for a week and then get back to Canada and get admission in one of the college for Photography school for September 2003, pay the whole fees(if possible). Apply for Student Visa for September 2003. If you get VISA, well and good, else stay till Dec. 2003, then, I am sad to say, go back to SA and your BF can apply to sponsor you as a Common Partner.

As I mentioned before I AM NOT A CONSULTANT, so you don't have to listen to me, I might be very well wrong. I am just sad that you are in LOVE and this CHC, doesn't care of this. If you want e-mail me and I can give you my Lawyers' phone and address, she lives in Montreal, you can talk to her and ask is she can help you.

One think I would suggest is don't go back to US, they will definitely deport you back to SA, which will be very bad.

Hope this Helps.

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Old Oct 16th 2002, 9:58 pm
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Hi, Yogi
I perfectly understand why you don't want to rush into marriage, but,
in the end, marriage is not such a terrible thing, it's not some fatal
decision that must affect your whole life. I would tell you : go for
it, especially because you have no choice, and you have to do it in
order to be together with someone. I am married second time now, and
my first marirage was just out of the same reasons like yours. We were
too young to get married and we knew it, but we had no choice. After a
while we divorced peacefully. I wouldn't say that it didn't hurt, but
it was worth it anyway. I am much happier now with my husband and
little son, but I never regreted what I did it then. It was an
interesting experience.
 
Old Oct 18th 2002, 10:41 am
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You are entitled to apply for an extension of your temporary visitor status
while in Canada. Just be sure to do it at least 4 weeks before January 20th,
2003. Be honest this time. Tell Immigration you have a Canadian boyfriend,
would like to spend more time with him, are debating what to do about your
future, and have every intention of respecting Canadian immigration law. Go
to the CIC website for application procedures -
http://www.cic.gc.ca/e-
nglish/applications/visitor.html


Tim Morson
Former Immigration Program Manager
[email protected]


"Yogi" wrote in message
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...
    > Hi
    > I am 23y and from South Africa. I met my solemate in Israel - 1999
    > December and we have been together ever since. After meeting each other
    > in Israel we went to London for 2 months, we stayed with friends. I had
    > to return to South Africa to continue my studies but soon after he
    > (Canadian) came to visit me for about 6 months. Then asked me to visit
    > him. So I went for my visa interview and got rejected because they
    > thought I was not truthfull about my relationship with him. I told them
    > we were just friends and that I got invited to spend New years and
    > Christmas with him and his mom. I heard at that time that saying he was
    > my boyfriend will make them reject my visa instantly...well, i got
    > rejected anyway. So we kept our relationship strong, over the phone,
    > calling each other almost 2 a week (very expensive) Then I thought based
    > on my babysitting experience I will au-pair in Canada so I can be with
    > him...but you need one year au-pair experience to au-pair in Canada. I
    > applied to do au-pair in America to get the experience then move on to
    > Canada...So i got my J1 visa for America and started working for the
    > family...soon I applied for a multiple entry visa into Canada so I can
    > visit him during my holiday,I was so happy I got the visa (based on the
    > fact that the Canadian and I am friends and that I was invited by him
    > and his mother) - valid till December 2003.I visit him ones and things
    > were just amazing. But after about 3 months the family was great but the
    > job just wasn't for me anymore, and when you fail to complete the 1 year
    > program you have to return to your own country and are not allowed to
    > enter any other country.....I got so afraid of not seeing him I went to
    > Canada. I dont know if the American Immigration knows or not.
    > Anyway.....so here is where i am now......
    > I am in Canada and my entry date expires on the 20th January 2003. We
    > are still very happy and want to stay together and will get married. But
    > we want to stay together for a few years just to be sure (mature
    > decision) I am currently busy with my 3de year Travel and Tourism course
    > throught the post and would like to study photograpy here in Canada....I
    > am just scared if I want to extend my visa they will reject it and send
    > me back home. We have been throught hell to be with each other, crying
    > over the phone because we miss each other so much....it is a scary
    > thought of me going back to South Africa. At the moment we go on as if I
    > am already a Canadian(I wish) we are looking for a appartment. He has a
    > great job that will allow him to be a valid sponser. But do I still need
    > to extend my visa when we planning for him to be my sponsor. Will it be
    > best for us to get married before my enty expires? Which means I have to
    > get married in about a month from now. What do you make of this
    > situation. There is so many forms and things to think about that I just
    > confuse myself. I was even thinking of going to another country for one
    > month or so and then return and just tell the entry officer that I came
    > to visit my friend again and get another six months to figure out
    > things. I have a friend in Boston USA that said I can always go stay
    > with her then return to Canada but I dont know if the American
    > Imigration will deport me if they put something on the computer like I
    > went awall or something. My American J1 expires on May 28 2003. This
    > might sound like a stupid situation I put myself into....well, anything
    > in the name of love right....but if you could advise me on what to do to
    > stay in Canada without being send home or something like that I will be
    > very happy. Hope you can make sense of this story....I tried my best to
    > explain this long complicated story in short.
    > Thanks for taking the time to read this.
    > Have a good day.
    > If you know of someone that can help, just let me know.
    > Thanks again
    > ME
    > Ps: sorry for my spelling
    >
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