Reluctantly moving, need advice
Mar 8th 2017, 1:06 am
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Re: Reluctantly moving, need advice
its definitely not as good as the 'real stuff' you get in the UK
Mar 8th 2017, 1:25 am
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Re: Reluctantly moving, need advice
If you want good tea in Canada, buy it from a specialty tea shop, not a supermarket. This is a start: http://www.murchies.com Standard supermarket brands are typically crap in Canada. This can also be applied to cheese, sausages, bread, coffee, etc.
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Mar 8th 2017, 1:26 am
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Mar 8th 2017, 1:32 am
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Re: Reluctantly moving, need advice
Hello
Thank you for all your replies.
We are going from Peterborough, a bit north from Cambridge, and would be moving to Uxbridge.
My partner lives and works in Toronto, and his family lives relatively close to Uxbridge. I have visited several times and the kids have been there once recently. We picked Uxbridge because we both loved the small town look, seemed like a good place to raise a family, it's near his parents and it's not an impossible commute (long, but still doable).
His condo in Toronto is too small for all of us, so we are now in the process of buying a bigger house so we could avoid first renting and then moving again. We have also visited schools and are happy with that side of things.
My partner is aware of how I feel about moving and he has been supportive, even though he does remark that, from all women around, he had to pick the one who isn't that in love with Canada or jumping to move
I'm not sure if I'm having last minute jitters or justified fear, being such a major change. It all feels rather overwhelming and scary. If it was just me, I would be more than fine. But I'm terrified of making such a huge decision that will impact not just me but my kids as well.
Many thanks
Thank you for all your replies.
We are going from Peterborough, a bit north from Cambridge, and would be moving to Uxbridge.
My partner lives and works in Toronto, and his family lives relatively close to Uxbridge. I have visited several times and the kids have been there once recently. We picked Uxbridge because we both loved the small town look, seemed like a good place to raise a family, it's near his parents and it's not an impossible commute (long, but still doable).
His condo in Toronto is too small for all of us, so we are now in the process of buying a bigger house so we could avoid first renting and then moving again. We have also visited schools and are happy with that side of things.
My partner is aware of how I feel about moving and he has been supportive, even though he does remark that, from all women around, he had to pick the one who isn't that in love with Canada or jumping to move
I'm not sure if I'm having last minute jitters or justified fear, being such a major change. It all feels rather overwhelming and scary. If it was just me, I would be more than fine. But I'm terrified of making such a huge decision that will impact not just me but my kids as well.
Many thanks
but it has been fine. Things are different, a bit. I spent a long time cross about how bad the butter is, but I'm (almost) over it now. I agree with whoever said VPN use is fine. Feel free to pm me if I can do anything to help when you get here.The irony of an immigrant complaining about immigration never fails to amuse me. Read any online article about immigration in Canada and you'll find Canadians saying exactly the same about immigrants like yourself.
My observation is that the UK has improved massively over the past 20 years, not least because of the immigrants and multiculturalism that we now have. Although it seems that Brexiteers/the old are determined to ruin that for the rest of us!
As said above, only some immigrants in Canada are selected on a points system, the rest aren't, and they account for far more immigrants that those with the requisite number of points.
My observation is that the UK has improved massively over the past 20 years, not least because of the immigrants and multiculturalism that we now have. Although it seems that Brexiteers/the old are determined to ruin that for the rest of us!
As said above, only some immigrants in Canada are selected on a points system, the rest aren't, and they account for far more immigrants that those with the requisite number of points.
sorry FL) emailed Yorkshire Tea, and they assured me the tea sold here is exactly the same as the blend in the UK.
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Mar 8th 2017, 1:43 am
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Re: Reluctantly moving, need advice
Not that this thread has gone sideways or anything ...we got given this for Christmas...it is unlikely to be touched for another year.. Not my cup of tea 
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Snoop and I just drink coffee
Re: Reluctantly moving, need advice
Mar 8th 2017, 10:24 am
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Re: Reluctantly moving, need advice
My wife went through a similar process when she moved to the UK from the states. For years it drove her mad that all the shops closed at 6 pm. It will also take some ability on your husbands part to hear negative things about his own country, I found it hard to explain to my wife why things were they way they were without getting frustrated, but as he has lived in the UK he should understand a little more what you are going through.
With the Brexit, as several people have pointed out on this thread, things have taken a turn for the worse and we do not feel is the best environment to raise kids.
The town where we (the children and I) live, isn't the best.
He has a better job in Canada than I do over here.
My house here is tiny, and for us to relocate, it would take a while. On my own I cannot ask the bank for a larger mortgage, so it would take quite a while for him to move, get a job and be in a position to help me with that side of things.
We weren't sure I could sponsor him on my salary.
Canada comes across as more open minded which is a plus for us.
I have lived near Stouffville (not too far from Uxbridge) for almost six years now, and would agree that Uxbridge seems like a nice town. Not sure how old your kids are, but I have heard good things about Uxbridge SS. My three were 13, 10 and 8 when we moved here, and have never looked back. Honestly, I'm pretty stressy, and set in my ways but it has been fine. Things are different, a bit. I spent a long time cross about how bad the butter is, but I'm (almost) over it now. I agree with whoever said VPN use is fine. Feel free to pm me if I can do anything to help when you get here.
but it has been fine. Things are different, a bit. I spent a long time cross about how bad the butter is, but I'm (almost) over it now. I agree with whoever said VPN use is fine. Feel free to pm me if I can do anything to help when you get here.My kids are 13, 9 and 4. Thank you for your offer
Mar 8th 2017, 11:01 am
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Re: Reluctantly moving, need advice
I agree that orange pekoe is mild. I don't put milk in my tea and that one is nice to drink black. Makes a change from green tea.
Mar 8th 2017, 11:14 am
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Re: Reluctantly moving, need advice
I've not been that sure about this move, ever since we started talking about it. I love the UK. It's my home, it's what i know and I honestly hate changes. But, realistically, it made more sense for us to move there than for him to move here, so I reluctantly agreed.
I want to do this for the right reasons, but I keep on finding out about details that seem worse than in the UK.
My partner is aware of how I feel about moving and he has been supportive, even though he does remark that, from all women around, he had to pick the one who isn't that in love with Canada or jumping to move
We have considered both, in the end opted out for Canada for several reasons:
With the Brexit, as several people have pointed out on this thread, things have taken a turn for the worse and we do not feel is the best environment to raise kids.
The town where we (the children and I) live, isn't the best. He has a better job in Canada than I do over here.
With the Brexit, as several people have pointed out on this thread, things have taken a turn for the worse and we do not feel is the best environment to raise kids.
The town where we (the children and I) live, isn't the best. He has a better job in Canada than I do over here.
I'm not sure if I'm having last minute jitters or justified fear, being such a major change. It all feels rather overwhelming and scary. If it was just me, I would be more than fine. But I'm terrified of making such a huge decision that will impact not just me but my kids as well.
Like the millions every year that move from their homeland to a new country, there is no such thing as a 'perfect situation or that it will be easy'
Imagine all the options that you have today compared to what it must have been like for say ('a now Grandmother') a young war bride with children (from any country in Europe) coming to Canada 'by ship' after the second world war to be with their husband. No second guessing, no turning back in those days.
None of the skype, internet, facebook or mobile phones, and likely without the ability to 'call home' for the reason not many folks had phones back then. A total disconnect with only by 'writing letters back home' to those that miss you
IMO, you are starting off on the wrong foot, possibly looking for the negatives or an excuse not to come to Canada, 'could it just be nerves of the change & uncertainty' or, maybe you are coming to Canada for the wrong reasons, likely when you get here you will 'try to find fault in everything or anything' is my guess.
I have no time for whinging Poms
From your posts you do not appear to be enthusiastic about the move, the adventure, all that is ahead of you could be the best thing that ever happened in your life.
You married the Canadian, told him that you would come to Canada, now airing your feelings on a forum. Does he know your feelings about this as much as we do?
Come on over, give it a go, the kids will be just fine, do not compare Canada to the UK, give it at least 5 years - then if it's not for you, do whatever it takes to find happiness
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Mar 8th 2017, 12:13 pm
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Re: Reluctantly moving, need advice
I think when people meet, regardless of whether you are a Brit meeting a Brit, or a Brit meeting a Canadian, in the UK... you dont decide on the outset if you would move to their homeland. You meet them, you fall in love, you start a life. Its more emotive than anything else.
I am sure the OP didnt intend to be that woman that married a Canadian who wouldnt entertain a move. I am sure the OP is a person who met someone who fell in love.
I am also feeling, from this thread, that the OP is not a fan of moving to Canada, shes happy with her life in the UK but before making the enormous move to another country, shes doing what all humans need in life, shes seeking support. Shes also looking to see if her fears are justifiable or non-issues... This is a big deal to her. Lets not forget that.
I am sure the OP didnt intend to be that woman that married a Canadian who wouldnt entertain a move. I am sure the OP is a person who met someone who fell in love.
I am also feeling, from this thread, that the OP is not a fan of moving to Canada, shes happy with her life in the UK but before making the enormous move to another country, shes doing what all humans need in life, shes seeking support. Shes also looking to see if her fears are justifiable or non-issues... This is a big deal to her. Lets not forget that.
Mar 8th 2017, 12:27 pm
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Re: Reluctantly moving, need advice
I am also feeling, from this thread, that the OP is not a fan of moving to Canada, shes happy with her life in the UK but before making the enormous move to another country, shes doing what all humans need in life, shes seeking support. Shes also looking to see if her fears are justifiable or non-issues... This is a big deal to her. Lets not forget that.
The OP comes to Canada, settles in just fine, the kids are OK.
Fast forward 25 years, life has been good to the OP who is now about 60 years old, a Grandmother her own children have done just fine.
Over the years in Canada the OP has been 'back home' on holidays, her relatives have visited
Then one day out of the blue she wakes up with a deep desire to 'move back home to the UK'
OMG, should I, shouldn't I, what will it be like, I know nobody, my parents have passed, the friends that I had all disbursed.
The UK will be foreign ground
As we've seen on BE, there are the 'wannabee' immigrants that cannot wait to get here, the curb kickers, those that have the fear or uncertainty of coming to Canada (unless they are refugees) to the 'going back home'
Mar 8th 2017, 12:30 pm
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Re: Reluctantly moving, need advice
For the moment, picture this
The OP comes to Canada, settles in just fine, the kids are OK.
Fast forward 25 years, life has been good to the OP who is now about 60 years old, a Grandmother her own children have done just fine.
Over the years in Canada the OP has been 'back home' on holidays, her relatives have visited
Then one day out of the blue she wakes up with a deep desire to 'move back home to the UK'
OMG, should I, shouldn't I, what will it be like, I know nobody, my parents have passed, the friends that I had all disbursed.
The UK will be foreign ground
As we've seen on BE, there are the 'wannabee' immigrants that cannot wait to get here, the curb kickers, those that have the fear or uncertainty of coming to Canada (unless they are refugees) to the 'going back home'
The OP comes to Canada, settles in just fine, the kids are OK.
Fast forward 25 years, life has been good to the OP who is now about 60 years old, a Grandmother her own children have done just fine.
Over the years in Canada the OP has been 'back home' on holidays, her relatives have visited
Then one day out of the blue she wakes up with a deep desire to 'move back home to the UK'
OMG, should I, shouldn't I, what will it be like, I know nobody, my parents have passed, the friends that I had all disbursed.
The UK will be foreign ground
As we've seen on BE, there are the 'wannabee' immigrants that cannot wait to get here, the curb kickers, those that have the fear or uncertainty of coming to Canada (unless they are refugees) to the 'going back home'
Mar 8th 2017, 12:50 pm
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