dawnwynne

Couldn't agree with you more!

Glaswegian

I would add to the list of 'under valued people' all those mothers staying at home looking after their own children.

But back to the question - how would you deal with the expected (by me) high rate of failures in your test?

Mrs G

poeticjustice

First a family would have to attend a workshop (Mommy, Daddy and Me or Mommy & Me depending on the family structure) to gain information. Then I think depending on ones level of knowledge on the test, if they failed I would develop a social program simular to the US Visiting Nurses program. The person would provide info in the home on day day child care, developmental expectations, parent/child communication, learn how to play etc. I develop parenting programs for a living now for a child protection government agency. Except for serious abuse cases I believe it is not that they/we are "bad" parents when we do not parent correctly, we are parents that may lack information.

Purley

The only comments I have on this subject are that I have watched the Nanny show and it seems to me that the Nanny is the only one of the group who seems to realize that the parents are supposed to be in charge. From what I have seen - all the parents and all the children seemed to assume that the kids were the ones calling the shots.

You have to wonder what the children would be like as adults if they continued like that. As I have not lived in England for a long time, I don't know if most English parents are like lots of N. American ones - they have been listening to the bleeding hearts and could not possibly tell their kids that there are things they are not allowed to do! There was one child on the show - maybe 3 or 4 - who constantly called his mother "poo, poo face" good lord - who would let their child get away with that???

poeticjustice

What would you do if your child at 3 or 4 called you poo poo face?

ScyLarc

I can't actually remember this but have been told that i called my mother something far worse than this when i was three I received a slap on the bum and no pudding and i didn't do it again!

Don't think that approach did me any harm what-so-ever, not sure but i think i would probably follow a similar approach with my own child (if i had one!).

babyblue

I am the modern day Mary Poppins!
I dont carry a bag as i have all my goods up my sleeve!

I beleive that the children are the future and we need to focus on these little human beings before they take over the world with distruction. :-)

As sad as it is but we read everyday about the rise in crime and violence. Parents are strugling to know how to deal with them and control this frustation.
Even good children are struggling to remain on the right path. My son is 14 and everyday peers are pressuring him to smoke weed and pop pils!
this may have been around when we were kids but is was no where near as bad. I am thankful that my son and I have an open relationship and he does discuss these things with me.
sad but true facts.

I never pretend to be the miracle worker but i know in my heart. that if i can make a difference to even one child then it is all worth it.

Biiiiink

...but there's nothing peculiarly "British" in the desire to do one's best raising your own or other peoples' children. We don't have a nation of well-adjusted youths, anymore than the US or Canada does.

I still maintain these British women are only appearing in these programmes because of their Poppinsesque accent, not because they hold a secret key to successful parenting.

poeticjustice

Ok I answered your question that you asked me twice...do you have a reply regarding my answer???

Glaswegian

Sorry - that was rude of me - but I didnt do it on purpose! I will go back and address it now.

Mrs G

Glaswegian

These are a good idea - is it in place in Canada already (didnt have my kids here so I have no idea what services are available).

My concern is what happens if they fail to grasp the concepts - do we end up with loads of kids in foster care or a never ending educational program? Plus how high do we set a pass mark? In my view that depends on the subject - if the question is "would you let your 18month old play with a circular saw?" and the answer given is "yes" then in my view that one question wrong shows a major lack of judgement (extreme example I know but you get the point). If it is "at what age do you let a child eat a donut?" then its on a different scale and not so serious.

The Nanny 911 show that was on here the other day showed a parent shouting at a four(?) year old to get him to brush his teeth. Two things were wrong with that in my view - she was shouting and she should have been the one brushing his teeth (not the child who would be barely capable). Although having seen the show they had way more serious problems than cavities!

I think my problem lies in what do we do with the parents once we establish a problem. You can only teach so much.

Well done on a useful job.

I just wonder if information is sufficient for some parents........any ideas on what to do if they just dont 'get it'?

Mrs G

dingbat

I think my problem lies in what do we do with the parents once we establish a problem. You can only teach so much.

Well done on a useful job.

I just wonder if information is sufficient for some parents........any ideas on what to do if they just dont 'get it'?

Mrs G[/QUOTE]


They get a visit from me...... :scared:

Iginla

When is this show on?

Glaswegian

But we were talking about early intervention in the teaching of parents. I thought your job brought you into the game when things had already gone badly wrong.

Mrs G

prodigyking

Can I get an "Amen"?!