themajor

I thought that this was about making friends. Hey Ho.

My lower back hurts and so does my right shoulder

scrubbedexpat091

Almost everything goes off topic in the Canada section, always side conversations in most threads.

themajor

The thing is about making friends, is that the ones that find it easy are YOUNG or have a family or are working. Now if you do not fit into those catagories it will be very hard to make friends. You will meet people who will chat to you in the bars/pubs/restaurants but they are not what you call friends.

Good luck

caretaker

A friend is someone who will help you move,
a best friend is someone who will help you move a body.

themajor

I agree and also A true friend is someone who knows all about you warts and all and they still like you.

BEVS

My Mum was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis in her early 30's so I know, albeit 2nd hand , what it is like for a person to suffer enormous debilitating severe joint/bone pain.
A pal's daughter in her early 20's has a vague diagnosis of some form of lupus. With this, it can be very hard to pin it down exactly.
Can you think of anyone in your family with similar? Perhaps a couple of generations back. A grandpaprent . Often these types of issues skip a generation.

I do hope the quacks can pin what this is and if it is an auto-immune issue, which particular type to get you on the right meds with good guidance for the correct physio .

Apologies for off topic .

As you were folks

scrubbedexpat091

My great grandmother on my mom's side had arthritis of some sort, unsure of type or onset.

My dad has mild arthritis, his onset was in his mid 50's and is milder then mine is.

It does run in the family.

I seem to have won the gene pool, but not the good kind. Seems I got all the bad genes, well except hair loss lucked out there so far (most men in the family have balding in their early 30's, so to be in my late 30's almost and still thick hair, pretty good.)

My sister has no health issues that I am aware of, but her son has a slew of them, but really serious ones, mostly related to the heart.Heart issues run on my dad's side, mine are luckily mild and not considered life threatening.

Her son's is potentially life threatening and he has some sort of device implanted to shock the heart, he was born with a hole in his heard, it was patched, but he has electrical issues of some sort.

My guess based on family history, sometime between 60 and 67, I'll drop dead from a massive heart attack, seems to be the way the men go.

However my dad and myself don't smoke nor drink, and first not to smoke and drink, so really we are the test cases to see if we can make it past 67.

My mom's side has longevity, so I could benefit from that. Her dad is 80 and my great grandmother on that side lived into her late 90's.

scilly

I find it rather sobering to realise that I have already lived longer than any member of my immediate family .............. parents, brother, maternal and paternal grandparents.

Heart being the major problem on both sides.

I do however have 3 cousins still alive in OZ who are 86, 88 and 90, children of my Dad's eldest brother. I'm hoping that whatever they inherited has come down to me!

That, plus the medications for high blood pressure and cholesterol that I have to take

scrubbedexpat091

My great grandmother was a walking pharmacy, she was taking so many pills, but still managed into her 90's, but my mom's side has the longevity.

The heart seems to be the trouble maker for early deaths on my dad's side.

Partially discharged

Agree with this. My wife has always lived in Canada and she has a lot of acquaintances and quite a few friends but for many of them she doesn't know a lot about them..i.e if married women and they changed their name at marriage she often doesn't know their previous surname.

My closest friends here without a doubt are usually people not born in Canada. Often ex-pats...we share a common sense of humour, interest in absurd things, interesting places, footie, quirky tv, etc. Joining footie team has helped me meet many like minded people.

Some work related people have transposed into becoming friends..most of them are not born in Canada.

humanist

Agreed, the friends I've made here have been other Brits (obviously), Pakistanis, Serbians, Colombians, Indians, Chinese, Israelis, etc etc. Not many born and bred Canadians!