stuckinamess

Hello, I have had to post this from a new account as i cant risk being found out.

Basically i was on here around 18-20 months ago to get my immigration sorted as my wife was a canadian. With your advise this got done successfully.

Last year in Jan we got married, immigration was done by october.

I went to Canada to get her, she came back with me to england to meet my friends and family. This is where things went to shit.

This girl was aggressive and violent. Completely psycho. She shown signs of this in canada but her family assured me it was stress due to the wedding. She stayed with me in england till jan, where i occupied her and flew her back (all the paperwork got completed at the airport I have my PR card). I have already committed to moving to Canada. Ive sold my car / House and I am staying with a relative. I want to move but i dont want to live with her. I want a divorce.

Can I get a divorce when i go to Canada or am I stuck in england? She is threatening to come here with her brothers and take me back to hers.

I have kept phone logs / audio recordings / photos of her violence and aggression. I really need a way out.

Thank you for reading.

Edit: My pr card runs out in Marc 2017. Whats the latest i can move across without having to reapply and go onto citizenship? March 2015?

AdrianR

Uh-oh!

I could be flip and say, "Well, ya' made your bed - now go lie in it" but that won't be very helpful.

If you have PR and a few $$ then why not go to Canada and do a runner - far, far away from her? Otherwise, as you said, March 2015 is the latest you can leave moving to Canada and still retain PR...but that cuts it fine and wouldn't allow for any time out of the country in case of emergency, insolvency, whatever.

Tough call...

stuckinamess

I know What about the divorce and stuff? how does that affect me? Shes in BC and i ideally want to go to ontario (lots of it work)

Novocastrian

The regs have just been changed... have a look at http://britishexpats.com/forum/showthread.php?t=775836

I'm no expert but since you've been married a while I don't think this matters to you. Also you can get divorced wherever but in your position I would think twice. It'd cost you two arms and a leg.

mandymoochops

Hmmm if this is a genuine enquiry and she really is a pscho b***c, then you don't owe her anything.

You can move anywhere in Canada you want to as you are a pr - I'd suggest Inuvik - and begin divorce proceedings. I have no idea if it will come out during the proceedings where abouts you are - but it's a big country and her and her crony brothers shouldn't be able to find you - unless they suspect you are / have undertaken marriage fraud - in which case they might want to kill you on their sisters behalf.

Aviator

You did what?

Have you spoken to old bill?

Maybe talk to old bill?

AdrianR

Really? What are the chances of the bill even being remotely interested?

Siouxie

He can request to use the court address, a friends' address or a divorce companies address for the court documentation. There is no need to reveal his home address. I have had to do the same thing, for similar reasons.

stuckinamess

This is is very genuine. Thanks for the advice.

Neighbors called the old bill round to mine one night cause she was flipping out. I warned her that the neighbors will call the police round but she said i was talking shit as it doesn't happen in Vancouver

^^Thanks for this. I'll be using my cousins address in ....... then.

AdrianR

Might want to keep that to yourself, eh?

stuckinamess

Thanks

mandymoochops

lol I thought that too

stuckinamess

Do you know how much a divorce would cost over there? A grand or maybe 2?

Former Lancastrian

Depending on your situation a hitman might work out cheaper
Here are some basics of getting a divorce over here. There are some DIY divorce kits that are reasonably cheap. Maybe one of our friendly lawyers might give you a better idea and advice.
http://www.cba.org/bc/public_media/family/120.aspx

james.mc

In all the time you knew each other, before you were married, she never flipped like this? Once? Weird

I'm all for the others suggesting that you head across country and divorce from afar. Just be sure to keep your actual address secret! Sounds like you married a total nut job of a complete family there, not just one woman that has flipped!