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Old Apr 10th 2010, 4:53 pm
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...family we have round us here won't or cannot prevent things happening to my children and if there is a likelihood of this being a rarer case in another country then so be it.
I find this thought process unhealthy but i wish you all the best.

Make sure you check out the murder and rape rate per capita between Canada and the UK before you make your final decision because you may be surprised.

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Old Apr 11th 2010, 8:57 am
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I find this thought process unhealthy but i wish you all the best.

Make sure you check out the murder and rape rate per capita between Canada and the UK before you make your final decision because you may be surprised.
Thanks for your best wishes.
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Something I'm surprised no-one has mentioned during this debate is about the merits of the UK lifestyle, standard of living etc versus Canada/other popular emigrant destinations(Oz, NZ etc.) is that there are thousands of people applying from the UK(and Ireland where I live) to emigrate to these places to try for a "better life" which means different things to different people obviously, but on the other hand why aren't there thousands of Kiwi;s, Aussies & Canadians applying to come and live over here? The only aforementioned nationalities that I come across living here are one's who married partners from here, none moved here for a "better life"

something to consider??!.............
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Something I'm surprised no-one has mentioned during this debate is about the merits of the UK lifestyle, standard of living etc versus Canada/other popular emigrant destinations(Oz, NZ etc.) is that there are thousands of people applying from the UK(and Ireland where I live) to emigrate to these places to try for a "better life" which means different things to different people obviously, but on the other hand why aren't there thousands of Kiwi;s, Aussies & Canadians applying to come and live over here? The only aforementioned nationalities that I come across living here are one's who married partners from here, none moved here for a "better life"

something to consider??!.............
Very true...thats something ive mentioned from time to time.....maybe its just the British thing...to want to emmigrate? try a new life?? I have a Canadian friend that lives in London UK, but this is only a temporary thing for 2 or 3 years...he had a good job offer there, but he plans to move back to Canada. As you say I dont know many aussies kiwis Canadians Americans etc that would move to the UK. The only immigrants the UK gets are from the more poorer and/or unstable countries.
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As you say I dont know many aussies kiwis Canadians Americans etc that would move to the UK. The only immigrants the UK gets are from the more poorer and/or unstable countries.
1. I don't believe I ever had a dentist in the UK who wasn't an intinerant Australian. Earl's Court and Putney continue to crawl with Australians.

2. It's difficult to emigrate to the UK, much more so than it is to Canada. That must discourage many people from applying.
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Thanks for all your replies. We are going over on a reccie trip in august and i'm sure that will what makes the decision. We have 2 children and we want the same as most parents the best for our kids, which for me the UK doesn't give them. I can almost predict that i am going to love it and if its gives the kids a small amount of the freedom that we had as kids then that will be it. Once my mind is set then perhaps i won't feel as bad for going cause after all if its a better life for us all esp the kids then thats what i have to focus on.

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Hi,wow I cant believe you live in Wolverhampton !! We have been in Canada over a year now and I had to leave my mum and dad behind and they live in wolverhampton and my sister in Wombourne !!
My husband was offered a job here and I was very reluctant to make the move and leave people behind it was so hard and goodbyes are never easy but saying that it has been the best thing we have ever done and my daughters love it and would never want to go back to UK !!!
I have been back twice now and will be going back to see my parents in July and they are coming to us in 3 weeks and then back to us for xmas
I wish you lots of luck with your decision making
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Hi,wow I cant believe you live in Wolverhampton !! We have been in Canada over a year now and I had to leave my mum and dad behind and they live in wolverhampton and my sister in Wombourne !!
My husband was offered a job here and I was very reluctant to make the move and leave people behind it was so hard and goodbyes are never easy but saying that it has been the best thing we have ever done and my daughters love it and would never want to go back to UK !!!
I have been back twice now and will be going back to see my parents in July and they are coming to us in 3 weeks and then back to us for xmas
I wish you lots of luck with your decision making
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Hi

I just wanted to ask you about your move, I see you have been here a year. We moved to Arnprior, Ontario just over a week ago and so far it has been good my children are in a school and have been playing out the front with kids really enjoying themselves. My husband is at work which leaves me, I know its early days but I'm finding it quite hard to decide whether it was a good move or not (again I know its too early to say). I keep reading what my friends have been up to at home and feel like I've completely left my support network. Missing family too. Anyway I suppose my question is, was this something that you felt early on and then got through to where you are know or did you feel settled straight away?

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I keep reading what my friends have been up to at home and feel like I've completely left my support network.
I guess thats a downside of facebook / twitter etc. In years gone by you would have no option but to move on and immerse yourself in your "new life" and local community, rather than checking on your old friends as the technology allows now.

I keep in touch with old friends by phone now and then of course, but I came here pre facebook and I think Im happy here because I made the decision early on to do all I could to immerse myself in life here as much as I could. Of course getting out through work or dragging kids around makes that easier. It does take time to feel settled and accepted though, small towns can be cliquey, church, service club, business connections etc all seem to play a part.
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[QUOTE=dbd33;8484322]"We have to take Canadian history for another year? They don't even have any history" QUOTE]

Having visited Canada two times already, and on my way to a long stay as a PR, I have to say that this statement is extremely unfair. History and historical landmarks are pretty much everywhere if you visit Toronto, Kingston, Ottawa or Ontario/Quebec in general(only places I've been to).

Sure, one could have the impression that history needs to go further than the 1700s, but even then a visit at the Museum of Civilisations in Gatineau will change many people's mind I hope. This vast country went through so much in two centuries that it makes for many fascinating tales!

I was also extremely impressed by the care Canadians have for "old" architecture/buildings from the 19th/early 20th century.
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I just wanted to ask you about your move, I see you have been here a year. We moved to Arnprior, Ontario just over a week ago and so far it has been good my children are in a school and have been playing out the front with kids really enjoying themselves. My husband is at work which leaves me, I know its early days but I'm finding it quite hard to decide whether it was a good move or not (again I know its too early to say). I keep reading what my friends have been up to at home and feel like I've completely left my support network. Missing family too. Anyway I suppose my question is, was this something that you felt early on and then got through to where you are know or did you feel settled straight away?

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Hi Janet,
I had a really rough couple of months when we first arrived and in the end my husband said we would have to go back as I wasn't settling !!! This shocked me really as he was prepared to give everything up here and go back because of me ! I then decided that he wasn't making me stay here and I decided to make a go of it ,I havent looked back since I mean what is there to go back to apart from family !! We have a much better quality of life here ,my husband loves his job and the girls love their schools and friends .We love the weather ,have tried skiing and skating and much more
I didnt work at first as my priority was to settle the children and find my feet but now I do supply work at a local daycare which suits me fine as I can then have the time free when my family come to visit.I have made friends at work and I am getting to know my neighbours but it is difficult at first I know what you are going throughI know before I started work I would have more time to think about things and feel homesick !! My parents come to visit and I go back to see them ,they now realize that we did make the right move and are glad to see us happy.
My advice to you is keep smiling and you will get through it ,it is well worth it
If you have any more questions feel free to ask me I will be glad to help
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Having visited Canada two times already, and on my way to a long stay as a PR, I have to say that this statement is extremely unfair. History and historical landmarks are pretty much everywhere if you visit Toronto, Kingston, Ottawa or Ontario/Quebec in general(only places I've been to).

Sure, one could have the impression that history needs to go further than the 1700s, but even then a visit at the Museum of Civilisations in Gatineau will change many people's mind I hope. This vast country went through so much in two centuries that it makes for many fascinating tales!

I was also extremely impressed by the care Canadians have for "old" architecture/buildings from the 19th/early 20th century.

Are you having us on?
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I was also extremely impressed by the care Canadians have for "old" architecture/buildings from the 19th/early 20th century.
You were, guess I was out of the country that day. Anything that gets in the way of progress gets knocked down, unless the First Nations lay claim to it (that is unless they want to build a casino or a shopping mall).
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Hi,wow I cant believe you live in Wolverhampton !! We have been in Canada over a year now and I had to leave my mum and dad behind and they live in wolverhampton and my sister in Wombourne !!
My husband was offered a job here and I was very reluctant to make the move and leave people behind it was so hard and goodbyes are never easy but saying that it has been the best thing we have ever done and my daughters love it and would never want to go back to UK !!!
I have been back twice now and will be going back to see my parents in July and they are coming to us in 3 weeks and then back to us for xmas
I wish you lots of luck with your decision making
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Hi Janet, Janine...

I wasnt too far away too! I lived in Kinver and had to leave my sister in Brierley Hill! Im glad you think you have made the right move Janine.....it is very difficult at first, especially when you are trying to find employment, the being away from family and close friends is tough, I make a point of keeping in touch regulary, but to I think its important to imerse yourself in your new life, I dont believe in facebook (think its an invasion of privacy) and neither do many of my close friends, so peeking to see what theyre up to all the time isnt an issue, I think these social networking sites do more harm than good.

Its nice that your parents are coming over to see you too, I think having visitors in your new home is an important step to make you feel settled....and for them to see you in your new life. I was hoping I would be getting some visitors soon, but I think the weak pound and strong Canadian dollar is a big discouraging factor....hope that changes soon. Altho im not holding my breath...


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I guess thats a downside of facebook / twitter etc. In years gone by you would have no option but to move on and immerse yourself in your "new life" and local community, rather than checking on your old friends as the technology allows now.

... and I think Im happy here because I made the decision early on to do all I could to immerse myself in life here as much as I could. Of course getting out through work or dragging kids around makes that easier ...
I agree with this.

I also have to say that I am very glad this site was not around before and soon after our move. There are many helpful, and amusing, posters here. There is also a persistent minority who post complete garbage about the Vancouver area and Canada in general. Fortunately, it is easy to tell the difference these days.
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Hi Janet,
I had a really rough couple of months when we first arrived and in the end my husband said we would have to go back as I wasn't settling !!! This shocked me really as he was prepared to give everything up here and go back because of me ! I then decided that he wasn't making me stay here and I decided to make a go of it ,I havent looked back since I mean what is there to go back to apart from family !! We have a much better quality of life here ,my husband loves his job and the girls love their schools and friends .We love the weather ,have tried skiing and skating and much more
I didnt work at first as my priority was to settle the children and find my feet but now I do supply work at a local daycare which suits me fine as I can then have the time free when my family come to visit.I have made friends at work and I am getting to know my neighbours but it is difficult at first I know what you are going throughI know before I started work I would have more time to think about things and feel homesick !! My parents come to visit and I go back to see them ,they now realize that we did make the right move and are glad to see us happy.
My advice to you is keep smiling and you will get through it ,it is well worth it
If you have any more questions feel free to ask me I will be glad to help
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hi, we are also in Oakville (i hear more brit accents here than at home!) where in Oakville are u? We are by third line and west oak trails. We have a small nice group of expats that do lots of stuff together and have a much needed girls night out every now and again. If you ever feel the need for some new conversation etc, feel free to pm me

As to the OP. It does take time to settle - we went (are still going through it now). You need to see your new life for what it is and the reasons you went out in the 1st place.

keep trying, its such a different place to the Uk and both have their pos and negs.
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