OMG!! Have finally told my parents we're emigrating!!
Apr 7th 2011, 10:38 pm
#1
Here for now
Thread Starter
Joined: Apr 2010
Location: Russell, ON
Posts: 156
OMG!! Have finally told my parents we're emigrating!!
Well, today I finally managed to break the news that we are emigrating! Despite all my months (years) of worrying, today was actually the right time as I got a very positive response!! As we got PPR last week, I was forced into saying something. Last night, I was re-reading the thread I started nearly a year ago (!) and one started by LinsyPinsy in Jan of last year - all full of great advice - unfortunately I didn't feel ready to mention it until today.
The main problem was that 18 months ago - about the time I wanted to break the news - my mum was diagnosed with cancer. Although we were going into a very stressful time with the process (son was originally declared inadmissible due to Asperger's), it was definitely not the time to tell of our plans.
Fast forward 18 months - son is allowed in, process complete, mum has had great recovery (keyhole surgery to remove the tumour and no further treatment necessary) and, although she has always been a very positive person, she now really feels that you should make the most of life as you only get one go at it!
Although she won't fly, I am hoping to persuade her to eventually sail over to see us.
I went over to see them and dad was out. Eventually, I managed to blurt out that we were going to move back to Canada and mum just said " emigrate?" "Well...yes." She then said she has been half-expecting it as we always talk about Canada and that when we lived there before, it really suited us all and we were obviously very happy. I then talked her through the whole process (poor woman) with all its ups and downs. Just as I'd finished, dad walked in - so I had to go through it all again! Luckily I had thought to take with me the file of info I had compiled when responding to our "Excessive Demand" Letter - dad was impressed!!
Despite being 46 and having my own family, I do still care about my parents' opinions of me and really wanted their approval. I have it. I am so happy tonight
I am so grateful to everyone who contributed to the threads mentioned earlier as all the comments really helped me! Good luck to any of you still trying to break the news to your families - you never know, they just might surprise you!
Sorry for the long post - and hope this all makes sense - I can finally really celebrate our PPR!!!
The main problem was that 18 months ago - about the time I wanted to break the news - my mum was diagnosed with cancer. Although we were going into a very stressful time with the process (son was originally declared inadmissible due to Asperger's), it was definitely not the time to tell of our plans.
Fast forward 18 months - son is allowed in, process complete, mum has had great recovery (keyhole surgery to remove the tumour and no further treatment necessary) and, although she has always been a very positive person, she now really feels that you should make the most of life as you only get one go at it!
Although she won't fly, I am hoping to persuade her to eventually sail over to see us.
I went over to see them and dad was out. Eventually, I managed to blurt out that we were going to move back to Canada and mum just said " emigrate?" "Well...yes." She then said she has been half-expecting it as we always talk about Canada and that when we lived there before, it really suited us all and we were obviously very happy. I then talked her through the whole process (poor woman) with all its ups and downs. Just as I'd finished, dad walked in - so I had to go through it all again! Luckily I had thought to take with me the file of info I had compiled when responding to our "Excessive Demand" Letter - dad was impressed!!
Despite being 46 and having my own family, I do still care about my parents' opinions of me and really wanted their approval. I have it. I am so happy tonight
I am so grateful to everyone who contributed to the threads mentioned earlier as all the comments really helped me! Good luck to any of you still trying to break the news to your families - you never know, they just might surprise you!
Sorry for the long post - and hope this all makes sense - I can finally really celebrate our PPR!!!
Apr 7th 2011, 11:23 pm
#2
Forum Regular
Joined: Apr 2010
Location: Downtown Vancouver
Posts: 155
Re: OMG!! Have finally told my parents we're emigrating!!
Well, today I finally managed to break the news that we are emigrating! Despite all my months (years) of worrying, today was actually the right time as I got a very positive response!! As we got PPR last week, I was forced into saying something. Last night, I was re-reading the thread I started nearly a year ago (!) and one started by LinsyPinsy in Jan of last year - all full of great advice - unfortunately I didn't feel ready to mention it until today.
The main problem was that 18 months ago - about the time I wanted to break the news - my mum was diagnosed with cancer. Although we were going into a very stressful time with the process (son was originally declared inadmissible due to Asperger's), it was definitely not the time to tell of our plans.
Fast forward 18 months - son is allowed in, process complete, mum has had great recovery (keyhole surgery to remove the tumour and no further treatment necessary) and, although she has always been a very positive person, she now really feels that you should make the most of life as you only get one go at it!
Although she won't fly, I am hoping to persuade her to eventually sail over to see us.
I went over to see them and dad was out. Eventually, I managed to blurt out that we were going to move back to Canada and mum just said " emigrate?" "Well...yes." She then said she has been half-expecting it as we always talk about Canada and that when we lived there before, it really suited us all and we were obviously very happy. I then talked her through the whole process (poor woman) with all its ups and downs. Just as I'd finished, dad walked in - so I had to go through it all again! Luckily I had thought to take with me the file of info I had compiled when responding to our "Excessive Demand" Letter - dad was impressed!!
Despite being 46 and having my own family, I do still care about my parents' opinions of me and really wanted their approval. I have it. I am so happy tonight
I am so grateful to everyone who contributed to the threads mentioned earlier as all the comments really helped me! Good luck to any of you still trying to break the news to your families - you never know, they just might surprise you!
Sorry for the long post - and hope this all makes sense - I can finally really celebrate our PPR!!!
The main problem was that 18 months ago - about the time I wanted to break the news - my mum was diagnosed with cancer. Although we were going into a very stressful time with the process (son was originally declared inadmissible due to Asperger's), it was definitely not the time to tell of our plans.
Fast forward 18 months - son is allowed in, process complete, mum has had great recovery (keyhole surgery to remove the tumour and no further treatment necessary) and, although she has always been a very positive person, she now really feels that you should make the most of life as you only get one go at it!
Although she won't fly, I am hoping to persuade her to eventually sail over to see us.
I went over to see them and dad was out. Eventually, I managed to blurt out that we were going to move back to Canada and mum just said " emigrate?" "Well...yes." She then said she has been half-expecting it as we always talk about Canada and that when we lived there before, it really suited us all and we were obviously very happy. I then talked her through the whole process (poor woman) with all its ups and downs. Just as I'd finished, dad walked in - so I had to go through it all again! Luckily I had thought to take with me the file of info I had compiled when responding to our "Excessive Demand" Letter - dad was impressed!!
Despite being 46 and having my own family, I do still care about my parents' opinions of me and really wanted their approval. I have it. I am so happy tonight
I am so grateful to everyone who contributed to the threads mentioned earlier as all the comments really helped me! Good luck to any of you still trying to break the news to your families - you never know, they just might surprise you!
Sorry for the long post - and hope this all makes sense - I can finally really celebrate our PPR!!!
Apr 7th 2011, 11:54 pm
#3
BE Enthusiast
Joined: Feb 2008
Location: Okotoks Albetra
Posts: 459
Re: OMG!! Have finally told my parents we're emigrating!!
Well done you, telling your loved ones is never easy.
Where in Surrey are you from ? I worked in Farnham
Where in Surrey are you from ? I worked in Farnham
Apr 8th 2011, 2:46 am
#4
Purpe80 in another life..
Joined: Apr 2010
Posts: 665
Re: OMG!! Have finally told my parents we're emigrating!!
Congratulations Skimom and family, and I hope you have a great start in Canada!
Apr 8th 2011, 6:55 am
#5
BE Forum Addict
Joined: Mar 2007
Location: Near Colchester, Essex hoping to go to Port Moody, BC
Posts: 1,007
Re: OMG!! Have finally told my parents we're emigrating!!
Wonderful. That must be a load off your mind.
Apr 8th 2011, 9:32 am
#6
Forum Regular
Joined: Mar 2010
Posts: 63
Re: OMG!! Have finally told my parents we're emigrating!!
You never grow out of being a child so is difficult to tell parents. Well done you. Hope you have a great life in Canada
Apr 8th 2011, 9:37 am
#7
Forum Regular
Joined: Jan 2011
Posts: 46
Re: OMG!! Have finally told my parents we're emigrating!!
Hi
Congratulations! I bet you feel much better now. I told my parents 5 years ago when we went to an emigration fair! I'm similar age to you and understand it's never easy at any age, leaving your parents. We are flying out in May..just waiting for house completion date (already left job and got rid of furniture this morning). And my Dad was diagnosed with cancer a few years ago. He will need ongoing treatment, but it's under control for now.
Though they have time to get used to it, it still is hard. They have known since February when we sold the house that we would be going very soon. As it gets closer I get more anxious about saying our goodbyes and though my Dad won't fly, we will be visiting when we can and Skyping lots too.
When are you flying? Where to?
Good luck and keep me posted
NikiG
Congratulations! I bet you feel much better now. I told my parents 5 years ago when we went to an emigration fair! I'm similar age to you and understand it's never easy at any age, leaving your parents. We are flying out in May..just waiting for house completion date (already left job and got rid of furniture this morning). And my Dad was diagnosed with cancer a few years ago. He will need ongoing treatment, but it's under control for now.
Though they have time to get used to it, it still is hard. They have known since February when we sold the house that we would be going very soon. As it gets closer I get more anxious about saying our goodbyes and though my Dad won't fly, we will be visiting when we can and Skyping lots too.
When are you flying? Where to?
Good luck and keep me posted
NikiG
Apr 8th 2011, 4:00 pm
#8
BE Enthusiast
Joined: Jan 2010
Location: Maple Ridge BC
Posts: 309
Re: OMG!! Have finally told my parents we're emigrating!!
Fantastic news, it is such a relief when you have your parents approval, like you say, it doesn't matter how old you are.
All the very best to you.
All the very best to you.
Apr 8th 2011, 6:27 pm
#10
.
Joined: Mar 2010
Location: Cochrane, Alberta
Posts: 868
Re: OMG!! Have finally told my parents we're emigrating!!
Glad it went so well - must feel like a huge weight has been lifted.
Apr 8th 2011, 7:45 pm
#11
Every day's a school day
Joined: Jan 2005
Location: Was Calgary back in Edmonton again !!
Posts: 2,667
Apr 8th 2011, 10:43 pm
#12
Here for now
Thread Starter
Joined: Apr 2010
Location: Russell, ON
Posts: 156
Apr 8th 2011, 10:46 pm
#13
Here for now
Thread Starter
Joined: Apr 2010
Location: Russell, ON
Posts: 156
Apr 8th 2011, 10:47 pm
#14
Here for now
Thread Starter
Joined: Apr 2010
Location: Russell, ON
Posts: 156
Re: OMG!! Have finally told my parents we're emigrating!!
Thanks for all you comments! Yes, it was a relief to get our plans out in the open.. I've been so worried about finding the "right time" - and in the end, it all worked out really well.
Apr 8th 2011, 10:54 pm
#15
Here for now
Thread Starter
Joined: Apr 2010
Location: Russell, ON
Posts: 156
Re: OMG!! Have finally told my parents we're emigrating!!
Hi
Congratulations! I bet you feel much better now. I told my parents 5 years ago when we went to an emigration fair! I'm similar age to you and understand it's never easy at any age, leaving your parents. We are flying out in May..just waiting for house completion date (already left job and got rid of furniture this morning). And my Dad was diagnosed with cancer a few years ago. He will need ongoing treatment, but it's under control for now.
Though they have time to get used to it, it still is hard. They have known since February when we sold the house that we would be going very soon. As it gets closer I get more anxious about saying our goodbyes and though my Dad won't fly, we will be visiting when we can and Skyping lots too.
When are you flying? Where to?
Good luck and keep me posted
NikiG
Congratulations! I bet you feel much better now. I told my parents 5 years ago when we went to an emigration fair! I'm similar age to you and understand it's never easy at any age, leaving your parents. We are flying out in May..just waiting for house completion date (already left job and got rid of furniture this morning). And my Dad was diagnosed with cancer a few years ago. He will need ongoing treatment, but it's under control for now.
Though they have time to get used to it, it still is hard. They have known since February when we sold the house that we would be going very soon. As it gets closer I get more anxious about saying our goodbyes and though my Dad won't fly, we will be visiting when we can and Skyping lots too.
When are you flying? Where to?
Good luck and keep me posted
NikiG
We are off to Ottawa, not sure when yet - it all depends on work, selling the house - the usual!! We're going over to land during May half-term. Have just booked the flights so all very excited now!