Edo

Yeah multiple single person's weddings you can definitely miss. You know that he or she is just not serious.

not2old

My (close to friendly) sister-in-law in the UK died back in June this year & I did not go to the funeral, which folks over the pond gave me $hit for not attending.

Anyone else living overseas at the time that did not go to a family funeral in the UK, if so, the reasons or excuses given for not going other than work?

Novocastrian

\Well, yes,

JamesM

I unfortunately have to sacrifice my vacation for weddings.

However I expect 12 months notice if they want me to attend to budget etc.

I have no weddings next year so I am super chuffed.

Roberto1980

Aye I must be to air my thoughts on an internet forum.

Site rule # no.1 my friend...

MarkG

Yes. I had an uncle I didn't meet until he returned to the UK after he retired; he was in the Navy in the Pacific during WWII, moved to Australia soon afterwards, and didn't come back for forty or fifty years.

I've been to a couple of weddings since I emigrated. That will only get easier; in a few years you won't even need to fly, just rent a drone in the town where they're having the wedding, put on a VR headset, and you'll be there. OK, you'll have to buy your own booze...

the blairs

We had only been in Canada for 6 weeks when a close family friend passed away. I hummed and hawed over whether to fly back for the funeral because of the cost. My mind was made up when I was sitting on my new sofa watching my new tv and i had a realisation of what was actually important in life. So back me and my daughter went (couldn't afford all 4 of us).

I think you need to try and save a little pot of money for things like this that come up. It's a difficult choice but for me it hit me like a brick when i thought of what i had spent moving and rekitting out the new house. Money is not whats important (obviously you need to be able to afford the flights though!)

On a side note...... I gave up Edinburgh chippie sauce

KuroKuro

I actually love the distance. 9 hours isn't too long of a flight to be impossible but also enough that it has to be significantly planned for. I'm definitely looking into getting an airmiles plan for my credit card soon though.

Howefamily

After all the effort that you would have goine through to get said PR I feel a little stunned that you are considering staying where you are until 2017 for a wedding day.Do you really want to emigrate? Thats what springs to mind for me. We have been here 4.5 years and between us been back 4 times (separately as just didnt want to spend money on that trip as a family) for people dying, sick and one 80 year old birthday party. Its part of emigration, sometimes you can go and sometimes you just cant.

BristolUK

And then while you're hanging on, someone else gets married or pregnant and there's pressure to put it off again or "but you did it for her/him..."

BEVS

What you do is emigrate as planned. That is what you do. Emigration plans take time , money and effort and unless you have kept this super secret squirrel , then all your family and friends know of your plans to do this thing.

You sit down with your BIL and have a friendly, open and honest chat about this and then offer them to come visit with you in Canada as part of a honeymoon . Take time to set up skype or something for that day. Make some fun connections to be there in spirit for the stag night via a huge cardboard cutout or similar. Makes those types of connections to be in on their act for those days BUT above all emigrate as planned. You never know, come the time you may have funds to make a quick flight back. You are only in Canada after all. Not in NewZealand which is a two day journey .

bats

Shirley if you liked your friends and family that much you wouldn't be emigrating anyway

plasticcanuck

[QUOTE=bats;11787398]Shirley if you liked your friends and family that much you wouldn't be emigrating anyway[/QUOTE

And don't call me Shirley?

bats

[QUOTE=plasticcanuck;11787405] Haha! gotta love autocorrect. I really should proofread before I post.

Stinkypup

[QUOTE=bats;11787409] I thought that was a deliberate spelling by you- I have to admit I did think of Airplane when I read that too.. You should have blagged it!