Sacrifices you made when emigrating?.. Difficult choices...
Nov 2nd 2015, 11:41 pm
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Re: Sacrifices you made when emigrating?.. Difficult choices...
Suck it up Buttercup.
It's just one day during which you will probably spend a couple of minutes with them just move on already, unless you really don't want to which might explain all your questions
It's just one day during which you will probably spend a couple of minutes with them just move on already, unless you really don't want to which might explain all your questions
Nov 3rd 2015, 2:48 am
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Nov 3rd 2015, 5:38 am
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Emigrate AND go to the wedding. Just factor in the costs and if you really want to go, go.
Nov 3rd 2015, 5:47 am
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Re: Sacrifices you made when emigrating?.. Difficult choices...
I have missed weddings, funerals, have nieces and nephews I have not met, or met when they were infants and so on.
I don't have to go to the UK though, just So. California but it's far enough to not be affordable.
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Nov 3rd 2015, 6:06 am
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Re: Sacrifices you made when emigrating?.. Difficult choices...
So emigrate earlier and send your wife back for her brother's wedding on the premise you can't get the time off work or whatever excuse is feasible. Your wife will be pleased to see her sibling get married and you will be fulfilled by missing a wedding you'll hate anyway.
Nov 3rd 2015, 6:08 am
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Nov 3rd 2015, 6:11 am
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Nov 3rd 2015, 6:37 am
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Re: Sacrifices you made when emigrating?.. Difficult choices...
Get one of these British Airways Visa Infinite - RBC Royal Bank (or from another bank) and use it for your moving over and setting up costs - that gets you 50,000 Avios air miles. According to BA website, Toronto to Athens will 'cost' 21,500 Avios each way, so you would just have to pay for any airport taxes etc.
I'm sure there are other deals around that are similar!
I got the idea from the chap who flew Emirates 1st class for $200.
Nov 3rd 2015, 2:13 pm
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There is never the "perfect" time to immigrate. However, the longer you leave it, the less likely it is that you'll do it. There'll always be something going on with one family member or another whether immediate or extended and always some reason or other to postpone the move.
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Nov 3rd 2015, 2:39 pm
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This.Why on earth would you postpone getting on with the rest of your life for a whole year, for the sake of one day? I'd be pretty surprised if the groom would expect you do that if he is indeed a friend.
Procrastinating is the word I'm thinking of.
Nov 3rd 2015, 3:06 pm
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Nov 3rd 2015, 5:19 pm
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Re: Sacrifices you made when emigrating?.. Difficult choices...
So our dilemma is probably a common one with some.
We (my wife and 2 kids, have PR). So Canada is calling anytime we choose. But... We have a decision to make.
My wife's brother (also a close frend of mine) is due to get married in mid 2017. Do we hold off our original plans of emigrating next year and wait till summer 2017 in order to attend this event, or realise this is the unfortunate reality when you decide to emigrate and move away, that you may well upset a few people, including yourself maybe, by not being able to attend every 'special' occasion..
What choices did you have to make? What sacrifices did you make and was it worth it? Are you comfortable in hindsight with the choice you made?
(I'm not expecting someone to tell us what to do obviously, just shooting the sh#t)
We (my wife and 2 kids, have PR). So Canada is calling anytime we choose. But... We have a decision to make.
My wife's brother (also a close frend of mine) is due to get married in mid 2017. Do we hold off our original plans of emigrating next year and wait till summer 2017 in order to attend this event, or realise this is the unfortunate reality when you decide to emigrate and move away, that you may well upset a few people, including yourself maybe, by not being able to attend every 'special' occasion..
What choices did you have to make? What sacrifices did you make and was it worth it? Are you comfortable in hindsight with the choice you made?
(I'm not expecting someone to tell us what to do obviously, just shooting the sh#t)
However for your family, maybe you should move when your wife has passed her RPN exam or at the very least has a date for it, if this allows for the wedding too then that is fortunate.
It is a sacrifice, you are going to miss events. Fortunately we moved when everyone was pretty much done getting married and having kids. We have been invited to a friend's second wedding which we have declined. We are going home for a visit on the 26th December after two years here for people to meet our new little one- our pension is taking the hit for that one!
Nov 3rd 2015, 5:27 pm
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Re: Sacrifices you made when emigrating?.. Difficult choices...
Emigrating means cutting those ties . Of course it is easier now than it was a few generataions back. When my aunts and uncles emigrated to the US, Australia and New Zealand, they did not expect to return to Scotland. Ever. And they did not. Now the comparative cost of air travel makes trips back quite affordable for many.
Nov 3rd 2015, 6:33 pm
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Re: Sacrifices you made when emigrating?.. Difficult choices...
Emigrating means cutting those ties . Of course it is easier now than it was a few generataions back. When my aunts and uncles emigrated to the US, Australia and New Zealand, they did not expect to return to Scotland. Ever. And they did not. Now the comparative cost of air travel makes trips back quite affordable for many.
This. I (well the little wheels) speak to my mum for about an hour total on the phone every fortnight for free, plus there's emails (with lots of photos) and we go back for 2 weeks a year.
It was utterly different when I were a lad.
Nov 3rd 2015, 7:10 pm
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Re: Sacrifices you made when emigrating?.. Difficult choices...
This isn't the 19th century. Moving across an ocean doesn't mean you're gone and never going back. Flights to the UK aren't cheap but neither are they insanely expensive. If you are somewhat flexible as to timing of visits (obviously not the case for a wedding, but generally speaking) and monitor flight deals, you can pounce a good deal when you find one.
I think plasticcanuck's suggestion is the best one. Move now, settle in, and your wife could go back for the wedding while you happily send your regards from afar.
I think plasticcanuck's suggestion is the best one. Move now, settle in, and your wife could go back for the wedding while you happily send your regards from afar.