Pesher

Hello All.
Sunday will be our first wedding anniversary and landing interview is on
Thursday. We also met online and burned the phone wires many hours per week
and at least two emails per day. There were also the seven hour drives to
visit. I was fortunate enought to obtain a job offer and come here and we
were married several months later. We are both old enough to remember the
days of only snail mail and serious letter writing. Writing reveals
different aspect of the person and often some deeper and more substantive
areas. The relationship has been a joy. All the paperwork and tediousness of
the immigration process also becomes joyful as a result.
Best wishes to all
"elaine" <[email protected]> wrote in message
news:[email protected]...
    > Thanks Jan for your reply, understanding and support...I know what you
    > mean, some people will never get what it takes to maintain and continue a
    > long distance "online" relationship, they will only understand it, if they
    > too have to and want to go through the process themselves, then I doubt
they
    > would be so easily led to judge other people's relationship situations, be
    > them online or in person....all my best out to you and your hubby and your
    > happiness with being with one another...I'm so envious! Waaaaaa! lol!
    > Elaine :-)
    > britgirl27 wrote:
    > > Hi Elaine
    > >
    > > I met my, now husband, on the internet. He is Canadian and I am
    > > British. We had a couple of visits with each other then I asked my boss
    > > for 3 months leave from work so that we could spend some quality time
    > > together and then I decided to sell up and move to Canada which I did
    > > August last year and we got married in September of this year. I
    > > applied for my PR in July and am still waiting for a decision.
    > >
    > > I dont think people realise that you get to know people far more when
    > > you meet online because you just talk either on the computer or on the
    > > phone, I found that I knew more about him that just meeting a guy in a
    > > bar etc because you are not watching what you say online - you just
    > > talk, talk and more talk.
    > >
    > > I hope things go well with both of you and that you are as happy
    > > as we are.
    > >
    > > Regards
    > >
    > > Jan
    > >
    > > --
    > > Posted via http://britishexpats.com

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in a recent article, elaine ([email protected]) said:

    > nice...well...good luck to you as well...
<snipperoo of poorly thought out ranting>

Thank you for proving my point with your posts in response to my
comments. From a psychological perspective, what you had written was very
telling. I'll gladly give you a no-cost evaluation of what I mean. You
would be an excellent example to my associates.

Now, if only you could learn to cut and paste, instead of top posting
your response, then your posts could possibly be marginally more effective.

Oh...by the way: I too went through a long distance relationship, before
the days of instant internet satisfaction and was quite prepared to
wait...patiently...for the immigration process to be complete, so I am
knowledgeable on this subject from two fronts.

May the force be with you.


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Elaine

Good for you on all fronts...and I'll get my associates to get in touch with
your associates for a psych evaluation on you...oh by the way...did I tell you I
have studied all aspects of psychology? Your posts to me too, are very telling
of you as well....I'm thinking your an anal retentive and thus have controlling
issues, per chance, are your socks all neatly lined up in your sock drawer in
accordance to colour, thickness and size?....also, just to make you twitch, I
will purposely not cut and paste any of my responses to your post messages, just
on principle and to be a stinker, hehe! Ooooooooh! gosh, I'm soooo
childish...how very telling of me....gosh....I'm so outa control here...I don't
know what I'm doing...please...help...I need your guidance...

"http://www.iamnotamerican.com" wrote:

    > in a recent article, elaine ([email protected]) said:
    > > nice...well...good luck to you as well...
    > <snipperoo of poorly thought out ranting>
    > Thank you for proving my point with your posts in response to my
    > comments. From a psychological perspective, what you had written was very
    > telling. I'll gladly give you a no-cost evaluation of what I mean. You
    > would be an excellent example to my associates.
    > Now, if only you could learn to cut and paste, instead of top posting
    > your response, then your posts could possibly be marginally more effective.
    > Oh...by the way: I too went through a long distance relationship, before
    > the days of instant internet satisfaction and was quite prepared to
    > wait...patiently...for the immigration process to be complete, so I am
    > knowledgeable on this subject from two fronts.
    > May the force be with you.
    > --
    > Say "I am not American" in TWELVE languages.
    > The original "I am not American" T-shirts - as seen on CNN
    > Only at http://www.iamnotamerican.com .
    > View 16 NEW designs and a full range of merchandise.
    > http://www.iamnotamerican.com
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Trikky

elaine ([email protected]) said:
    > Ooooooooh! gosh, I'm soooo childish...how very telling of me....gosh....I'm so
    > outa control here...I don't know what I'm doing...please...help...I need your
    > guidance...

Um...I think the fact you responded in that fashion establishes lots.

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in a recent article, elaine ([email protected]) said:

    > did I tell you I have studied all aspects of psychology?
No, because you obviously haven't. If you had, you wouldn't have
started this thread in the first place.

    > Your posts to me too, are very telling
    > of you as well....I'm thinking your an anal retentive
Nope. Sorry, toots. I can spell better than you, though. And no,
that's not anal retentiveness, that's just having a pet peeve about people
who (theoretically) have graduated from high school but don't have the
ability to correctly spell basic words.

    > and thus have controlling issues,
Nope. Sorry, toots. And that's 'control issues'. Psychology 101.
Good indicator you haven't studied it at all, or else you would have known
the correct layman's terminology.

    > per chance, are your socks all neatly lined up in your sock drawer in
    > accordance to colour, thickness and size?....
Nope. Sorry, toots. Thanks for reminding me though, I do have to put
my clothes away. Right now they're in a kind of neat pile on the floor.

    > also, just to make you twitch, I
    > will purposely not cut and paste any of my responses to your post messages,
    > just on principle and to be a stinker,
Makes no difference to me. You're the one making a small post into an
annoyingly long post for those on dial-ups to download. I'm on high speed,
so if you want to be inconsiderate to other internet users who may be
interested in your posts, go right ahead.

    > hehe! Ooooooooh! gosh, I'm soooo childish...how very telling of
    > me....gosh....I'm so outa control here...I don't know what I'm
    > doing...please...help...I need your guidance...

Thanks again for proving my point. The fact you're taking a newsgroup
discussion so personally is one of many indicators. What were you expecting
when you posted your article though? A complete love-in? If you don't want
to hear people's opinions, then why do you post in a public forum? I'm not
anal or controlling, but if there's one thing I am, it's straightforward.
None of this political correct crap that sees schools punishing a child for
using the word 'gay' - while describing her lesbian mother - but not wanting
to correct a child's spelling 'lest it hurt their self-esteem. You post to
a public forum, expect to get responses from both side of the fence.

Furthermore, the very way you write your posts is a good clue too and
goes a little further to validate what I had written earlier. I suspect
(though I know you'll say otherwise...just to be a 'stinker') that you saw
what I had written and started typing away, said what you said and then hit
SEND. No examination, no reviewing, just SEND. Jump in head first, letting
your emotions do the thinking. Much, I suspect, like your current
relationship.

From an internationally know author and columnist:
___________
Infatuation is instant desire. Its one set of glands calling to another.

Love on the other hand, is a friendship that has caught fire. It takes root
and grows ­ one day at a time.
Â
Infatuation is marked with a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and
eager, but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered
questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as
soon not examine too closely. It may spoil the dream.

Love is quieter understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It is
real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you ­ to bolster your beloved.
You are warmed by his/her presence, even when he/she is far away. long
distances do not separate you. You want him/her near, but near or far, you
know he/she is yours and you can wait.
Â
Infatuation says, ³ We must get married right away. I can¹t risk losing
you.²

Love says, ³ Be patient. Don¹t panic. He/She is yours. Lets plan our future
with confidence.²
Â
Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. If you're honest, you will
admit, it is difficult to be in one another¹s company unless you are sure it
will end in intimacy.

Love is the maturation of friendship. You must be friends before you can be
lovers..
Â
Infatuation lacks confidence. When he/she¹s away, you wonder if he/she¹s
cheating on you. Sometimes you even check.

Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. He feels that trust
and it makes him/her even more trustworthy.
Â
Infatuation might lead you to do things you¹ll regret later, but Love never
will.

Love is an upper. It makes you look up. It makes you think up. It makes you
a better person than you were before.
___________

While I wish you well, I can guarantee that with an attitude like that
you've demonstrated here, you will fail at an immigration hearing. An
Immigration officer is going to delve much further into your relationship
and likely throw the same scenarios at you. I know, because I went through
it 10 years ago. Respond as you did with me and he's stuck living under
George Dubya.

May the truth be with you.

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Renee

Thanks for posting that love/infatuation section. I'm saving it.

Renee

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Inland Spouse Timeline so far (U.S. Citizen):
19 Feb 2003: Moved to Calgary from U.S. on 6 month TRV
12 May 2003: Did medicals in Calgary
20 June 2003: Applied for TRV extension
5 July 2003: Wedding Date
17 July 2003: CIC received inland spouse PR application
15 Aug 2003: Received 6 month TRV extension
20 Aug 2003: CIC request for work history dates (which were sent with
application)
21 Aug 2003: CIC received work history reply by overnight post
4 Sept 2003: CIC e-Client finally shows "in process"
"http://www.iamnotamerican.com" <[email protected]> wrote
in message news:BBF55111.205BB%[email protected]...
    > in a recent article, elaine ([email protected]) said:
    > > did I tell you I have studied all aspects of psychology?
    > No, because you obviously haven't. If you had, you wouldn't have
    > started this thread in the first place.
    > > Your posts to me too, are very telling
    > > of you as well....I'm thinking your an anal retentive
    > Nope. Sorry, toots. I can spell better than you, though. And no,
    > that's not anal retentiveness, that's just having a pet peeve about people
    > who (theoretically) have graduated from high school but don't have the
    > ability to correctly spell basic words.
    > > and thus have controlling issues,
    > Nope. Sorry, toots. And that's 'control issues'. Psychology 101.
    > Good indicator you haven't studied it at all, or else you would have known
    > the correct layman's terminology.
    > > per chance, are your socks all neatly lined up in your sock drawer in
    > > accordance to colour, thickness and size?....
    > Nope. Sorry, toots. Thanks for reminding me though, I do have to put
    > my clothes away. Right now they're in a kind of neat pile on the floor.
    > > also, just to make you twitch, I
    > > will purposely not cut and paste any of my responses to your post
messages,
    > > just on principle and to be a stinker,
    > Makes no difference to me. You're the one making a small post into an
    > annoyingly long post for those on dial-ups to download. I'm on high
speed,
    > so if you want to be inconsiderate to other internet users who may be
    > interested in your posts, go right ahead.
    > > hehe! Ooooooooh! gosh, I'm soooo childish...how very telling of
    > > me....gosh....I'm so outa control here...I don't know what I'm
    > > doing...please...help...I need your guidance...
    > Thanks again for proving my point. The fact you're taking a newsgroup
    > discussion so personally is one of many indicators. What were you
expecting
    > when you posted your article though? A complete love-in? If you don't
want
    > to hear people's opinions, then why do you post in a public forum? I'm
not
    > anal or controlling, but if there's one thing I am, it's straightforward.
    > None of this political correct crap that sees schools punishing a child
for
    > using the word 'gay' - while describing her lesbian mother - but not
wanting
    > to correct a child's spelling 'lest it hurt their self-esteem. You post
to
    > a public forum, expect to get responses from both side of the fence.
    > Furthermore, the very way you write your posts is a good clue too and
    > goes a little further to validate what I had written earlier. I suspect
    > (though I know you'll say otherwise...just to be a 'stinker') that you saw
    > what I had written and started typing away, said what you said and then
hit
    > SEND. No examination, no reviewing, just SEND. Jump in head first,
letting
    > your emotions do the thinking. Much, I suspect, like your current
    > relationship.
    > From an internationally know author and columnist:
    > ___________
    > Infatuation is instant desire. Its one set of glands calling to another.
    > Love on the other hand, is a friendship that has caught fire. It takes
root
    > and grows ­ one day at a time.
    > Infatuation is marked with a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and
    > eager, but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered
    > questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just
as
    > soon not examine too closely. It may spoil the dream.
    > Love is quieter understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It is
    > real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you ­ to bolster your
beloved.
    > You are warmed by his/her presence, even when he/she is far away. long
    > distances do not separate you. You want him/her near, but near or far, you
    > know he/she is yours and you can wait.
    > Infatuation says, ³ We must get married right away. I can¹t risk losing
    > you.²
    > Love says, ³ Be patient. Don¹t panic. He/She is yours. Lets plan our
future
    > with confidence.²
    > Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. If you're honest, you
will
    > admit, it is difficult to be in one another¹s company unless you are sure
it
    > will end in intimacy.
    > Love is the maturation of friendship. You must be friends before you can
be
    > lovers..
    > Infatuation lacks confidence. When he/she¹s away, you wonder if he/she¹s
    > cheating on you. Sometimes you even check.
    > Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. He feels that
trust
    > and it makes him/her even more trustworthy.
    > Infatuation might lead you to do things you¹ll regret later, but Love
never
    > will.
    > Love is an upper. It makes you look up. It makes you think up. It makes
you
    > a better person than you were before.
    > ___________
    > While I wish you well, I can guarantee that with an attitude like that
    > you've demonstrated here, you will fail at an immigration hearing. An
    > Immigration officer is going to delve much further into your relationship
    > and likely throw the same scenarios at you. I know, because I went
through
    > it 10 years ago. Respond as you did with me and he's stuck living under
    > George Dubya.
    > May the truth be with you.
    > --
    > Say "I am not American" in TWELVE languages.
    > The original "I am not American" T-shirts - as seen on CNN
    > Only at http://www.iamnotamerican.com .
    > View 16 NEW designs and a full range of merchandise.
    > http://www.iamnotamerican.com
    > Remove uppercase letters from Email address to reply.