So when does it "get better"
Apr 5th 2019, 11:12 pm
#31
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Re: So when does it "get better"
Do you have the better home? Better employment? More leisure time?
Nope.
It is difficult to 'let go' of the emotional connection you had with the UK. And no one says that you need to. There is truth in the saying that you can never go home again. If you returned tomorrow, it will be different. Your friends will no longer be there for you as they once before. They have moved on without you. Your family will be happy to see you, but they, too, have settled into a life that doesn't include seeing you daily, weekly, monthly.
I disagree. I have stayed close friends with the same group from high school. Meeting up for a drink or 6, conversations, interactions would pretty much be the same I'd say.
I try now never to compare the two places. The culture is not my culture and never will be. I can accept it for what it is, someone else's way of life, and I can adopt some of the nuances of the culture but it will always be foreign to me.
Good outlook. I have taken this on board since you posted. It's helped a little.
Hope you find your way out of your discontent and start finding that life isn't as bad as you think.
Nope.
It is difficult to 'let go' of the emotional connection you had with the UK. And no one says that you need to. There is truth in the saying that you can never go home again. If you returned tomorrow, it will be different. Your friends will no longer be there for you as they once before. They have moved on without you. Your family will be happy to see you, but they, too, have settled into a life that doesn't include seeing you daily, weekly, monthly.
I disagree. I have stayed close friends with the same group from high school. Meeting up for a drink or 6, conversations, interactions would pretty much be the same I'd say.
I try now never to compare the two places. The culture is not my culture and never will be. I can accept it for what it is, someone else's way of life, and I can adopt some of the nuances of the culture but it will always be foreign to me.
Good outlook. I have taken this on board since you posted. It's helped a little.
Hope you find your way out of your discontent and start finding that life isn't as bad as you think.
Apr 5th 2019, 11:23 pm
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Re: So when does it "get better"
(Skiing, Mountain climbing, Hillwalking, Hunting, Fishing, Camping, Mountain Biking, Kayaking, Canoeing, Ice Skating etc etc ....) even the beloved 'TIMMIES' average coffee is now available in Glasgow.
Apr 5th 2019, 11:31 pm
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Re: So when does it "get better"
Motivation? grass is greener syndrome..
Yeah, every single average thing not being "awesome", in a completely obvious fake twang
Apr 5th 2019, 11:40 pm
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Re: So when does it "get better"
Sometimes people move as a compromise for a spouse, a job or other reasons and may not necessarily want or like where they move to. Unless single, compromises sometimes have to be made with the other people in ones life.
And of course you truly wont know what it's like to live in a country until you actually live in it, some may visit, love it as a visitor over multiple trips, decide to move, then once living here/there/wherever full-time realize its not a good fit for them, you never truly experience what its like living in a country by just visiting. Some people can accept change and adapt better and such as well.
And of course you truly wont know what it's like to live in a country until you actually live in it, some may visit, love it as a visitor over multiple trips, decide to move, then once living here/there/wherever full-time realize its not a good fit for them, you never truly experience what its like living in a country by just visiting. Some people can accept change and adapt better and such as well.
Apr 5th 2019, 11:52 pm
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Re: So when does it "get better"
One of the most expensive areas in the overcrowded GTA.
Motivation? grass is greener syndrome.
Yeah, every single average thing not being "awesome", in a completely obvious fake twang
Apr 6th 2019, 12:14 am
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Re: So when does it "get better"
It can take awhile to adjust. I’m at 4.5 years and I’m still not completely there. I don’t know if that will change in the future.
Canada is home now for sure but Vancouver will not be forever. I dislike the city living now and want to move to the surburbs.
I don’t have the friendship circles that I had/still have in the UK and that gets to me but everything else isnt too bad. I get on great with my partners friends and co-workers and my job is ok.
Nothing is is ever going to be perfect but you have to try and see the positives. Would I ever return to the UK to live...hell no!
Canada is home now for sure but Vancouver will not be forever. I dislike the city living now and want to move to the surburbs.
I don’t have the friendship circles that I had/still have in the UK and that gets to me but everything else isnt too bad. I get on great with my partners friends and co-workers and my job is ok.
Nothing is is ever going to be perfect but you have to try and see the positives. Would I ever return to the UK to live...hell no!
Apr 6th 2019, 12:18 am
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Re: So when does it "get better"
If time allows, maybe spend a nit more time on BE for the humour. It's become a bit dead in the Canada part but maybe you can help get it back to what it was.
One thing Canada does have over the UK - easy access and choice for footie. No good if you're not a fan though.
Are you missing Brit telly? Plenty of options for that.
Apr 6th 2019, 1:01 am
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Re: So when does it "get better"
https://britishexpats.com/wiki/Culture_Shock-Canada
There's some really good 'articles' in the Wiki on Canada and the challenges of living here: https://britishexpats.com/wiki/Categ...ada_Challenges
https://britishexpats.com/wiki/Fitting_into_Canada
I'm one of those that felt at home here from day 1.. yes I miss UK pubs and castles.. walks on the downs, but you can't have everything! Give it a little time... you might even grow to love it.. I think the biggest thing is NOT to have expectations... take each day and each experience for what it is.. and don't expect too much from anyone or anything.. when you don't have expectations you don't have disappointments when they aren't met!
Remind yourself of why you came here in the first place....
There's some really good 'articles' in the Wiki on Canada and the challenges of living here: https://britishexpats.com/wiki/Categ...ada_Challenges
https://britishexpats.com/wiki/Fitting_into_Canada
I'm one of those that felt at home here from day 1.. yes I miss UK pubs and castles.. walks on the downs, but you can't have everything! Give it a little time... you might even grow to love it.. I think the biggest thing is NOT to have expectations... take each day and each experience for what it is.. and don't expect too much from anyone or anything.. when you don't have expectations you don't have disappointments when they aren't met!
Remind yourself of why you came here in the first place....
Last edited by Siouxie; Apr 6th 2019 at 1:19 am.
Apr 6th 2019, 1:37 am
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Re: So when does it "get better"
I can not think of 1 thing that I could not do in the UK that Canada / Ontario holds a speciality on...
(Skiing, Mountain climbing, Hillwalking, Hunting, Fishing, Camping, Mountain Biking, Kayaking, Canoeing, Ice Skating etc etc ....) even the beloved 'TIMMIES' average coffee is now available in Glasgow.
(Skiing, Mountain climbing, Hillwalking, Hunting, Fishing, Camping, Mountain Biking, Kayaking, Canoeing, Ice Skating etc etc ....) even the beloved 'TIMMIES' average coffee is now available in Glasgow.
Apr 6th 2019, 1:50 am
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Re: So when does it "get better"
I can not think of 1 thing that I could not do in the UK that Canada / Ontario holds a speciality on...
(Skiing, Mountain climbing, Hillwalking, Hunting, Fishing, Camping, Mountain Biking, Kayaking, Canoeing, Ice Skating etc etc ....) even the beloved 'TIMMIES' average coffee is now available in Glasgow. ....
(Skiing, Mountain climbing, Hillwalking, Hunting, Fishing, Camping, Mountain Biking, Kayaking, Canoeing, Ice Skating etc etc ....) even the beloved 'TIMMIES' average coffee is now available in Glasgow. ....
Apr 6th 2019, 2:59 am
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Re: So when does it "get better"
I can not think of 1 thing that I could not do in the UK that Canada / Ontario holds a speciality on...
(Skiing, Mountain climbing, Hillwalking, Hunting, Fishing, Camping, Mountain Biking, Kayaking, Canoeing, Ice Skating etc etc ....) even the beloved 'TIMMIES' average coffee is now available in Glasgow.
(Skiing, Mountain climbing, Hillwalking, Hunting, Fishing, Camping, Mountain Biking, Kayaking, Canoeing, Ice Skating etc etc ....) even the beloved 'TIMMIES' average coffee is now available in Glasgow.
Most of those activities would also be cheaper here, not to count the cost of getting to them..
Try travelling around, seeing more of Canada than the GTA region.
If you still feel the same, you HAVE to sit down with your spouse, and, yes, your children, and talk it out with them. You'll only get more and more miserable, and make life harder for them to live with you if you do not do that.
Apr 6th 2019, 5:09 am
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Re: So when does it "get better"
It will take you, if your like me, around 5 years to feel you belong and appreciate what the country offers, but again if you are like me, even after over 52 years you won't ever call it home despite having had a very good life.